Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Hello peeps
I am struggling lately with my choice of whether to have sex or not.
I am 20 and still a virgin. Never had a first kiss until a year ago so i am very inexperienced with flirting, dating etc. All of my friends , literally all of them lost their virginity when they were like 15-16, even my younger cousins did it, and i am here waiting because no one is making any moves on me. Ok you might think "you must be ugly then".. I'm not the most gorgeous girl on the planet but people consider me good looking so I might believe them.. now you must think "maybe you are too shy and that can be unattractive for most guys" no.. it's not even that.. I'm a Sagittarius and I'm the most outgoing person ever.. I like to be in the centre of attention and I like making people laugh.. so why? Why do I consider myself as a loser somehow? All of my friends are like "right, this year is your year.. you HAVE to lose your virginity. Trust me sex is amazing and waiting more and more is not worth it"... I don't know if I want to believe that.
I sure hope sex is amazing but at the same time I know that if I wait for marriage, the guy who is then going to be my husband will LOVE me for sure, because if a guy waits months or even years in order to have sex with a girl he must really LOVE and RESPECT her.. and that is what I want.. I want the assurance of someone loving and wanting me like that. At the same time tho therestmy sexual frustration: it's not like I want to give it to anyone and everyone but I am starting to feel like I am missing out.. I feel like am still a child and I don't spread sexiness and femininity.. but if I had sex I would completely change my image and maybe I would be more confident with myself. If I like a guy mostly for sexual chemistry and tension... should I go for it? How can I convince him? I am afraid that if I go and have sex with any guy, I will lose the thing that makes me special and different from all the other girls, and I won't find love anymore.
Should I wait (to have sex) for MARRIAGE? ?
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What Girls & Guys Said
18 55You should wait for a men who respect and truly love you. That's the way I see it. I never wanted to be used by men for sex.
If you believe in waiting then I’d stick to it. I wanted so badly to wait, but I fell hard for my boyfriend and we ended up not waiting. It hurt me that I didn’t and I still wrestle with that guilt.
Not to mention we just had a pregnancy scare and it was a living nightmare
Yes, that's a good idea.
You don't necessarily have to wait till marriage, but I do agree that it's a good idea to at least be in a committed relationship before having sex rather than doing it with random people. My girlfriend and I never planned to hold off for who-knows-how-many years before doing the deed, but we did wait nearly a year since we started dating. I felt that it made sense since I certainly wouldn't mind spending the rest of my life with her, although if we did end up having to break up due to challenging circumstances in the future, it wouldn't be the end of the world to have lost my virginity. Plus, it wouldn't seem right to me to blindly get married to someone without knowing whether we'll be sexually compatible (in terms of drive, certain desires, etc.), so testing the waters first was helpful in that regard, too.
If you choose to wait, there is nothing wrong with that decision. In fact, from a statistical standpoint, your likelihood of staying with one man for life goes way down as your number of total sexual partners goes up.
Yes, please wait for marriage.
Yes surely.
Wait til marriage.
Lose it when you feel like it. Don't feel pressure because everyone else did it.