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I've heard stories of people who waited until marriage to have sex and regretted it because their partner wasn't sexually compatible.
It's NEVER about their partner having a really small penis or a funny looking vagina or anything like that. It's always that she won't do this, or he won't do this position or she won't do my fetishes or he doesn't believe in oral.
I thought couple were supposed to at least talk about sex while dating if they're waiting until marriage. After a couple months of dating when the relationship is at the point where most couple are already having sex, I'd want to talk about it. I'd want us to share every detail, what positions are you interested in, what fetishes do you have and what not, we could even do it through text if we're shy about it, and if there's something that one wants to do and the other doesn't then we'd know that we may not be sexually compatible.
But why don't they do it? Or do they ant it's just a fringe minority that don't but people use those few stories as a reason not to wait.
What Girls & Guys Said
12 38Personally i feel as though two grown adults who talk about having sex is completely up to them and their personal preference and belief.
I think it is good to talk about it, so that your partner knows on which page you are
I think we should talk on this topic, I know it's common in today's relationships but some girls are so innocent even in this generation n if we do it directly without any conversation it's wrong
if sex is an important factor for you, you should talk about it. you should talk about anything that is important for in your relationship.
I'm curious, why are you waiting until marriage in the first place? Is it due to religious reasons, some other pressure, or just personal preference?
I'm considering it. Some things happened in my past that made me see sex the wrong way and made me question my sexuality (not molested) and I think waiting until marriage might be best for me.
@SomeGUYonGAG I see. I don't know what that must feel like, especially without the details of what happened (not that you have to share if you don't want to, of course). But if you're questioning your sexuality, it seems to me that exploring your options would be much safer than marrying someone after years of waiting and hoping for the best when the time comes. My personal view is that sex best serves as an expression of love and trust in a committed relationship, although not necessarily marriage. What matters is that there's a strong bond and mutual sense of respect. While an important experience to share, it's hardly the end of the world if you sleep with someone and don't end up together forever. I also find that establishing sexual compatibility is a good idea before choosing to be with someone for the rest of your life. I'm not saying you have to adopt my morals over your own, or that waiting until marriage is invalid if that's what you end up choosing to do. What I am saying is that you should consider your own motivations for potentially doing so and try to avoid feeling pressured by outside influences if it's not really what you want for yourself, and consider the implications.
Yeah, definitely. That isn't going to solve all problems, but it's a start.
The other BIG issue tends to be frequency, and not just frequency when you're on vacation, but frequency when you have young kids and there are laundry piles around and you haven't shaved and you're tired. Which isn't a one day thing, it's the reality, for years. So when life is like that, are you the sort where squeezing in getting each other off in the laundry room for 8 minutes before the baby wakes up gives you the joy to keep going, or is that one more chore in your life?