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Tips on coming out as trans (male to female)?

I think I may be transgender (male to female) and I’m wondering how I might come out to friends, family, etc (at the age of 20). Any tips on coming out, any ways of hinting at it?
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I said “think” but I’m actually very certain.
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I need some more girls’ opinions.
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  • omfg, what ever you do , dont chop your dick off and just do forskin restoration.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e088fT9nZYo&t=2188s



    choping it off will just make life shit, instead of wearing pants, just wear dress's bingo. no problem. or dress tom boy

    but honestly

    i am stright, i wish i was female for tons of reason,
    but i can't, i like to jack off to wemon not to duds
    thus

    your target would most like be bi wemon. pretty much unless your going to trap a stright guy lols
    good luck with that.

    but over all, i feel like education has fucked with your head a lot.

    sigh,

    if you are. just dont cut off your dick and be full blown, trust me, your not going to enjoy the lack of plasure, . and takeing estorgen is going to further criple it.

    ok,

    fuck male gentail mutilation fucking sucks, ok, says it in the video, learn from bloodstain men brothher k on face book

    so wiping out your hold dick, is going to be far worse, no more jizzing, not more plasure, none of that nice feeling,

    so my adives is ,
    just cross dress like a bosss, and be happy with that,
    you dont need boobs, , theirs many stight females with A cups.
    so boobs no need.
    choping dick off no need

    clothing wordrob be dress. mostly,


    think of people that do the extream, as people who pearce everything, have 20 no 30 pirceings, tatoo eye balls,

    i am like probly the only guy that will slap you with the truth,

    also do you like wemon or men, do you jack off to wemon.
    if so, you pool for wemon is extreamly small.
    cus lezbos are stupied , use dildos, but hats dicks,... yaaa, lols

    so your only choice is finding a lazbo that will like your trap. and dick
    or a gay man
    or bi man
    or bi woman
    like
    your pool of stuff is very very small

    hmm. salution is,
    i think

    if you cross dressing doing as i say, cool. ok fin, stick with it. .

    also i say, in spire your girlfriend to achive your dream for you by her eating right, exersise and inspear her to gow into a woman that you wish you could be, and you grow into a man to plase her.

    it hard to imagin that last bit but you get what i say right.

    its like how a say a brother dieing from cancer says to the other brother, full fill my dreams for me ok. and then passes away.

    simular thing really
    . but she will fullfill your dreams through her, and you become a man of her dreams.

    but i highly recomend, just stick with cross dressing and avoid syrgerys and medications, honestly, sure it make suck your a man, i hate it too,
    i hate my whole life
    but. i would not give up on the plasures of life,

    at the end of the day its your choice, your 20 you can do what ever you want, be dont be a left wing nazis ok, like we see everywhere,

  • I guess slowly let them onto it? Rather than just being blunt and upfront you could slowly show changes (more feminine clothing etc)

    • Well I already shave my chest and armpits maybe I’ll bring up shaving my legs in a conversation.

    • Shave that whole body, queen 👏

    • Gradually yes.

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  • Have you seen a therapist about this? It is extremely important that you do so they can check for gender dysphoria and the like. This also goes into transitioning if you do indeed have it. As for coming out, I'm not sure how you could. It would be very difficult for your family and friends to process that you are trans. And if you don't know how they feel about trans people, then you could possibly be putting yourself in danger. Especially if you aren't living on your own yet. I think a therapist needs to come first before anything else does. But I'm not trans so I do not know how to exactly handle this and give the best advice to you. Maybe talking to other people who are transgender might be a better idea?

    • My family are very liberal (in the classical sense), loving and accepting so I’m not worried about that at all and would definitely tell them before seeing a therapist as I wouldn’t want to do that in secret especially since I still live with my parents.

    • Ok. Then you should be fine. Hopefully everything on your journey goes well for you. 💖

    • Thanks 😊

  • Depends what your family are like. Just consider your own safety in case your family are against that kind of thing. Maybe try bringing up the topic of trans rights or lgbtq+ in conversation to gauge how they feel about it.

    Making changes gradually is probably best, just so your family become used to how you are and will be more likely to be accepting and supportive when you come out.

    wishing you the best xx

    • Yeah the gradual approach is what I’m going with but it’ll still be a shock to them. As for them accepting me my family are pretty liberal (in the classic sense not far left) and won’t have a problem but will take some time getting used to it.

    • that's good then :) it's understandable that it would be some shock to them either way and they'll take some time to adjust to the fact they have a daughter instead of a son

    • Especially when I’m one of three sons. And have 0 sisters.

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  • You Don't Need To Be OUT To Be VALID!!!
    Only if you want to!!!

    Tips on coming out as trans (male to female)?

    • I would have to at some point before going on hormones and having surgeries. I think I’ll receive a lot of questions by my family if I just put on a dress and some heels outta the blue.

  • @catlover1999 you may or may not know this.

    likely best starting point is https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/gender-dysphoria/treatment/

    https://gids.nhs.uk .

    then of course you have Stonewall

    https://www.stonewall.org.uk/help-advice/coming-out/coming-out-adult-1

    https://cliniq.org.uk/counselling/
    .
    They can then get you booked in with someone local to discuss this with.
    .
    There also appear to be a few on the site who have taken the big step, they may also have some advice.
    but personally start with the above, chat to professionals who often have taken same journey.

    • Those are good resources.

    • Yeah, I used to help out at a counselling place, so know bits of it. It’s really worth chatting to someone who has been through it in the UK. Happy to chat anytime.

  • Coming out to family and friends can have some not so desirable reactions.
    I would test the waters a bit. See what they think of the LGBT community, gays, transgender, etc.
    I would also have a backup plan; If they throw you out of the house, where will you go?

    I have been involved in the LGBT community for years. I have seen a lot of families disintegrate when dad or son tells the family or his wife that he really is transgender and a woman, etc.

    There are a lot of support groups. Look into a transgender center, if your city has one.

    Good luck.

    • They won’t throw me out of the house they’d be accepting but will take time to adapt (which is fair enough considering that I’m on e of 3 boys and have no sisters) that’s family as for friends well it’s pretty much the same story but I only have a few close friends anyway so we’ll see.

    • I wish you the best of luck with this. Also, good luck on your journey.

  • I'm honestly not too sure... I'd find the most understanding family member to share with first and then use them to be the ambassador to share with the whole family. That would be my suggestion

  • I would just say choose your moment and people to tell carefully, and just be honest.
    You don’t have to tell everyone, only those that matter. After all, it’s your business, and you know who you want around for support.

  • Just build up the courage to go up to people dressed in your girl clothes and explain Jesus made you a girl on the inside and It’s what’s on the inside that counts!

    Thats how I came out at 14. Coming out as liking boys a year earlier was harder.

    I don’t think you realize how mean people are gonna be! I didn’t. People are going to hurt your feelings so much! But it might not be as bad for you since you’re not a kid, plus things have gotten better since 2009.

    Ill pray Jesus keeps you strong and safe and you become the beautiful woman you are inside on the outside too 😃

  • Oh man I thought you were a real woman fooled me :(

  • I think you should meet a doctor for concealing

  • tell them, im sure they will accept you

    • Me too but it’s not acceptance I’m concerned about it’s that being trans is a lot for people to adapt to and all of my friends and family have known me as an adult for a few years now (in Britain 18 is legally an adult) and I’m going to be 21 soon and never displayed any sign of not wanting to be male as a kid so it’ll be a shock to most.

    • well im sure if you tell them as a man then they won't be as shocked when you show up the next time as a woman

    • I suppose. I’d do things gradually so I’d let my hair grow out and start to wear feminine clothes, a small amount of makeup (I’d probably look like James Charles lol 😆), etc.

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  • I believe in ripping off the bandaid and just telling them as it is and let them process it.

  • What were you born as?

    • Male

    • Ugh Everybody thinks your female on here Looks like you’ve already come out

    • Well I have on gag but not in the real world

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  • @gwenhwyfar I'm out🤚

    • As mtf?

    • What?

    • I'm out of this good luck

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  • is that you in your picture?

    if it is, how could you be male to female, if you're already a girl...

    if it's not, then it's whatever

    • It’s not. I used FaceApp to switch faces with a model.

    • .. that’s what I want to look like.

    • oh, ok

  • Hmmm. "I think I may be transgender... and I’m wondering how I might come out...".

    "Any tips on coming out?"
    Yes, see a therapist for gender dysmorphia. You don't sound very confident about making such a major change to your life.

    I'm not a health professional, but I'm pretty sure that individuals, who want to transition, have to be pretty DAMN SURE this is what they want, NOT 'I think' or 'I'm wondering'! You should do some serious self-reflection. If you do this, there is no going back.

    • I was using “think” very lightly. I’m actually quite certain.

  • I dont think you can't be a transgender. I think you are real woman

    • Wish I was

    • You are or not?

    • I’m not

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  • You think. So you have not stated to transition. What is your sexual preference

    • I like girls but I am curious about straight sex from the woman’s perspective.

  • Are you attractive to men or women?

    • Women but I do think about cock sometimes and always imagine myself as the girl when watching straight porn so I guess I’m bi-curious.

    • Have you been with a man

    • No. I’m a virgin.

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  • What your a man?

    • Are you man or women as you saying and showing as diffrent things LoL

    • I’m a guy but want to be a woman.

    • So why you got yourself as a woman your man if you change your just a man that don't get pleasure, it weird just thinking about it

  • Go see a therapist. You're mentally ill.

  • the mark of the beast is about to start in a few months
    and you think you are TRANS LOL
    you are stupid and deceived CHRIST GOD IS ABOVE THE DOME ( turn from your ways )

    https://www.youtube.com/embed/GP9UuQvuwEY

    • I’m as concerned about the COVID vaccine as much as you are but what does that have to do with being transgender?

    • there are no trans humans in heaven AND YOU WILL DIE LIKE EVERYONE ELSE TURN TO GOD BOOK OF JASHER CHAPTER 4:18 AND THEY BEGAN TO MIX ANIMALS AND HUMANS TOGETHER TO PISS OFF GOD BUT NOAH WAS PURE HUMAN IN HIS GENERATION do not fall for the lie of satan

    • Sorry mate I’m an atheist.

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