What does my boyfriend masterbate over?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend told me he masterbates occasionally over porn, his imagination and me. When he said imagination what did he mean I'm just curious? Did he mean imagining things with me or other women? He has a lot of good girl mates that he's close with and I wanted to know if he masterbates over them if they are pretty? it just bugs me because I worry what he's doing

[truthbeknown]

Most guys have very active sexual imaginations. I love my wife, but I also love lesbians, threesomes, a bit of gay porn and what-not. Obviously, those aren't physically possible in the bedroom with her, so I turn to porn instead. That's all it is. You cannot 100% satisfy your man all the time, no single woman can with ANY guy! We all watch porn. Has nothing to do with wanting someone else or not wanting you.

[Asker]

I don't mind him watching porn at all, just worried what he meant by imagination like is that people he knows, his girl friends?

[truthbeknown]

Why the downvote? I am trying to help and be honest! I wasn't trying to be rude or insensitive.

[Asker]

I didn't down vote you!

[truthbeknown]

Thankyou!

[Ovidiu-Nicolae]

If he watch porn on all, either you either other girls.
You're such a nice person to accept that, if he's introvert and shy he wouldn't do with other girls :)) and if he has problem with his toy he might canțt be able to fuck
On the other hand you should know him already, how much time youțve been on?

[Asker]

He's no shy, I know he does it to porn that doesn't bother me it's the case that he could wank to real life people we see everyday and know haha he won't have sex with me because his job is stressful but it's shit :/ we've been together 3 years

[Ovidiu-Nicolae]

What? You kidding? No way even if I had a stessful job some sort of sex I still do.. oral.. I don't know what to say about that, how the heck others have so much luck :(

[Lolita911]

u act like u don't masturbate... and it's probably to the same stuff as him. porn and imagination. u can't get mad over something u do as well

[ruthfaithseer]

Likely over them more than you. Being honest. Slot of lady friends likely means more than chopping the ol' woody

[ShawtyTooCute]

Me. And every other girl out there. Guys can't stop looking at cute girls. It's in their DNA.

[Curious625]

Ask him lol. He might fantasise over faceless women tbh.

[Asker]

He gets funny when I ask and refuses to say?

[Curious625]

Maybe he thinks it would affect your relationship. If you make it clear you just want to understand rather than judge him he might. If not let him know what's on your mind regarding the situation and how it makes you feel.

[Asker]

I tried asking and got a bollocking lol I think he's sensitive about it but he doesn't get that I don't care I tried to explain

[Curious625]

Maybe just leave it then. It's okay for him to dream up things as long as he doesn't act on them. Doesn't mean he loves you any less.

[Asker]

I said to him do you wank to colleagues at work lol and he said 'I know what your getting at and you can fuck off' and I said 'what' and he said 'you know what' he knew I was asking about one girl in particular but by saying 'you can duck off' does that mean yes I do but I'm not saying or no way would I do that?

[Curious625]

It's clear that you're asking him because you're insecure about his feelings towards other women. Even if he fantasises about others it doesn't discredit his feelings towards you. A lot of the time it's about experiencing what you can't have and most times don't really want long term. That's why he didn't want to answer because you clearly just want to know if he has feeling for this girl. Fantasies and feelings do not go hand in hand.

[Asker]

I just can't get my head around why he would fantasise about someone he knew though :( when you say he's doing it because he can't have it it makes me feel like he would happily have sex with her given the chance. I feel emotionally cheated on. I just never thought men thought like this :/ how could he imagine her face and stuff it's gross

[Curious625]

I understand exactly where you're coming but from. I guess to an extent he may want her but only physically. Because he admires physical assets that she has so thinks about experiencing them. That doesn't mean he'd cheat given the chance. He fantasises for sexual pleasure in the moment and he can control everything that happens, he understands the reality is different hence why he's with you and not her. He may not even fantasise about though and he doesn't want to answer you because you most likely won't believe him. Don't doubt him until he gives you reason to do so.

[Asker]

It's just hurts that he would think of her psysically because I'm insecure about my body anyway and he might fantasise about her boobs and bum and it's horrible :( why wouldn't he only think of me? :/ I asked him again and he said he doesn't do it over friends but no I don't believe him, as all the men on here are saying otherwise :/

[Curious625]

I understand that but he's with and that should count for something. But all the men on here aren't him, everyone's different so respect what he's saying, unless there's a valid reason for you to think otherwise. Not everyone is turned on by the same things, he may not be turned on by imaging people he knows personally.

[tattooedhandfet]

If it bothers ya so much, ask him if he jerks off to his girl friends.

[Asker]

He would never tell me, I've asked a general question before and he got really defensive

[tattooedhandfet]

Then that should speak volumes.

[Asker]

I said to him do you wank to colleagues at work lol and he said 'I know what your getting at and you can fuck off' and I said 'what' and he said 'you know what' he knew I was asking about one girl in particular but by saying 'you can duck off' does that mean yes I do but I'm not saying or no way would I do that?

[Petya00]

he probably thinks of you.. i mean if he loves you

[GingerGuy]

You would have to ask him this. Could be anything.

[troychapman]

its probably about you

[heartsobig]

Wether or not he thinks of certain girls when he masturbates, you will have to ask. But I can tell you that my imagination can take me to faceless women. I actually prefer it that way.

[Asker]

Are you in a relationship? So you wouldn't masterbate over girl mates at all?

[heartsobig]

Personally I prefer not to think of women I know. Even when I am not in a relationship. Sometimes her face or voice jumps into my head but I push it away. It just what I do. If you are my lover you and your body are always on my mind when I am masturbating.

[Asker]

Your perfect! Haha I know my boyfriend has a lower sex drive than some and when I've sent him pictures in the past he's told me that he wanked over them but the only reason it has bugged me is because he started a new job and is working one on one with this girl and she is very attractive they are really close and I was worried he would wank over her as we don't have sex as much now?

[heartsobig]

Perfect is a big word. :) Your boy is lucky that you are working this out on your mind. I would say most men can work with an attractive woman and not go home and masturbate about it. :) And no matter how she looks, you are the one he wants. If you are unsatisfied sexually I would tell you to have a sit down, heart to heart conversation with him. Find a good place in the middle or find a guy that meets all, or more of your needs. Life is too short.

[Asker]

Aww thanks :-) he doesn't think so, I just asked him if he does over his friends and he said no but then said I'm not discussing this with you, he's gets really funny and that's it :/ I know it's awkward but I just want him to sum it up? Lol

[LucienFolter]

Probably not cranking down to one thing in particular. Just whatever he's up for at the time. If he's got the time and privacy to beat off he's almost always going to opt for porn over his imagination.

[EAThomas]

My opinion is not to stress about it. I think women can sometimes feel cheated on by a man masterbating to porn or fantasies about other women. However for me, I have always masterbated whether in a relationship or not. It is more about a diversion and fantasy in the moment and has never taken away from my desire for my partner.

One thing I will say is to talk to your boyfriend about. Understand what he likes, doesn't like and then discuss how you feel about his masterbating, talk to him about what you masterbate to (if you do). Talking about and removing the taboo about it between you and your boyfriend you will have a better relationship and feel more connected and satisfied with your partner. Good luck.

[yilanjor]

He's imagining about banging married women cheating on their husbands

[TonyRyanAgain]

It's not real, shouldn't bother you.

[icebear1801]

I'd say since you mentioned him watching porn it's probably what ever shit he's watching but replace the actors with you and some of his lady friends and boom 💥 you have his fantasy

[scooogy]

he most likely masturbates over the other women.

[Asker]

So his girl mates? Isn't that weird when he's with me?

[scooogy]

it's wrong, though it's usual

[mrdave11]

ask him

[Asker]

He got funny before when I asked

[mrdave11]

well he'll know a lot better than anyone here

[jericholucian]

more than likely it is of you on what he would do with you. I know when I watch it I put myself and my girlfriend or if I'm single. the person I have a crush on.

[Anonymous]

Anything and everything.
Don't worry about it, it has nothing to do with you in any way. Just like your fantasies don't have to do with him in all cases.

[Anonymous]

Probably both.
He might be masturbating to his girl mates. Most men do.