Should I be upset about this, my boyfriend said he wouldn't be as sexually attracted to me if I lost weight and wasn't thick anymore?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

I’d say yes somewhat. But at the same time he was attracted to you physically speaking, that’s most likely what brought him to pursue you. I understand losing weight would benefit you in so many ways. But that is really what brought him to you to begin w. If you didn’t look the way you looked now he probably would have never approached you. At the same time, I’d think a person would be ok w it after they’ve gotten to know you more on a personal level, not just looks. That’s a tough one. I don’t think it’s controlling, it’s just what he likes. Not the same but if I was in shape then I got fat I could see why my girl wouldn’t be as attracted to me. How long have you two been together?

[Asker]

6 months and i'm not even fat, i lift almost every day im' just a little thick i guess.. not fat most of my mass is muscle

[Opinion Owner]

But are you unhappy w your current physical status? Are you trying to lose weight?

[Asker]

No I’m not

[Opinion Owner]

Ok so I wouldn’t make too much of what he said.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Yes you should.. I think it is deplorable when someone who is supposed to love you doesn't support you in wanting to better yourself.

What you SHOULD have responded with. is:-

You might not, but there would be plenty of other guys who would! That might make him think twice about disrespecting your decisions in future!

[menina]

Yes you should. It's your body, you have the right to decide whether you want to lose weight or not. Besides, it sounds like he only likes you for your body, not for who you are.

[dustybiker2]

Some things best kept to oneself. Shot himself in the nuts on that disclosure.

[molonski2]

Yeah , he is trying to keep you fat and thick so he can control you , I'd be extremely concerned and start working on the program you wish to partake in.

[Asker]

well i do workout more than he does, and he's quite big himself.. I've always worked on my body and actually worked on getting thicker and building muscle along with fat.

[molonski2]

Good on you ! I love the sound of that.. No offence , but this guy is pretty lazy , and he knows others will want you also. Thicker with muscle is great , but not with fat , keep ridding yourself of fat , with diet , and fasting and commitment.

[Arabianhorse]

You women need to understand sonthing very simple , men get attracted sexual to the LOOK of a woman , not to how her food taste like , get that into your one sided brain

[summiter]

He has no business telling you that

[Tim2nice]

You can choose to be upset but that’s what he likes, so you can’t change that. People can’t help what they find attractive. Some men prefer chubby women and aren’t attracted to slim ones.

[elizamichale1]

I am sorry to say but yes

[Nikki1989]

He obviously has control issues. I would be very upset.

[tfan1]

Definitely yes. He prefers…ahem a certain size of woman and if it falls below his criteria then he won’t want you or anyone that is not within that range.

[OtterMan68]

Yes, he's more concerned about his fetishes than your health!

[CubaPirate]

You certainly should be upset 😡

[Anonymous]

Lose the weight and move on to a more intelligent person.