Guys, Should I give up being a virgin?

[Anonymous]

I’m a 20 year old girl. I give up on love because I’ve only gone through heartbreak after heartbreak. They always end up being jerks , I just wish I can normally date like my friends but that never happens. It’s like I want to just create memories with someone and it never works for me but other people get to have moments that become memories and if I keep getting into heartbreaks it means that I’m never capable to be with someone even if their not the one and I’ll never lose my virginity either. I’d rather just have a boybestfriend and have sexual fun with him. I truly believe that’s all I’m good for. Maybe my standards just to have a normal boyfriend and casual dates wasn’t meant for me. I’m an unlovable 20 year old inexperienced loser. I’m pretty funny smart but that only hurts me more because I’m never trying ever again for a fucking guy to date. Fuck that and fuck love. I do everything else in life except this and I’m not grateful for this at all. I give up on love

[jshm2]

You sound like the common problem in your relationships, kid.

It's like you have a romanticised expectation of relationships and want to be the control freak. Your "friends" are obviously only going to front, and talk about the good, not the bad. They want to keep up appearances after all.

From what you've written, it's not that you have "high standards," but no proper or feasible standards. You can't be a princess and meet a prince charming, just because you feel entitled to it.

[Asker]

I’m a completely normal person who just wants to meet a nice guy like it’s really not that hard but it is for me and I don’t have high standards. None of u guys can relate to me at all. If you were with me through the situations I’ve been in , youd understand why it pisses me the fuck off why there can’t be one guy that likes me back for who i am. Fuck this and fuck love too. Y’all are so damn fcken lucky your not in my shoes , IM A NORMAL GIRL WHO JUST WNATS ONE GUY TO APPRECIATE HER , ONE FCKEN GUY THAT I ACTUALLY HAVE INTEREST IN.

[Berethor]

As a girl you are much more likely to be slut-shamed than virgin-shamed so it seems like a bad idea, in fact being a virgin makes you more valuable to many guys, also you only 20 year old, seem too soon to give up on love, though to be fair you still have some standards if you go for a boybestfriend over a one-night stand, so it could be worse. :)

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/VirginShaming

[PrudentGuy]

TBH, what you went through is all too common among virgins and those with little experience with relationship, dating and sex.

Just browse through this site and you'll see so many INCELs and depressed persons desperate for sex and relationship.

I wrote here many times, Making a successful romantic relationship is like Edison making light bulb. He failed ALL THE TIME. But he needs once ONCE to light up his world and others around him.

You saw romantic couples everywhere. But do you know how many heart-broke they got before reaching there? (Yes, think about it, just before this partner, they were like you, lamenting over love and relationship.)

My sincere Opinion to you is, be courageous and move on. Never give up. You need that ONE success to light up your world and those around you.

[Tobi_Lerone]

Sounds pretty terrible :/ but you shouldn't gibe up on yourself just because you only dated assholes before. And you shouldn't throw away your v-card like nothing. It's always hard to take if it goes like you wrote here. But that's not a reason to give up on yourself. I sometimes think there are too many guys that just give a fuck about others feelings especially on girls that like them. I'm really sorry that you experienced such bad things :/

[Coolj]

You are lovable, I believe in you, and you should do whatever makes you most comfortable. After every rainstorm there's a rainbow.

[blutwolfe]

Well don't give up on love, but I think virginity is overrated, sounds like you're in the dumps

Also you are what you attract sometimes, so maybe work on that as well

[NO-ONES-EX]

Nope, why?

[Asker]

Because love causes heartbreak and I’m afraid of dating and getting played. For once can I just be compatible to have a guy bestfriend and not want a boyfriend that will end up dumping me because I’m not good enough and I’m inexperienced

[NO-ONES-EX]

Patience is the best weapon a woman has but few ever use it.

[genericname85]

why "give up"? it's not like you lose something. you only gain.

[wondering_guy]

Even if you give up being a virgin, doesn't mean you will be happy, you think your only good for friendship and sex, you see what you belive to be true from the experiences you have had, not what you could have.

If you really believe all guys are like what you say, just jerk, not one wants to treat you right then give in, have sex for the wrong reasons.

Losing your virginity is something you want to do not something you need or have to do.

You will find someone but not with the mind set that all men are jerks like the ones you've dated

[AmeerX]

I am 27 single and virgin. I could say the same things as you but I am patient and so should you

[jonny79797979]

Get it out of the way. Why carry all that pressure of being a virgin. You will probably also enjoy it more once you get rid of that V card

[Asker]

Yes I’m great at having guy friends but sometimes they don’t want to get to know me and just sleep with me. Like it’s never the perfect guy and by perfect I mean the guy that I’m kinda attracted to and he’d be my BOYBESTFRIEND who’s also my fuck buddy.

[bamesjond0069]

No just wait. When this inevitably doesn't work out but now you're not a virgin you're going to be even more upset than you are now.

[Jok3r5]

If you give up on love now, you’ll never find it. Sometimes people find it when they’re 16, sometimes after multiple heartbreaks. You’re still young! Don’t let a few asswipes ruin your future happiness

[asshole_]

Nope!

[Asker]

Asshole

[OddBeMe]

It’s not important either way. Would focus on meeting interesting, nice people and then getting into a relationship that leads to sex.

[Tstrbrainer]

Just don't over think about dating and movie like romance.
Just let it come to you rather than you going for it

[B2281]

You just haven't found the right guy. It can be difficult, but waiting for the right guy will be worth it.

[Gamerguy333]

You know what babe, you should try getting more open to guys and stop showing guys that you love them just observe if he does or not, just observe if the guy feels jealous when u talking to other guys and stuff like that, but don't overdo it ok. I believe you'll be fine in some time , Oi am an Indian guy and I am pretty much facing the same problem can you text me back let's exchange accounts

[Anonymous]

"Maybe my standards just to have a normal boyfriend and casual dates wasn’t meant for me." - Duh? Wouldn't that mean giving up on virginity?
"They always end up being jerks" - I don't get your point, sorry - what do boys you meet being jerks have to do with virginity? Maybe gotta keep trying until you find some none-jerk and then lose virginity?
I think you need to add some explanation - that "train of thought" style of your question is too convoluted for my understanding.

[Anonymous]

You shouldn't give up on love. I am sure there is a loving and caring guy out there for you waiting to make happy memories with you. You also shouldn't give up your virginity. It is dangerous out there with STDs at pandemic levels. As over 53% of adults in America have at least one of them. Stay safe and healthy.

[Opinion Owner]

As a 36 year old virgin I understand how you feel. I haven't had any luck with women. But that is no reason to commit suicide.