Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health I've only ever had sex once and that was 3 years ago. It was a really bad experience and led to a lot of insecurities that I'm recently starting to get over.
I've tried to go on dates every once in awhile but things never make it past the first date because the topic of sex always comes up and I upset a lot of men when I say I don't feel comfortable having sex with someone I just met or when they ask how many guys I've slept with and I only say one. I try to avoid the conversation, but when they ask me, I want to be honest with them. And it just upsets a lot of men. I never judge a guy when he says he's slept with 40 women, but why do they judge me for only being with one man?
One guy even told me that I can't expect to find a real lasting relationship if I don't have much sexual experience. That's a huge part of a couple's compatibility and if I can't keep up to a guys needs, I should just stay single and stop wasting people's time.
I don't know what to do. I'm 25 and feel like I have basically screwed myself over for not being like other women.
Should I just not date because I'm not very sexually experienced?
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5 49I m still virgin What should I do😂
Dating is a sin. You should look for marriage.
Yes, don't date.
If you won't date then how would you get sexually experienced?
That guy was an asshole who just wanted a quick fuck. More sexual experience = shittier future relationships. You think that guy wanted a relationship with u? Absurd. Good guys r hard to come by and no good man pressures a girl into fucking a stranger
No it’s not always like that, just get more experience
Everyone had no experience at one time. How do you get it if you don't date?
No offense but I find most of this question very difficult to believe. I think you are either exaggerating or outright lying about some of the things you wrote here.
If the guy gets angry that you dont want to have sex during early dates then he was looking for a hookup and not relationship and he is venting his flustration (that he won't get what he wanted) on you.
Nothing wrong with you, you just have been unfortunate to meet emotionally immature guys who werent ready to commit. Nothing to be consious about, they would probably just take what they wanted and left once they got bored.
If the relationship is meant to happen, it will happen even if you take it slowly. Some want sex due to lust (ons) other as a sign of love (lasting relationship). Most long lasting relationships don't begin with wild sex but rather with slowly checking the inner compatibility.
this is completely ok, this is something called asexuality. when a person doesn't interested in sex but still likes falling in love.
you can find someone you really love it's just hard to find the right person.
You're way off in rationalization here.
Yeah I don't think I'm asexual. I wouldn't mind having sex, but it would have to be with a guy I've built up a relationship with. I don't feel comfortable having sex if there's no emotional connection there.
oh ok, so I got you wrong, Sorry. I thought you are not interested in sex. so if it's about the number of men you slept with I suggest a weird but successful way, masturbate twice a week and find out what positions you like and how you like your partner to do them, also go and buy a dildo (make sure it's high quality) try your blow job on it if you have big boobs use them as well, use your mouth for the top part of it and your hands for the bottom part. I almost forgot, do research about the different parts of your vagina as well. I hope this helps you