Totally controlling and dominating her?

[Anonymous]

I love to wrestle and "humiliate" my girlfriend. Am I strange? I love to wrestle my girlfriend, pin her down and put her head between my thighs until she's totally helpless and unable to defend herself. I tickle her and cover her mouth with my hands while she tells me to stop. I enjoy it very much, even though she doesn't seem to like it. I just love the feeling of totally controlling and dominating her. Am I strange? (I'm not a bully by the way. I only tease my girl.)

[RhinoBob]

You pin her down, put her head between your thighs until she's "totally helpless" and you "love the feeling of totally dominating and controlling her." But you also think you're "loving."

Funny idea of love.

Abusers rarely think they're abusive.

They think abuse is funny ("my dad gave me beer when I was 5 and I turned out fine!")

They think it's for someone's good ("I told her not to buy those expensive shoes, we're on a tight budget")

They think it's to keep someone in line because they have no common sense ("I'm not nagging; he'd lose his head if it wasn't screwed on...")

They think it's not that bad ("I pin her down, dominate and humiliate her, but it's in a loving way.")

They think everyone does it so it's okay ("spare the rod and spoil the child")

I don't mean to beat up on you (pun intended). But I do mean to make you think about this wrestling in a new way.

What I find disturbing is that she's not an equal in the wrestling matches. If you two were both having fun rolling around and wrestling, I'd say go ahead and have fun but watch out for the furniture.

But when you say that she's not that into the wrestling, and that you get a big thrill from dominating and humiliating ... that's a different story. That's a red flag, even if she initiates these matches. Does she initiate these matches, or are you always the one who starts 'em?

My guess is that she has some abuse in her childhood, and she doesn't know how to stand up for herself. You're seeing her (partly) because of those traits, and she's seeing you (partly) because she responds to a subtle abusiveness in your personality.

[Asker]

Alright, I get your point, but I think you exaggerate a bit. It's just play wrestling, man!! I'm a nice guy and I would never hurt her. If she cried I'd stop immediately. She doesn't seem to be sad at all. She's just angry and I think it's kind of cute. Most of the time I start to wrestle, but she's not innocent. She loves to provoke me. I don't know what she thinks about that wrestling stuff. Maybe she likes to be this submissive, but doesn't want to admit it. Who knows?!

[RhinoBob]

I'll admit I was exaggerating to make a point. But have you asked her about the wrestling?

[Asker]

No. Should I?

[RhinoBob]

Yes, absolutely you should ask if she's comfortable with you humiliating her for your own enjoyment. And if that's truly how you feel, be strong enough to say, "I humiliate your for my own enjoyment."

[thatoneguy5001]

Sounds like you have a domination fetish, possibly also a bondage fetish as both are usually linked. Perfectly normal. You might try talking to her about rope play, fuzzy cuffs or holding her hands down while you have sex - those are pretty basic manifestations of this particular fixation. Just make sure you're in agreement about what's going to happen ahead of time, or she'll probably be VEEEEERY pissed off. This is not something you want to surprise her with unless you KNOW she'll like it. But talking doesn't do any harm. Have fun, you two.

[timberlake]

omg, I just read over some of the comments you made and dude: you're sick. you're showing her who's boss? wtf! you really took this sh*t to another level. I feel really bad for your girlfriend because you honestly feel like a "man" when you do this to her. this isn't about lovingly teasing her, it's really about making her feel small and weak and making you feel big and manly. that's crazy. it's one thing to tease, but you just said you like to make her feel helpless and unable to defend herself and "humiliate" her. either you need better word choices, or you need therapy.

you should never get off from seeing someone you love be put down. if you're such a big and strong man and you know it, why do you have to attack her like that? isn't it your job to protect her instead? I don't get it. I really hope we're all just reading this wrong and you're not the abusive weirdo that you sound like. get some help, man. show your girl, your relationship, and yourself some respect.

[Asker]

You don't have to feel bad for her. she often provokes it cause she obviously likes it too. just because I love to dominate her I'm a psycho? wow, calm down. it's play only wrestling! you say you like to get head scissored. she likes to get pinned. so what? I don't feel like a man when I do this to her. it's just sexy to see her trapped and helpless. she's my little baby and she often makes cute noises when I do this. I would never hurt her and if she told me to stop I'd stop immediately.

[Asker]

Stop worrying. I don't abuse her, I LOVE her.

[ttlynotobsessed]

"I tickle her and cover her mouth with my hands while she tells me to stop." You obviously don't stop when she tells you to. Just making a point... *don't hate me*

[Asker]

She makes cute noises and begs me to stop, but that's part of the game. if she REALLY wanted me to stop, I'd stop.

[timberlake]

I'm sorry, man, but you sound crazier and crazier every time I read this thing, lol. I really hope you're kidding. and you keep call her your little baby and your sweet baby and it sounds like you're referring to a dog or your child. I don't know which one's worse. those cute noises are either her struggling to breathe or her in pain (or a combo of both). I don't know man... I really hope I'm just reading this wrong.

[Asker]

Wow, get a sense of humor, girl! those noises are her struggling to breathe?? wtf?!! she's just squeaking!!! stop watching too many horror movies! I call her my baby and it sounds I refer to my dog? seriously, you must be kidding. please get rid of that nerdy attitude. thanks.

[ButterflyXkisses]

My, my, somebody's the alpha male, ain't he? Look, you're just playin' around, she's got the idea it's a joke, she thinks it's funny, why on earth would that be strange? A lot of girls here are p*ssed at you for doing this to your girlfriend because they probably don't like it. Myself, I hate wrestling with people, but I'm not every girl, I'm no spokesperson for my gender. Some girls like to be dominated, they like the feeling of somebody stronger than themselves, it shows you're also strong enough to take care of them so they don't have to whip out their own nukes, they can relax. But on one point, you asked the question, and some people had a bad reaction. Don't defend yourself, it's unnecessary, and useless, and honestly, a waste of your time, I'm sure. Just let it roll off of your back. Pin your lady to the floor and kiss her senseless. xP

[Asker]

Great comment. thanks.

[ButterflyXkisses]

No problem, it's what I do. I was born to spew forth random nonsense pretending like I honestly know what I'm saying.

[Squirt]

x3 honestly, it sounds adorable. Even if that sounds werid. I would like the feeling of being controled at times. It's a way the guy lets you know that your HIS and HE wants to be the one in charge.

[fivecolours]

Very well said

[Neubauten]

A depressed 17-year-old girl got voted best answer? How interesting...

[loveee]

What the hell is your problem??? you think that sounds "adorable"

[Squirt]

O -o yes. I do. Why is that so bad?

[littlebunnygirlx]

I think it could be really sweet, but not if she doesn't like it. I would love the feeling of being controlled sometimes too, but when I'm in a good mood. Some girls like that kind of thing, some just don't.

[Binary_Illusion]

No, your not strange. Most guys tend to be the dominant ones in bed. Very rarely women are going to be dominant.

It's okay unless she doesn't enjoy it. Both parties have to trust each other, and enjoy it for it to be acceptable. You say you put your hands over her mouth, and she tells you to STOP. The key word being STOP...I don't like this!

Or it could be apart of the role play...

Just ask her if she likes it when you do those things to her. Communication is key in any relationship. If she doesn't find something else you BOTH enjoy.

[liquidlithium]

Hahaha no there is nothing wrong with that.

Me and my guy wrestle like that all the time, except I can fight back so its more like a battle that ain't over till the first person whines lol.

As long as you know the "enough is enough" point and stop, then that's all you need. That and if it makes her cry or get really mad about it or something, that's a red flag.

[Asker]

Well, unlike me your guy is a gentleman. I wouldn't let you win. That's the difference. Would it p*ss you off if I won all the time? Be honest!

[liquidlithium]

Oh no my dear he does not wanna let me win lol. I grew up with brothers and in a rough area, I'm a scrapper, I don't win all the time but I do win! I can pin his ass no problem, first time I did it actually he almost sh*t his pants, he couldn't figure out how a girl my size had so much strength. I do whatever it takes to win, you would be amazing what a guy would do for you if you had your pinkies looped in their nipple rings...ahahaha sucka

[liquidlithium]

You would be amazed****

[Asker]

You must be kidding! In fact, I know for sure you're kidding. If you beat your guy in a competitive match then he is - sorry to say - the greatest weakling/sissy boy ever! It's just not possible for a girl to win against me. NOT possible! I bet you're a dreamer and you want to boast about your dream you had last night. Cute!

[liquidlithium]

Lol I would run you DOWN! Dreaming my ass, its too bad I couldn't prove it, and trust me lol my guys the furthest from weak.

[Asker]

Princess, you only talk big in front of the computer, but you can't back it up. I could break you in two, you little poser! now go back and protect your sissy boy from me. LMAO!

[liquidlithium]

Lol whatever you say tough guy. Your the one going off about how tough you are. And no, I wouldn't say anything I wouldn't say in your face, maybe that's what you pull but, I'm a little different.

[liquidlithium]

Now I change my answer, my guess is you were one of those kids who got his ass beat on the playground everyday for having a big mouth, and now you feel you have to take out your aggression on someone you KNOW is weaker and submissive so you can win and feel validated again.

[Asker]

LOL! You're such a cute therapist. If that was the case I'd bully and beat up little kids weaker than me, but I wouldn't beat up my love. Thinking is not your greatest talent, right? Maybe that's why you're such a tough fighter, princess. Hahahaha.....

[liquidlithium]

What ever you say :)

[thelittlethings]

I love when my guy does this. I act mad and fight back but it's all part of the game. He always chases me into the bed and pins me down with his knees while he tickles me. I scream and kick and bite but it's all in fun. I doubt it bothers her, especially if she is provoking it. I bet she likes it. You said it would be weird to ask her about it but you don't have to exactly ask, next time you do it, after you're done just say I love picking on you :) She should tell you her feelings about it.

[RhinoBob]

"I act mad and fight back but it's all part of the game." What about "no means no"? How is a guy to tell when your no's truly mean "no" or "yes"?

[Asker]

Oh, so I am not the only one? You're boyfriend is also a freak? Puhh.. that feels so good. Hahaha..... We should have a sex orgy. Your boy and me will completely destroy you! ;)

[The-Dude-Next-Door]

Ewww

[Asker]

The-Dude-Next-Door wants to join our party. LOL! *Your boyfriend is also..... (I hate making mistakes.)

[thelittlethings]

Yeah no does mean no, but it's not some random guy doing this to me, it's someone I have been with for almost a year. He knows it's a game. He should know when I truly mean yes or no because I provoke him to chase me and play like this. I have told him I like it. Yeah, you're not alone, my ex did it too. My guy friends all do this to me, my best friend's boyfriend does this to her. It's just playful, it's not like you're actually hurting her. And no thanks on the orgy, I am not that weird

[Asker]

So you think I'm weird? Thanks!

[thelittlethings]

I don't think you're weird :) It's just weird to me. It's not something I am into. But you do what you like!! ...Just not with me :)

[Asker]

LMAO! of course I wouldn't do it with you. I'm not into red headed slave girls. my advice: don't take everything serious. for your information, this is the internet ;)

[kchia]

ur not weird at all.just mind where you pin her.

[toulouse]

. I think it sounded fine - I mean it sounded like playing , except for THAT part... "...I cover her mouth with my hands while she tells me to stop. I enjoy it very much, even though she doesn't seem to like it. "

How is it TESING if she does not LIKE it & tells you to STOP?

:-)

[timberlake]

dude, you should ease off her a bit. it's good to tease her, but if it honestly bothers her (i'd probably punch you in the balls for covering my face while you were tickling me) you should stop. teasing is fine, but that sounds just plain mean to me. I like it when goes put me in a headlock for a bit or give me a playful shove or something, but if it gets to the point where I'm seriously asking him to stop and he doesn't, it's not cute anymore. I think you're just being too much of a guy with your girl. keep in mind that she's not one of your boys, even if you guys are comfortable with each other.

[peace-xo]

me and my guy wrestle and tickle each other and when he pins me down I think its super cute I wouldn't like it if he put my head between his thighs but other then that it seems like its fine , I tell my guy to stop to but that's just cause tickling gets overwheleming you know but I don't actually want him to stop. its my opinion that if she wanted you to stop she would menetion that she didn't like it , and or yell . raise her voice telling you to stop.

[regular-guy]

This is either a troll post and you have a messed up sense of humor, or you are just messed up. Wrestling is fine. Dominating, humiliating, covering her mouth with your hands while she tells you to stop, calling her fat--every one of those actions is abusive and pathological. Those things and "doing it in a loving way" just don't match up. Your inability to let somebody else win when your physical superiority is not in doubt, and your need to validate yourself by pulling the internet tough guy show you to be a very insecure person. If you are not trolling, you are an abuser.

[Asker]

What I want to know is why you think I'm abusive. She often provokes a fight, then I pin her down and overpower her. It has nothing to do with violence. Absolutely nothing! I'm not a so called "internet tough guy", I just love to react to stupid answers in the same way. You're 10 years older than me. Maybe you're too mature for this, but it definitely won't do any harm to get a sense of humor, man. By the way, I don't bully people. I wouldn't call her a fatty if she was fat.

[regular-guy]

Abuse is not about violence, it is about control...in your words, domination and humiliation. Violence is occasionally the tool to achieve control, but it usually is not the object. I wrestle with my wife, and we both know I can win every time if I want, but I let her win also sometimes because no game is any fun if you always lose. You can believe what you want, but my opinion of your behavior has not changed. It is problematic.

[realtalk]

no your not strange just love to be dominate in which your girl might not find very amusing so maybe you should just ease up a little because its only providing you pleasure and not really her but its all good hope I can help

[RhinoBob]

you're abusive.

abuse doesn't only mean hitting, screaming, rape, name calling.

abuse means overpowering someone to satisfy yourself.

and you admit that's exactly what you're doing.

[Asker]

Yeah, but it's in a "loving way". I would never hurt her! I just love to show her who's boss. Am I really abusive???

[regular-guy]

Question asker, you are absolutely abusive.

[dominantdude111]

Soundsl ike your domination over her isn't complete. You should control her to the point where she starts sobbing and then sit on her face and fart to finish her off.

[DyingAngel]

If she doesn't like it you shouldn't do it to her. You would be mad and upset if she continued to do stuff to you that you didn't like. It's not cute. If she likes you to do it and thinks you get a kick out of her acting like she doesn't like it, then by all means enjoy. My guy gets a kick out roughhousing with me.But I like being rough, lol.I don't mind but sometimes there is a point that he realizes I've had enough and it's time to stop or I'mma bit him,hard.It does fall into that category of BDSM. You're just thinking of the hardcore stuff.

[obligations]

either your a sadist or into BDSM.

If she doesn't like it. Then stop.

Or just tickle her and that's it.

[-smilewhore]

Sadist and BDSM is a lot more extreem.

[optimist]

hahaha its funny

i think you have child instinct in you

but be sure not to hurt her neck

[boi818]

Umm well ..she might feel you're immature. Not all girls like getting tossed around like that by their boyfriend.

[xxangel1990xx]

Loll, another anonymous user that sounds verrry familiar...strange.

[nbc5023]

If she says know, don't do it. You may not think your hurting her, but in the end we must accept the other person's right not be acted upon in a way they do not wish to be.

[confused4now]

I love a good little wrestling match with a girl. Just don't get carried away or you'll be bit... and dumped.

[smokeandmirrors]

You're not strange, but it's only okay when both parties are fine with it. You say your girlfriend doesn't seem to like it, so why do you do it?

[Asker]

I don't know whether she likes it or not. She often provokes a wrestling match. After she's pinned she gets angry, but I don't know if she only acts this way or if it's true. My guess is she loves to be sumbissive to me, but doesn't want to admit it. Could that be possible?

[smokeandmirrors]

Maybe she does. Why don't you try asking her? Have you guys sat down and talked about it?

[Asker]

Well, it's kind of difficult. I don't know what to ask her. Something like "shall I stop dominating you?" just sounds ridiculous. And even if I ask her about the way she feels, how do I know she will give me an honest answer? Maybe she's embarrassed to admit that she loves to get "humiliated".

[smokeandmirrors]

You should be able to talk to each other about anything. I'm thinking she's ok with it though if she initiates the horseplay. Does she actually get mad at you or does she just pretend to get angry?

[Asker]

I don't think she gets mad at me. Why should she? I just sit on top of her looking down at her "angry" face and squeeze her chubby little cheeks cause I think that's so cute! I always ask her: "what are you going to do about it, fatty?" (She's skinny. I just make fun of her.) The best thing: She's just trapped and helpless. I tease her till I get bored. She often makes a face. I don't know why. What is this supposed to mean??

[smokeandmirrors]

I dunno. Maybe she's just playing along.

[Munki]

You sound like the same conceited douche that I just commented on before this... Hmm, connection? o_O

[cityboy2323]

Wow dude I just read what you wrote to that other girl and ur kinda fukd up. Seriously if it takes beating up a girl to make you feel powerfull your a sad pathetic guy. I can't imagine actually hurting or doing any of that to any one of the girls I've hooked up with. And I assure you, you can think your big, but I'm a highschool swimmer, I bench 250 weight in at 180 and am 6' even... I could kick your ass so don't even try to intimidate me with a response. I'm not even kidding you sound like the kind of guy that me and my friends would ignore in school casue ur just a doushe bag, seriously show a little respect.

[Asker]

Beat up another girl? LMAO! do you know how stupid you sound? I play wrestle with her (I don't knock her f***in teeth out, I don't choke her). I'm not violent. it doesn't make me feel powerful. lol. why would you think that? I just find her so cute being trapped and helpless. lol, you're 6' even? so what? you want to impress me? how pathetic are you? I don't even know you and you don't even know me but you still think you can beat me up though you can't back sh*t up? wow, very sad and pathetic.

[singerlovez]

honestly that sounds sickk and kinda lik rapist sh*t lmao sorry ... but its kinky lol but yes you are kinda strange

[gonaners16]

I would definitely not be into the 'humiliating' part of that. Wrestling. . . HOT as hell! Not necessarily being 'weak and helpless', but wrestling does sound like fun. . .

[wrestle4fun]

@gonaners16 I totally agree with you! Wrestling is definitely fun and can certainty be hot (depending on the relationship you have with the girl, I’ve had a great time wrestling girlfriends and girls that are JUST friends) and I never want them to be “helpless and weak,” it’s WAY better if you know you might actually lose :). So have you wrestled before or do you just think it sounds fun?

[jcoldstream]

No! I'd love you to do that to me, especially if you spank me as well.

[Littletad]

Just as long as your not over doing it. Regular Guy said it best though.

[mistake22]

to tell the truth, I mean it is kinda creepy. but if you are doing it out of love then its cute. ha. I mean like if my guy did that to me I wouldn't mind it but if he does it to the point where I am scarred. that's when you have something to worry about. ha. but if she hasn't said anything about it. I think you fine she probably likes it

[Vaticka]

nah lots of guys do that

[Jonsul]

Save the domination for sex dude!

Seriously you might want to see a counselor or something to see where this stems from. It doesn't sound healthy at all, go through it in your head and put yourself in her place. Would you enjoy being dominated and controlled like that?

If you really can't get passed that, join and adult site and meet a girl who enjoys that. Then you can be in heaven.

[Asker]

"It doesn't sound healthy at all" why? it's play wrestling. it's fun. look, if she told me to stop it I'd stop immediately.

[Jonsul]

It's your fixation with it that's unhealthy dude. Is it fun for her or you? Cause if your the only one enjoying it, it really isn't good. Ask her how she feels about it, if she likes it then no problem dude. I get the feeling that you posted cause she's been complaining. Regardless it it's innocent or not, if it's being forced on her it's abuse.

[thatonechick]

I think it depends on how far you take it. If you're just fooling and you both know it, I don't think it's strange. If your hurting her, or out to actually make her feel inferior, then ya, that's a bit strange.

[wally]

I don't like to judge others, but you need to listen to what you are saying 'humiliate'my girlfriend!

Am I strange?

if you want to be totally controlling and dominating her you could do that while you guys having sex in the bedroom.

you need to talk to her and see how she feels about it instead of asking us.

[Asker]

Yeah, but I don't know how to ask her. I don't "humiliate" her by the way. I just play with her from time to time.

[Neubauten]

Judgment isn't bad. We all do it every day. Plus, this site is devoted to opinions. Every time you answer a question, you're making a judgment. And I agree this guy is warped.

[Asker]

Neubauten, you don't seem to be very clever. do you know the difference between an opinion and a judgement? sh*t, are you really 31?

[rdxhai]

Yeah you have issues.

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[rdxhai]

I guess I'm not into domination and all that stuff. But if she is and you are than more power to you but if she is not I would recommend not doing it.

[Asker]

OK, thanks.

[ttlynotobsessed]

My boyfriend does the same exact thing to me.

And I hate it so much.

It's not fun being held down and tickled until you can't breathe. Especially when there's other people there. I just don't understand why you do it. You sound like a total asshole by saying "I just love the feeling of totally controlling and dominating her." Domestic violence much?

Ask her opinion on it, and if she really doesn't like it, then stop!

[Asker]

I sound like a total asshole? so you also think your boyfriend is a total asshole?

[ttlynotobsessed]

Yeah, my boyfriend can be an asshole, because he has some issues in his life that we're trying to get by. Trying so hard. Maybe you have some hidden problems that you need to let out. Then maybe you wouldn't be so, controlling. But really, I seriously think that you should ask HER about it. Because she maybe she's the kinda of person that likes that kind of stuff. Obviously, I don't.

[Asker]

Hidden problem? hmm.. I don't think so. I'm not a bully and I don't need to compensate for sth. is teasing and dominating my sweet baby wrong? I love her and I'd never hurt her. why do so many girls think play wrestling/a dominant guy is such a bad thing? it makes me sad :(

[ttlynotobsessed]

Something that can start as playing around can end up as painful. It can be just by accident. My mom and little brother were fooling around YEARS ago, and my brother lost control of his strength and broke my mom's nose. And, once my boyfriend pinned me down with his leg, and forgot about the 18 screws in his leg, and it hurt so bad. Seriously, I'm NOT trying to be a bitch here. Just be careful and make sure it's okay with her! I'M not your girlfriend, SHE is. I know you care.

[Bella0019]

I'm sorry, but if she is telling you to stop, you should.

respect what she is saying

I know guys like to dominate, but you don't want things to go to far.

[Asker]

After our wrestling matches she never complains about what had happened. That is what makes me think she enjoys getting dominated.

[Bella0019]

Yes but do talk to her, when you guys aren't rough. Simply just ask her, if it bothers her when you do things like that. You just need to communicate with her. I mean what if it is bothering her? Just talk to her and see her view on it. She may like it, but maybe you are being a little rough, when she asks you to stop.

[Asker]

Ok, thank you.

[SunshineLady]

hell to the NO. you're like a guy very of me! haha..

[Asker]

So it wouldn't p*ss you off if I did that to you?

[SunshineLady]

Woops. I meant guy version of me. haha. no way.. I like to brawl too!

[Asker]

Yeah, but if we wrestled I'd win all the time. I'm pretty sure you wouldn't like it anymore. Or are you a submissive slave girl??

[Funerestle]

Same love it when my wife brawls and wrestle with me.

[Luke145]

I like wrestle with my girlfriend too (in a fun way) but she when tells me I stop. Maybe you should too and not get charge for rape.

[Asker]

LOL! You definitely took it too far.

[loveee]

that so disgusting what is your problem? why would you get joy out of hurting her?

i have no idea why she stays with you.

[Asker]

Because I am the greatest ever.

[loveee]

Ha obviously not.

[Ember123]

He's just playing all of you should calm down gosh he's not hurting her

[Refugee444]

you suffer(not the nicest word) from sadomasochism. It's not necessarily a horrible affliction so long as it doesn't entail damaging your girlfriend's health of course. You girlfriend would love it if she was a masochist. The fact that she accepts grappling with you in the first place and indulges in the activity (before you block her respiration) shows that she's competitive. The question you have to answer for yourself is how YOU would feel if she was strong or skilled enough to overcome you. If the answer is annoyed and humiliated, you should keep your girlfriend from attending martial arts courses as girls do happen to have controlling advantages such as the better usage of their legs over guys in grappling fights . If you want her to keep wrestling you, you should give her a certain lead to begin with, such as letting her sit on your back. This would help in creating a fairer situation and thus elicit a more motivated struggle in her.

[wrepalmer]

Strange? Not at all, man! I too share this fantasy - however, I've not actually asked my girl to let me take her on. However, I've begun putting her in some interesting wrestling holds as our foreplay progresses - she seems to like it. Nothing that hurts, just holds that restrict her movement. Like putting her in a tight full nelson - or pulling her into a cradle hold. I would like her to do the same with me - however, I haven't asked . . . yet. Would be fun to have an all-out wrestling match with her! Winner takes all sort of thing :)

[wrepalmer]

I WOULD LIKE TO WRESTLE YOUR GIRLFRIEND, TOO . . . WHILE YOU WATCH! You think you'd be into that?

[snmarve]

My roommate does the same thing to me! He likes to tickle and bit me until I admit defeat. I asked him about it and he told me he finds it adorable that I'm so helpless and can't defend myself. Personally I like it although it might not be for everyone. I think you should always gage your partners mood though and be sensitive to when you're really hurting.

[lauraluwho]

dont humiliate her be fun but not rubbing your junk in her face. if you do pin her down next time hold her arms above her head then kiss her!

[lnducing]

Heck no. That's totally hot for some chicks too! But you have to realize where she may be coming from... Some people just aren't into being controlled either through negative connotation of a previous experience or just self conscious about their vulnerability. Maybe you should try moving your controlling urges out of the annoying zone and more into the sexual one. She may just prefer you tying her up and doing what you will than being tickled. Try it.

[hateidiots]

You are a sick puppy, dude. Violence and abuse on women is no laughing matter, million women are victims of it every year, usually by "boyfriends" and husband. I pity your girlfriend. You will end in jail for domestic abuse and violence. May your useless soul roast in Hell as it deserves.

[Anonymous]

Wish I was her hehe

[Anonymous]

my boyfriend does that to me toooooo

[Anonymous]

I don't think you're weird, and if she likes and you like it, then it's fine. I wouldn't let you do it unless I knew I could totally trust you, but only because I have had some BAD experiences with men. Does getting horribly and roughly raped THREE TIMES mean anything? But that's just my problem

[Anonymous]

You are strange and a little messed up. I would call the cops on you! if she tells you to stop, then STOP! You sound like a sadistic maniac, yes you are very strange.

[Ember123]

Hey don't be mean he's fine just playing maybe you don't like it but he dosn't need to go to jail

[Anonymous]

s&m sh*t

[Anonymous]

well as long as you do treat her with dignity and respect out of this intimate environment and she's ok with this, then it's 'ok'

[Anonymous]

I would love a guy to do that to me. Its pretty hot :)

...As long as she's in to it its not a bad thing.

x

[Anonymous]

Yeah that's strange. It sounds like your saying controlling her makes you feel more like a man which is pathetic! I don't understand how you get any kind of excitement out of "controlling and dominating" a female damn that, some one your suppose to care about... That's the words of an abuser to be honest!

[Asker]

LOL! I'm just making fun of her. calm down! have you never wrestled a dominant guy before??? i think it's so cute to squeeze her chubby cheeks. she often provokes the wrestling matches so she obviously likes it too. like I said before I'm NOT a bully. I don't hurt other people to feel better (but I easily could if I wanted to cause I'm a strong guy). you're so shocked because I like to dominate a "female". would it be better if I dominated a random "male"? would it be less abusive?? hahaha...

[Opinion Owner]

Lmao ok! me and boyfriend wrestle too and there are times when he don't let me win but its not to the point where I can't stand it.

[Anonymous]

its not good to be a control freak...idk if you are one...but if you are, try not to be. Because its very hard to like a control freak.

[Asker]

I'm not a control freak. I just enjoy dominating her and showing her who is boss. What's wrong with that?

[Opinion Owner]

I can't tell if your being sarcastic or not. If you weren't, reread your comment to me lol. but as long as this is the only way you are controlling to her and she is ok with it I don't see a problem with it. But if you start telling her she can't hang out with other friends or guy friends, or how to dress, or treat her like your personal servant and "obedient 1950s wife" type of thing then that's DEFINETLY not ok.

[Asker]

"But if you start telling her she can't hang out with other friends or guy friends, or how to dress, or treat her like your personal servant and "obedient 1950s wife" type" LOL! I'm not like that at all. I let her do her "things" and I absolutely trust her. She's only my slave in bed. Do you think it's ridiculous th show her how dominant and much stronger I am? I mean... obviously a man like me is stronger. There is no need to prove it to her in a wrestling match, but I'm just so addicted to it.

[Anonymous]

Um...well, I wouldn't mind that much personally...but it can get annoying if it's over the top. Plus, she clearly doesn't like it, so I think you should stop...or at least tone it down.

[Asker]

But I'm addicted to that!!! What can I do about it? Slave girl needs to be put in her place. lol. I don't think this is a reason to break up with me. Or is it?

[Opinion Owner]

It's cute if it's done playfully once in awhile...but all the time and in that capacity...then yeah, I would consider breaking up with you. Seriously, just tone it down.

[Asker]

If you were my girlfriend, you definitely wouldn't break up with me for such a reason.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know; it could be an act on her part. It's fun when playful, but you make sound like you go crazy doing it...all the time...