What does a guy mean when he says he"had a moment of weakness" after sex or a hookup? (Read the snap pic please!)?
Paolaa988Explorer
So yesterday as i previously stated on my other questions that i had sex the first time yesterday with this guy 18, ( we used a condom) and it was really easygoing not much awkwardness, we payed for a nice hotel, we talked to each other and it was both our first times and one thing led to another you know, and we started making out taking off our clothes and then we began having sex for a long hot time, teasing each other in between, foreplay etc and then he fucked me in 3 different positions and i took it like a champ for a first time girl. I feel good about myself. Anyways, after we were done we got dressed and left and he said he enjoyed it a lot and it felt great then i went back home and i go on about my day feeling so different with a whirlwind of emotions since like wow i lost my virginity, i did this and then i was watching netflix till i took a shower and after i get out i get a snap saying that he said he's been thinking and he regrets things possibly and it felt like a moment of weakness on his end and i dont understand at all. I did mention that id like to be friends and maybe we can become more but maybe he just wants nothing to do with me and it was just sex for him nothing more nothing less but should i take this to heart? My friends and mom say i shouldn't that just take it as casual sex and a experience i got to feel. I dont regret it that's the thing because i enjoyed the sex too i just was sorta i guess getting into him a little but maybe it's better we dont talk anymore.
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sidh1Xper 1
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I think he means that he finds you a nice lady but he isn't looking for any sort of relationships or emotional binding
The sex you had was just with the heart of the moment and he can't or won't be in for doing that over again
He seems to be a nice person and has been respectful in his message
For you, I would say.. Nothing to take on heart as you've said it was a casual hook up only!!
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ohsheeMaster
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That is your typical teenage boy will talk to you tell you everything you want to hear just to get in your pants in the moment he does it did they come up with something like that most of the time it's I'm sorry my dog ate my homework I won't be able to see you anymore to get that mixed up with school oh yeah you're right well my dog that's cool so I can't see you anymore doing my homework
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LaciandmaciXper 7
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Honey, I was afraid of this, when I asked you how long you knew him for and you said 2 months. That is just playing with fire, only knowing a guy for 2 months and sleeping with him is not good it calls for heartbreak. I'm feel sorry for you.
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Laciandmaci
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Also you said the sex hurt, so how was pain enjoyable, I am only saying this as you asked a question when does sex not hurt.
Paolaa988
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I know:( i wanted to experience it but I don't know i thought he'd at least wanna be friends but maybe he dont wanna give me false hopes. He was a decent guy though like clean and friendly. I just think he doesn't want anything more and i was down at first and a bit disappointed but im taking it like a grain of salt. Well it was enjoyable once the pain eased down and us teasing each other. I mean he made me feel comfortable and he even considered my feelings when it got painful going inside.
Paolaa988
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He was being nice and respectful and at least i didn't get ghosted or ignored. Im looking at the bright side. I dont regret it i just felt a bit dissapointed but i know the next time i want it to be someone who is truly into me
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Laciandmaci
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honey, if he was a decent guy he wouldn't have said what he said in that message. I am hurting for you!
Laciandmaci
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You should have had your 1st time with someone who was TRULY into you, it would have been way more special. But take care and good luck. And basically if he no longer talks to you he now ghosted you.
Moment of weakness means that he wasn't in the right place with you to have sex, but that he did anyway.
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Paolaa988
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Do you think he probably had a change of heart but didn’t wanna back out because he said he wanted to lose his virginity too really bad
FilmGuy93
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I don't know and I wouldn't feel comfortable speculating about that.
TallAnonMaster
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"Got laid, done with you, ciao"
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obtuseocelotXper 4
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He was just horny. Doesn't want to pursue a relationship.
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WaldoeGuru
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he isn't clear "Why", but he is clear that he isn't interested... sorry babe, move on, don't look back
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SilverRain92Yoda
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He just used you for satisfying his sexual needs. He has zero interest in you and doesn't need you anymore. Just find someone better
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TstrbrainerGuru
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Have you guys made it clear that it was just for sex in the beginning?
I think he too just wanted sex and after that he was worried if it turns into a relationship. Probably he is not really for a relationship.
Anyway it doesn't matter at all. You both got what you wanted and had a good time, that's all that matters. Just enjoy your life the way you want
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Bklynbadboy12Guru
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Damn I'm so sorry your had to go through this your to good a girl to have your emotions played with like that. When he says he has a moment of weekends he mean he didn't really want to do it but he got caught up in the moment. If you need some to talk to about it I'm here
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Paolaa988
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I don't know why he'd say he enjoyed it and he kept wanting to go too. We did 3 positions. Maybe he didn't want his first time like that after all? I don't know what to think. It's just kind of a disappointment but im trying to look at the bright side you know. I dont regret it exactly. It's complicated i just didn't think he'd wanna be done with me so sudden but maybe he doesn't wanna give me false hopes since he knows it meant a lot to me after all. Aww thank you.
Paolaa988
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I just over think and i worry i did something wrong😔
Bklynbadboy12
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In box me I want to chat with you ok
Anonymous
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how long did he last his first time?
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Paolaa988
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We were going for like an hour lol
Opinion Owner
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thats impressive since you say it was his first time as well
Paolaa988
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Really? Yeah i really found it hot asf but i just suppose he doesn't want any sort of emotional binding or to give me some false hopes so he probably thought its best we leave it as that. I shouldn't take it personal then?
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Opinion Owner
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so you and him are not gonna meet again?
Paolaa988
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No i think he just wanted a one night stand. I hope he doesn't feel bad like having a change of heart since im a girl he didn't really know but yeah.
Anonymous
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My guess is there was a lot of foreplay involved before intercourse.
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Anonymous
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He used your ass and then wanted to break it to you easily now that he got what he wanted.
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Anonymous
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He just wanted to fuck you
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Anonymous
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He may have used you for sex. Unless he made it clear that this was just casual.
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