Telling a guy he can take your clothes off but not your panties?

Question

Basically I’m a virgin and I want to keep it that way until I’m in a solid relationship. But I really like this guy and on weekends we end up in bed by the end of the night and we have gone to the point of taking our tops off but I never let it go further. If next time I take my pants off but refuse to take panties off, is that bad? Like is that even fair to him LOL

wanderintech · Accepted Answer

If you're seriously thinking it's ok for you to tease that long and get-but-not-give, don't be surprised when he leaves you for someone that respects him more.

To clarify: I AM NOT SAYING JUST HAVE SEX WITH HIM!

Rather, you're ok to tease him for your amusement/benefit/satisfaction. You're ok to receive oral from him, but do not want to return anything. Show him more respect by stopping your teasing and quitting that "my pleasure only" attitude.

If you want sex, go for it. If not, talk to him to explain that you're sorry for teasing him like that and that it will stop until you're fully ready.

Lastly, if you go ahead, CONTRACEPTIVE OR BUST! Condom, 'the pill', iut, or do not have sex. If you or he trust him 'pulling out'... You are in for a rough 20+ years once the little one is born.

jakeforfun · Accepted Answer

It's fine for you to wear panties, especially if he knows you're a virgin, etc.
However, IF he goes down on you, I believe you have an obligation to reciprocate, unless otherwise has been stipulated previously (which, in this case, it hasn't). Why not go down on him?

laurieluvsit · Accepted Answer

If your only concern is pregnancy or no vaginal intercourse for whatever reason, than certainly all other forms of enjoyment should be ok.
Let him bring you to orgasm orally or manually and do the same for him.
Sounds fair to me :)

Pamina · Accepted Answer

The important thing is that you openly communicate what is okay with you and what isn't. What you are okay doing with him and what you are okay him doing with you. Just be open about it. That's the mature (and safe) thing to do.

Berethor · Answer

You playing with fire, and you already not so innocent if you are doing all this stuff. But what do you mean by if he "going to expect something in return", so you really think that he nothing out of seeing your body and doing sexual stuff with you?

jimyee · Answer

Yea that's not really a big deal. Do you guys normally fool around i. e. hand stuff or just cuddle?

yourdarksecretx · Answer

I don't know lol

dardorsama · Answer

If you don't want to lose you virginity then don't risk it and take your panties off In the heat of the moment he might try to go inside after finishing giving oral with you and you might give in

WhereAmI · Answer

Um, no... you shouldn't be playing games like that with a loaded gun. Don't taunt a guy inadvertently by taking off everything but your panties. First time I ever told a girl to keep her pants on. lol

Dinnye001 · Answer

Fair? Well, not really. But it is your life so you make the calls. I'd suggest you keep your pants up if you don't want to end up with panties off.

skittles2017 · Answer

He will want oral as well... You can tell him that you are fine with mutual oral sex for now... but no vaginal or anal sex for now because you don't feel confident enough for that

nick463 · Answer

Talk to him and tell him what you DON'T want to do yet 😁

Brutal_Honesty · Answer

fair to him? its your life not his. if you are not ok with something, he has no right to push the issue

Ronin82 · Answer

Then why the fuck would you lead a guy on then? What are you, 12?

HereIbe · Answer

Why tease him? Just screw him and get it over with or stop teasing.

FreePrometheus · Answer

It's your decision ultimately. Just be careful. He may very forceful if you let it progress to that point

jakeofalltrades · Answer

not really. what's the point of taking your cloths off if your not going to do anything

thoughtbubble94 · Answer

Have you considered making him your serious relationship, it sounds like things are getting a little more than just friends... unless I'm misreading your fooling around like anyone does. It's probably me misreading. Still, the other answers are wise.