Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health No need to think back, you don't answer for yourself here! Answer what you THINK the opposite sex faces the most.
Insecurities can be anything from questions you would rather have an answer to, to not sure how you look or perform. It can also mean a kind of fear. Obviously the gender specific things might be more interesting compared to the ones probably everyone has, but I keep that up to your answer.
Either for the first time ever or for the first time with a new partner. (First time having sex but that should be obvious I think)
Some things might change when you have the pressure of knowing how it works in general gone. So please specify what you answer or answer both🤗.
I think seeing the questions on this side might already give me a good idea but lets see what other think.
If you answer for your partner keep their privacy in mind.
What do you think are the most common insecurities the opposite sex has concerning their first time or the first time with a new partner?
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Guys compare themselves with other guys. There's a lot of insecurity about performance/penis size.
-Insecurities related to body like weight, size, scars, stretch marks...
-Insecurities related to performance like inability to get an erection, the ability to make the partner orgasm...
- aftermath insecurities attachment issues, whether they are going to want to do it again, are they going to tell people...
both sexes share most of these insecurities.
am I big? big enough for her? bigger than the guys she slept with before me?
how do I not orgasm too soon? did she orgasm? did she fake her orgasm?
was I too rough? does she want me to be rough?
clothes on or off? how much to take off or leave on? how do I take off her bra?
I have not been with a new partner in a long time so my memory fails me. I'm sure I was nervous but don't remember the specifics.
Is this going to be ok, or did we just destroy things.
id say it would be being seen without clothes on, definitely exposes a female when all there insecurities are there to be seen. (Common for them to try stay under doona or keep light off etc.)
I think it depends on the age.
Because I can tell you now it's I wonder what her motivations are. 30 years. Ago I would have believed it's love, not anymore. Most women at this age don't even like men anymore let alone love them. So it's a matter of trying to determine what she's seeking so as to know how much leverage I actually have in this "relationship".
I think girls worry about whether a guy will think:
her boobs are too small
her pussy looks funny or smells weird
her ass is too big
will he want to do kinky stuff the first time/what if he wants to do something she doesn't want to do
will she please him
will he want to not use condoms
will he think she is too kinky/too vanilla
will I ever hear from him again after we have sex
Are their private parts good enough
I think women are most insecure about thinking a man may think they had sex too soon and lose respect and treat her as a one night stand. Insecurity about receiving oral sex and the way the man might think their vagina looks, smells or tastes is another.
The way I helped my then girlfriend (now wife) with the first was to make her breakfast the next morning, have sex with her again, spend the day with her, and then sleep together again to make sure she felt comfortable it wouldn't be a one-time thing. For the second one, I tell her often how much her smell and taste turns me on and that nothing is sexier to me than giving her oral.