I'd say it would be a useful tool for a guy to keep me obedient and being a good girl but there's no way around how inherently sexual it is in a relationship.
But sure, I'd be down for my boyfriend to spank me non-sexually when I messed up. It seems like something I'd be open to.
It can be a good way of clearing the air so people can move on. But it shouldn't be used to threaten and totally dominate.
Yes, exactly. That is the purpose of spanking therapy. I'm glad someone understood what I am talking about.
No only one person would be able to move on, not the person getting spanked. Not to mention, it gives the stringer of the two an excuse to abuse their partner. That’s why I always say, never lay a hand of harm on each other. I’d say if someone feels the need to hit their partner, they need to start attending couples counseling. If a guy smacked me in a nonsexual way or inflicted pain on me I’d turn around and beat his ass. Then drop him like a dirty habit.
@Sweetheart666 It may be true that you would not be able to move on after receiving a spanking but some people would find it helpful in moving on even as the receiver, me for example. If I felt that I was in the wrong or had done some immoral and deserving of punishment, a spanking is something I’d prefer over other types of regularly accepted “punishments” between adults. It’s an emotional release and helps relieve anxiety.
It's a good idea, spanking therapy can be really effective, it releases endorphins and gives you a much better lift than Prozac etc,,,
If you hit a woman or any person without their consent and to inflict pain on them you deserve to go to prison.
@Sweetheart666 oh I agree completely!,
The quit saying it’s a good idea to hit your partner. There’s a reason laws are enforced. It’s because people started abusing women so badly that they’d end up in the hospital or dead. Shame on you for planting a seed that abusing women is okay. The commenter specifically said it was not sexual. It was to inflict pain.
More A than B but it really, really depends on the dynamics of the relationship.
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I'm taking this seriously. Even in a dom sub relationship, spanking is sexual foreplay as well as discipline. There is NO spanking that is NOT sexual between adults. Spanking is not done to make another adult stop a behavior, as it is done with very young children who don't understand why you don't want them to stop putting their fingers near the fireplace.
It's up to the couple to decide whether spankings that INCLUDE discipline are necessary. But don't try to divorce the sexuality from the spankings. Dom and sub are ALSO sexual role playing.
Being unable to separate sexuality from spanking may be impossible for you but rest assured it is not impossible!!! I am submissive have had several Dom/Sub relationships that have been strictly friendship. Dom-sun happens very naturally in MOST relationships and is in fact very common in twins who I bet would indeed argue that there is nothing sexual about it! When I develop a close friendship with a dominant, it’s typically someone who has a natural authority, a boss for example who is able to correct me. I’m submissive to her correction as it’s within her role and right to correct but also because it’s part of my natural personality and she is a person I trust and respect. Correction in the form of a spanking is no more sexual than being written up within the context of our relationship.
@Jill42 There is no friend who I would allow to spank me. You might call it dominant 'submissive relationships. I call it friendships where sometimes I take the lead and sometimes the other person does. There are no rigid roles. And though a boss might correct me for not doing something as they'd prefer, that doesn't make them dominant. It simply makes them "the boss." And it IS their role to correct me if I'm not performing to their standards. However, I don't qualify relationships in a dominant'submissive way. Maybe it's because I'm not submissive in general, but I understand workplace roles as top of the foodchain and worker bee. Children are spanked. If adults are involved, spanking always has sexual and overtones of brutality. Which Is why it is not allowed in the workplace and is no longer allowed in schools. .
In that position you are going to get more than a spanking.
If it's not sexual you are doing it wrong.
I think it is needed sometimes for the submissive partner to administer spankings to the dominant partner, for the submissive and the dominant partner's own benefit
What is a "non-sexual" spanking, in a relationship? Never heard of such a thing!
It’s just a spanking. Discipline. Punishment. I don't know the concept doesn’t seem hard for me. I don’t get off on being hurt physically by people who care about me. But in some situations where my actions cause me to feel remorse; accepting correction in the form of a spanking seems more normal than expecting to feel sexually aroused from the situation.
People non sexual spank? News me to me. Mildly distressing news to me.
I've sometimes served various women and couples as a maid, and since I cleaned their homes free of charge, they often agreed to spank me with a belt, switch or cane, etc. Sometimes I got more than I bargained for... lol
I vote A definitely A
Aww. Your enthusiasm is cute.
Hehe thanks
There’s no such thing as non sexual spanking in these scenarios
Spanking it's compulsory, do it every time you got the chance, make us feel yours.
Honestly if I guy were to hit me, I’d leave. It may seem small of an issue, but it will progress and become more violent. I’d also grow to resent him.
I love it when my boyfriend spanks me, but we could never make it non sexual lmao even if he was spanking me for being bad (in all seriousness) or "therapeutic reasons" (never heard of that) we would still both get turned on. Aaaand then I would end up getting a sausage in my hoo ha if ya know what I mean. I'm not complaining though.. ;)
I got a speeding ticket before and my fiancée spanked my ass hehe
Most girls I know enjoy a spanking, so can It be punishment...
I think it is needed sometimes for the dominant partner to administer spankings to the submissive partner, for the submissive partner's own benefit
They dont even realize that they need it, but after years of spanking they will eventually come to realize that we are right
If you hit/hurt your partner without consent and to inflict pain, you deserve to go to prison.
I also despise that you’d hit your partner and break them down over years and years of abuse. It always escalates too. You’re an abuser and deserve what you give.
@Sweetheart666 You sound like you need one of my patented spankings. You are clearly of Satan and you need the devil to be purged from your buttocks
and yet women still want it to happen..
hmmmm
How is that non-sexual?
It’s so surprising to me that people comment in disbelief that a spanking could be non-sexual. It seems like me that it should be more surprising when people gain gratification from pain. Spankings can definitely happen in a non sexual way between two consenting adults. I guess being a submissive person it’s easier for me to accept the idea of correction from another trusted adult.
Never found this attractive.
The first time a man spanks his girlfriend - or wife - is a milestone in their
relationships. If the girl knows - deep inside - that she has deserved to be
spanked, she will get to love and respect her partner even more for not
putting up with everything. And a real man only spanks the woman he loves
to make a better person and partner. So try it - it is worth it for both parties.
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