What advice do you give a sexually active teenager?

My 14yo little cousin told me he is sexually active, not that i can say anything negative, i lost my virginity at his age.

He told me about "the pullout method", thinking it's some new idea, & i squashed that, telling him it's a rubber or nothing. He retorted with "She can't get pregnant if i pull out", i replied "Yeah, have you masturbated? (nod) You know the small beads that come out while you're doing it? (another nod) There's semen in that, so use a damned condom."

I asked what would he do IF he got his girl pregnant, he said he would step up. I asked what if his lady wanted to give it up for adoption, he said "dont i have first rights as the dad?" i replied, "Yes, but there's more to having a kid than you think. Say goodbye to the "me" mentality, say goodbye to being a kid yourself & now everything is about your kid while you're still a kid." I then asked, what if she wants to have an abortion, he replied "She wouldn't do that," i replied, "yeah, & pedophiles dont work as priests, doctors or teachers. You dont know what she would do when faced with the actuality of being pregnant."

What advice would you give a newly sexually active teen?
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  • I sat mine down after my ex wife had also been through the very factual and real world sex Ed.

    on top of her intro to sex and the things that can happen, I went over the various bollox guys will come out with to get in her pants, it was warts and all.

    between us we went from, masturbation, to actual sex, types of infection, what protection a condom gave, what a dam was, details of local family planning and our doctors contact details (stored on her mobile), the sexuality conversation (easy as my sis is bi and daughter grew up knowing this).

    we pretty much covered everything possible.

    one of the things my ex wife and me agree on, is I get to dig the hole where we put the body of any boy getting her pregnant. As I like to plan ahead, we have the spot already selected (just in case, also for any other reasons that may pop up).

    • Thats awesome! Good on you & your ex wife to at least agree on this topic & how to handle it.

    • @ Pretty Pink Anon, thanks. The thing is ignorance leads to pregnancy or infections etc, The Pull out method is simply Russian Roulette and is a ridiculous idea for birth control, mainly as it is not. Additionally it opens up things to life changing infections,

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  • You might have to buy him like a 36 pack of condoms. The reason most teens don't use condoms is that they are broke and feel uncomfortable buying them. maybe get him 2 packs. I get the 36 pack to this day from trojan and have had 0 women pregnant. The other option is to find his girlfriend and teach her about the pill. or knockout your cousin and get him a surprise vasectomy. Other alternatives: Hope his girlfriend happens to be the 1 in a 100 girl that like anal even more than vaginal intercourse. Get him a robot sex doll and see if that replaces his girlfriend. Give him some of those anti-boner pills every day. If those ideas seem outlandish I would just go with getting him a couple boxes of condoms and make him promise to use them. If he still gets her pregnant you know you tried.

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  • There’s probably little advice you can give beyond what you already have that will sink in. He’s a horny teenage boy thinking with his dick right now and he doesn’t believe anything bad can happen because he lacks the life experience to know better. I can relate because I was sexually active at a young age and I trusted the pull out method too. When I didn’t get pregnant, it just reinforced in my mind that it was perfectly fine to trust it, when I could have very easily gotten pregnant and other girls I knew had. Just keep giving him sound advice. Encourage him to use condoms. Reiterate that his life as he knows it will change forever when he becomes responsible for a child. Whether or not he takes your advice is up to him but at least you’ve spoken truth to him.

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  • Fucken wear a condom if he's having sex! Not just for pregnancy but stds and sti risks.

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  • The pull out method doesn’t work. Use condoms or teach her anal.

    • Could not agree more, Go raw anal!

  • Well, honestly, the condom advice is the best you can do other than giving him some condoms. I actually lost my virginity at 13, and ended up getting my girlfriend pregnant when I was 14. For the purposes of my life path, I was lucky that she got an abortion, because if I had ended up being a father that young I wouldn't have accomplished everything I have. Early pregnancy is the number 1 killer of life goals.

    Pregnancy and STI's are the main thing you need to warn him about, and I would suggest you actually do buy him some condoms, because a lot of guys that age are embarrassed to go buy them. People will certainly say, "if you are to shy to buy condoms, you shouldn't be having sex," but, we all know that isn't going to stop them from having sex.

  • Ahahahahahha I like you some no nonsense persona as for what to say protection man most important u was right in saying ahe can get pregnant from precum the chance is low but it does happen

    • Always no nonsense in my house when he's over. I told him, if he wants to act like an adult, I'm going to talk to him like an adult. The boy can't even make himself some Kraft Mac & Cheese from the box, he isn't anywhere close to being ready to be responsible for a child of his own.

    • Thats the thing its easy to say ill step up when u have no clue what that actually means you did the right thing

  • Use a damn condom.

  • Does this kid's school not teach him this? So much easier when they do. He sounds kinda immature probably not a good idea for him to do anything anyway.

  • Well, you are correct, the pre-ejaculate lubrication does sometimes contain sperm, although it is not semen, I was told that also, but cannot vouch for the validity of it. Truth be told, if you are intent on fucking, get on BC

  • Use a condom if she isn't on birth control is pretty much the best advice you can give. Boys only get lucky for so long.

  • I'd show them youtube videos of kids throwing temper tantrums in public places for an hour with the volume maxed so the screaming kids burn a permanant spot in their brain. Then say "Birth Control" and leave it at that.

  • I'd tell them to stop, plain and simple. And in most cases by the way, he has zero rights as a father because he's a minor. The child would go into protective services. He already thinks he's too smart for his britches, and needs to be taken down to the bottom rung.

  • I think you did a great job talking to him. Kudos to you. Thanks for being a positive role model.

  • Yeah he needs to wear a condom or not have sex. I would maybe also tell him he too young to have sex unless he know you had sex at his age.

  • Buy him condoms and educate him on the ins and outs of sex. Pun intended, lol.

  • Stop. 😐
    People should absolutely never have sex underage, and even at 18yo it’s best to wait and find a serious relationship that doesn’t require sex to be joyful.

  • My advice is simple. If you're going to be sexually active, wear a condom. No ifs, ands, or buts about it. Play safe or don't play at all

  • Better to play and be safe than lose your opportunities in life by not being safe

  • Make sure you play safely.

  • USE A CONDOM!!!

  • Wrap it up. Consent.

  • Use a condom every time. A judge won't award custody of a child to a 14 year old. It's not just pregnancy, it's to protect both partners from STDs.

  • Condoms, patience, outersex, end of story.

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