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Should I be okay with my boyfriend watching porn, looking at other girls assets, liking half naked pictures of females on social media, etc?

Should I be okay with my boyfriend watching porn, looking at other girls assets, liking half naked pictures of females on social media, etc.?
Should I be okay with my boyfriend watching porn, looking at other girls assets, liking half naked pictures of females on social media, etc.?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Wow. Perspective. Guys are visual creatures. We can't help but look at pictures of women, less clothes the better. If it is out of control if he seems to be doing that too much rather than spending time with you then that is a problem.
    But you can't criticize a guy for looking. We all do that.
    I would say quantity is the key thing here.
    Him looking at pictures of other women is NO reflection on you. Strangely enough it does not mean anything like that. OF course if this is an addiction and you can tell that your relationship is being affected coming from him not you, that is a problem.

    • Don’t normalize degeneracy just because you were the product of progressive social engineering of the 1960s. If a man truly loves a woman he will respect her wishes and refrain from looking. If he truly, truly loves her then he will stop looking of his own accord because he does not want to see anyone else. Nobody forces a man to look. He always has a choice. Granted, I think freaking out over the Instagram thing is a bit of an overreaction.

    • @The_Underground_Man Right... Progressive social engineering of the 60's? You never look at another woman whether it is a picture or in person?

    • Oh I always do except I can because I am not a married man. I also acknowledge that I could always stop at anytime if I ever wanted to - although it would be difficult - and that someday I am going to stop out of my own accord when I fall in love with the woman who will be my wife.

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  • Forgive me if I sound harsh but you should not make your boyfriend cater for your insecurities. Why do you continue to stick with him if you're not comfortable with yourself or him checking out women with larger breasts even if he's not trying it on with them or cheating with them?
    To be blunt, I don't have much in the way of sympathy for someone who's not comfortable in their own skin and subjects them to being in a relationship where your boyfriend affirms your insecurity.

    • He made me this way with past problems we’ve had. I’m still with him because I see more to him than these issues that we have. But yeah, I don’t like that he checks other females out. But also, how is it fair that I “shouldn’t have a problem with him checking females out” but he can have a problem with guys checking me out. How come I can’t dress up and have people look at me and build my confidence up but he can look at females with their tits and butts hanging out, and later go online and look up naked busty women or big ass females? How is mine wrong, and there is nothing wrong with what he’s doing?

    • Don't get me wrong, he's definitely playing double standards. It's just my opinion but I do question whether you're suited to being with him if you're so insecure. It comes across as some form of masochism.

Most Helpful Girls

  • So long as he doesn't mind you doing it.
    I personally wouldn't like it but I can't say I'm not guilty of watching porn while in a relationship lol

    I don't know what advice I can give you, but if I were speaking to him I would tell him to be more discrete about it. And to not get mad if you did the same thing, or else he'd be a hypocrite.

    • We’ve tried watching porn together because a friend suggested we try that. I didn’t like it. I felt as if he was more into the video than he was into me. He also didn’t last as long while we watched porn together, vs when we never did.

    • Eh, no. Watching porn together is just awkward. And him being so open about his attraction to other females just seems unnatural. Your boyfriend almost reminds me of my ex. The only thing I can suggest is if you're not happy then you could always find a way out. If it's really causing you this much stress that his attention is focused elsewhere, which I would feel the same if I were in your shoes, then I think leaving is the best option. When two people enter a relationship, it's supposed to be for both of them. If only one person is happy while the other is not then that's not a relationship. Remember, your feelings matter. And putting yourself through this mental torture isn't healthy. And if he cared about how badly this is affecting you he would stop, which he has not. And I think putting someone through that because of selfishness is pretty fucked up.

    • Darling, take my advice. You're too young to feel like your whole life is passing by because of one person who's only affecting you negatively. When there's a rotting vegetable in your house you take it out because it smells like shit. And your house smells a lot cleaner because of it. There's no reason to keep it in your house. And if you did, it would only be because you felt guilty because it used to be edible and you're hoping it will be again. But the sad truth, is that it won't. Just like your boyfriend won't stop what he's doing and there's no reason to stay.

  • Hmmm... well he should at the very least be discrete and take your feeling into account. He needs to treat you with respect. The liking other girls thing on social media is a no no.

    • He has stopped with the liking of females on social media for a while now, but I wanted to hear someone’s opinion on that, so thank you. He’s been working on taking my feelings into account, but like I told him yesterday, girls who hang their boobs out of their shirts and butts out of their shorts, are never going to go away and they’re going to be everywhere we look. And he tells me that he doesn’t pay attention to them and when I’m around he just scrolls past that stuff, but what if when I’m not around he’s not scrolling past it like as if I’m around.. that’s bothers me..

    • Any successful relationship has good communication followed by mutual respect. I think the respect here might be lacking. Hey all guys watch porn and check out other women... but he should be discrete about it and not rub your face in it.

    • He doesn’t rub it in my face. There’s no being discrete with me.. haha.. I’m such a mess, that I literally do “fbi” type of searches and I have gone through his phone multiple times before which has started issues of this stuff. Then he promised it wouldn’t happen, I then started to have a gut feeling he broke the promise, and one night I went through his phone, and sure enough, he did break the promises. So yeah, he can’t be discrete with me. My mind is incredible, but awful.

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  • Watching Porn shouldn’t be the problem but social media that be problems cause there people you know. Pornstar is just a fantasy.

    • I agree with you 100% on that.

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  • I get your thoughts, but I think you should let a man be a man

    • I know what you're going through with body insecurities about being slim, follow me so I can message you, I would like to help.

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  • If she show of guys in real life, it's not the same as a guy who watch porn, that is usually with a girl who he don't even meet in real life. Also her boyfriend is still with her and not with the porn star in real life, and she should remember that, even if she less feminine looking then them. Also fake boobs have nothing to do with being blessed, because they are not natural, and in real life many guys prefer natural boobs, not because how they looks, but because how they feels.

    • Even bore him I always planned on getting fake boobs for the confidence reasons. I’m lacking in a lot of areas and it’s not fair. I got into a habit of wearing a push up bra and then a sports bra over it because it at least makes me look like I have something on my chest and he joking said to me “I’m cheating the system” but I asked if he’d rather me “cheat the system more” by getting implants and he told me no. It’s technically not his choice. It’s mine. But I love him and respect that if he doesn’t want two jelly blobs in my chest, then I won’t do it. He says that’s fake. It’s not natural. But my boobs are so tiny and it just bothers me that out of every female he could look out, the main ones that catch his eyes is a good big pair of tits, or a big ass. Why can’t another female who is tiny like me catch his eye? That would at least make me feel a little better.. vs always looking at the bigger things, and not making it fair and equal and at least checking out the smaller women too..

    • So he never watch porn with petite women? also you know that boobs and butt is not everything, I mean sure, it's likely not you best selling points, but you can still be pretty. Also I didn't get your point with your height, being short is actually feminine trait.

      tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/PetitePride

    • My height is no problem, it’s just that I’m lacking in areas that make me feel less feminine and attractive. My face looks aren’t always the best, but the fact that assets are what most guys are going for, I feel he could just drop me for someone who is bigger in areas that I’m lacking because my body and what I have to offer isn’t enough. (Already been through that with an ex.)

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  • If he's attentive when he's with you, and treats you well, appreciates you, doesn't compare you with others or wish that you were different than you are, then don't worry about what he does when he's alone. We all have insecurities. That's fine as long as we own them. You are making your insecurities his problem. This breaks relationships. He can tell you he likes you just the way you are, but you have to accept yourself. He can't do that for you.

  • i dont think there is a boyfriend that would not do that, plus that doesn't mean anything, you are still his girl.

    • But he could so easily decide to leave at any point for any reason

    • With a real girl in person yes, but through internet, i highly doubt it. He'll have to be sure, that its worth leaving you, which usually means cheating on you with with more attractive girl. Thats why they cheat and then break up, cuz it may turn into losing both girls. Dont get paranoid its normal.

  • First off, trying to compare how you look vs a pornstar is a loosing game. With surgery and possible drug use, their bodies are going to accentuate the features men supposedly like to see and as a "normal" you may feel like you don't stack up to them. He chose you.

    • But if porn was watched regularly, is he really choosing me or is he really choosing porn stars? And he says he hates fake and doesn’t want me doing anything to my body, even a fat transfer to my boobs, which is still natural because it’s fat. It’s still my fat just placed in a spot that needs some enhancing. But a porn star with fake tits is no problem and can get him off and he’s fine with it

    • Please, please, please do not get some body altering surgery to try and get some guys attention. You will hate yourself for it and resent him for making you feel you had to do it. It's normal to be envious of how others look, but that doesn't mean you rush off and start scheduling surgery. You are beautiful as you are.

  • That's Ur choice to be ok or not okay. But if Ur not ok, he isn't going to stop watching/ doing what he does.

    • I’m not necessarily okay with it.. but it took three attempts to get him to chill on the porn. Because he said my insecurity pushed him away that he started watching more porn and doing less with me, which made things even worse. I didn’t know they were pushing him away so when he decided to watch porn and always turned me down, I felt like my body wasn’t good enough anymore. And that’s when my insecurities got even worse and went down hill from there. I just don’t understand why he has to look down at a females chest or look down at her butt when she turns around. Guys can control themselves. It’s not impossible. But also, why can he continue what he’s doing, but guys are not allowed to look at me? Why can’t I be checked out if there’s no problem with him checking other females out. What if another guy thinks my tiny figure is cute to look at. All he is doing is looking, but my boyfriend doesn’t agree with that. He has stepped in one time behind me so this group of guys at Walmart

    • Wouldn’t check me out. But when I have a problem with him checking a girl out, he gets pissed that I’m uncomfortable with it.

    • Now u raise a valid point. You shud ask him to not interfere if others check u out or u check others out. It's quid pro quo. What he is doing is being two faced ( a hypocrite). Call him out on his hypocrisy.

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  • Sure it's ok

    • So even tho he knows how bad my insecurities are, I should be okay with him checking out other people, watching porn, like other females half naked or booty pics or boobs hanging out?

    • You need to work on your insecurities

    • Unless your insecurities was caused by him

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  • who cares. Variety is the spice of life.. and just for the record I would prefer someone with your body type.. skinny and small boobs.. but that doesn't stop me from looking at other women with different bodytypes..

    • But when it’s so often and any chance that he gets, that’s what makes me feel like my body type isn’t as good as others.

    • well without seeing your body its hard to comment on it so i'm just guessing at this point.. But I would guess that there is nothing wrong with it and he just likes looking at porn.. could mean nothing.. You could always post up a picture for feedback if your worried (or PM me one if your to bashful for everyone to see i guess)

    • I apparently can’t message so I posted four pictures up as a question on my profile 😬

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  • There are guys that wouldn't do that

  • It's a little ballsy of him tbh

    • Please explain

    • Well most the girls I've been w are hard to get and they wouldn't put up w that cause they can get someone else lol most are jealous too which is understandable, so am I

    • We’ve only been dating for 8 months. And I’ve been living with him since a month and half of us dating. I had family issues and left home and he took me under his roof, so we’re pretty close and I truest love him. And I told him I’m not going to leave, but some things are going to need work if we’re going to make this work. So for quite a few months, I’ve been having to put up with this, and he gets annoyed when I bring it up, but I just don’t get why he would “need” to look, or why would he want to anyway? I don’t want my relationship based on other people’s assets when I don’t have any

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  • I don’t think it’s a good behavior 🤔🤔

  • Don't compare yourself to the bitches who act in the Porn movies. They aren't real and the guy who is addicted to Porn isn't a real man ask him to man up and appreciate the real world where women have normal body proportions.

    • I agree with that too. It took three attempts to get him to chill out on the porn. What made it worse was when I’d send him pictures and such for the reason when he’s alone and wants to get off, but he still would choose porn to get off to

    • A guy who jerks of too much to Porn gets addicted to the form of sex which isn't possible in real life. A piece of advice if he doesn't quit Porn ditch him and get a real man.

  • You should feel how you feel. I for one would not do so while in a relationship as I think it is disrespectful. Not that I would not notice a pretty lady walking by, but that is a far cry from seeking out distortions of reality online.

    • I understand noticing a pretty lady walking by, but when it’s any and every pretty lady who has big assets, is what bothers me. He doesn’t take the time to notice a pretty girl with a small or similar figure as me. It’s always the bigger assets that catch his eye. And it seems worse than porn because he could drop me at any time and go for that girl. But I probably wouldn’t feel as uncomfortable if he made it fair and noticed both types of female, large and small. Vs just the larger assets ones.

  • Perhaps

  • Sounds like someone I wouldn’t want my daughter to be with if I was a father. Just saying.

  • There is nothing wrong with checking other women or men out, that is our right as humans, as long as he doesn’t approach them or try to hit on them there really is no harm in it. He may always fantasize about random women but as long as he doesn’t act on it...

  • That’s a hard one I don’t know what your relationship is like. But if that was how he was when you met him you can’t really expect him to change

    • It wasn’t bad in the beginning, unless I was completely unaware it was happening, but as soon as I started finding things I didn’t like, I started noticing it more

    • Strange your very attractive. Please add me

  • Its what men do

    • But out of respect for the girlfriend, and knowing of her insecurities, can’t you stop it for awhile? Or at least until she’s comfortable with herself and accepts what she has? And how come he can look and watch, but no one can look at me? How is that fair.

    • Sorry didn't read it properly. Yes you are right

  • Yes. If you keep him happy at home then no worries.

  • You are mad at him because he watch porn? I think you should relax. That's just a video with unrealistic beauty standards. He can't cheat on you with videos. And don't worry about your look. I saw pictures of you in one of your posts. You are gorgeous. I think every boy would be happy to be with you. But still the best way to solve your problem is if you will tell him all that at the same way you told us. Talk about that and you should find the solution.

    • We’ve been through one to many of these talks. It’s almost and every other day thing. I’m not mad at all that he does these things, it just makes me uncomfortable and feel insecure of myself and he knows it. There are guys, like his friend, who will date a girl because she has big boobs or a big butt. Well, his friend is currently dating this girl who has big boobs and he started dating her for that reason. And he’s always coming up to my boyfriend saying “man. Check out that girl. She has a fat ass.” And I don’t like that. His girlfriend doesn’t care, but I do. I don’t need that kind of stuff in my relationship. But I don’t want him watching porn or looking at other girls because of what I lack. Like he can look and think and imagine, but when it comes to undressing me, there’s barely anything to grasp.. it feels like I don’t have much to offer, which I wish I could, that he has to look elsewhere to even just get a nut out.. and that feels shitty..

  • Honestly, if the ultimatum is open or you put in place. I would say which he use. If he is aware how this affects and doesn't care. I think his priorities need put in check. If he chooses the potn then he doesn't really love you.

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