Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Hello peeps
I am struggling lately with my choice of whether to have sex or not.
I am 20 and still a virgin. Never had a first kiss until a year ago so i am very inexperienced with flirting, dating etc. All of my friends , literally all of them lost their virginity when they were like 15-16, even my younger cousins did it, and i am here waiting because no one is making any moves on me. Ok you might think "you must be ugly then".. I'm not the most gorgeous girl on the planet but people consider me good looking so I might believe them.. now you must think "maybe you are too shy and that can be unattractive for most guys" no.. it's not even that.. I'm a Sagittarius and I'm the most outgoing person ever.. I like to be in the centre of attention and I like making people laugh.. so why? Why do I consider myself as a loser somehow? All of my friends are like "right, this year is your year.. you HAVE to lose your virginity. Trust me sex is amazing and waiting more and more is not worth it"... I don't know if I want to believe that.
I sure hope sex is amazing but at the same time I know that if I wait for marriage, the guy who is then going to be my husband will LOVE me for sure, because if a guy waits months or even years in order to have sex with a girl he must really LOVE and RESPECT her.. and that is what I want.. I want the assurance of someone loving and wanting me like that. At the same time tho therestmy sexual frustration: it's not like I want to give it to anyone and everyone but I am starting to feel like I am missing out.. I feel like am still a child and I don't spread sexiness and femininity.. but if I had sex I would completely change my image and maybe I would be more confident with myself. If I like a guy mostly for sexual chemistry and tension... should I go for it? How can I convince him? I am afraid that if I go and have sex with any guy, I will lose the thing that makes me special and different from all the other girls, and I won't find love anymore.
Should I wait (to have sex) for MARRIAGE? ?
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18 55Whatever makes you feel comfortable, and making sex won't guarantee that you have a long term lover
you think guys like virgins more? please xD wake up
In my opinion sex without feelings is just a waste of your time and energy in most of cases. There is nothing special about it. You can handle your sexual frustration by using sex toys.
But if you have a boyfriend whom you really love and trust, maybe it's a good idea to try it.
Sex is overrated trust me
Fuck no
Yes. Premarital sex is fornication and affects your spirituality negatively.
In the current year, it will be pretty tough to find a decent guy who is willing to wait until marriage.
Sounds to me like your kind of a fairy-tale romance kind of woman, just be aware that often doesn't always work out the way you plan it.
As to the sex part that's completely personal, you have to make a choice, life is full of them you do you.
Blessed are the pure at heart for they will see God. Matthew 5:8.
Forgive me for a double minded answer in advance. You've displayed purity which will be rewarded by God but jesus also said that there won't be any marriages in heaven which means no sex. The thing about waiting to have sex until marriage doesn't guarantee the sex will be any good. Id even go as far as guarenteeing id be disappointing. Many marriages are sexless cuz the majority of guys don't know how to satisfy their wives sexually. Since this is the case i would advise men to learn how to please women sexually b4 getting married and women to satisfy their own needs and or show their partner what they like instead of faking orgasms because men are better off knowing the truth than living in a sexless marriage.
U need practise.
And dont do it for free
It will be better if you can wait.
No, dont wait
Not at all... Sooooo boring after marriage
Fuck no! Get out there n get that pussy pounded and dicks in ur hands
Wait.
I don't think you have to worry that much. Just because other people have the experience or not. It is your decision when you "feel good", it is your will to want to stand out for your future with a marriage in order to be/remain "unique". Then it is. Sex is beautiful, it can be. But only the core of an apple, not the whole fruit.
Save it till marriage!!! You have bad friends, there is a quiet but significant portion of people who wait. The relationships they end up in are far more fulfilling and TRUSTING than any of the flings by the bad influences around you...
If you don't wait, that decision negatively affects all future relationships, and probably prevents you from finding the best one.
Virginity is definitely overrates and it's nothing special. Seeing yourself as different and special because you're a virgin is a very dangerous concept.
Why? You and your personality and your worth are all values based on whether or not you've had sex? How does that make sense?
Plus, our bodies are made to start having sex around 16 years old. If you don't, it could put lots of physical and mental stress on you and mess up your system, specially OCD, anxiety and depression. I even think delaying having children for too long can do that to people.
People that aren't married soon, are definitely at least dating by your age. It's the healthy way to go.
Plus, it's a myth. There's no way to tell if you're a virgin or not, unless YOU tell people you had sex. Even if a guy says they had sex with you, there's always the doubt that they could be lying. So no one can claim that you're a virgin or not unless you confess. Get the point? 😉
It would be good to wait to have sex until after marriage but I personally feel like sex keeps the relationship on fire and make sure to bring this topic up with your partner so he doesn’t get the wrong idea. Ignore your friends too. They are pieces of shit if they’re trying to pull you into something you don’t wanna do/ make fun of you for being more modest. Remember that you can respect your partner and still have sex wit them
Dont succumb to the pressure of anyone who says you should, or are going to have sex this year.
I fit into the treacherous category of losing before 18...
Here's the thing hun, you're beauty, no matter how gorgeous your body is, which is of course subjective, is in the words, and the belief you just layed out. Your romantic views of this perfect guy waiting years. THAT IS BEAUTIFUL!!!
You've waited this long, lose now and that beauty is gone, and for what?
However! You need to flirt, get out there and meet guys. Just DONT sex them. Tell them right off the bat you are not going to fuck them. DONT DRINK AND DATE. I also wouldn't suggest going out with your girlfriends, as they would pressure you to fuck...
Point is, you'll never know what a good man is if you dont go and meet lot of guys. Meet up for coffee and a stroll with the ones who seem to genuinely want to talk, and not fuck. Explain what you want to do in life, and dont leave out the marriage fantasy.
Best of luck to hun!!! And to speak for the guys out here, you are my dream!!!