What if I die a virgin?

[Jesslin412]

What if I never have sex. Like at this point I don’t even want to. I don’t think it’ll be fun and I don't know how to. I’m just over it. It hurts to much every time we try and nothing happens. I’ll probably never get off from it and I’ll just feel squished the whole time. And it’ll probably hurt when he tries anyways. It doesn’t sound fun at all.

[EmbraceThePain]

What if you die a virgin? Well, do you want die a virgin? There are some people who die a virgin and don’t care one way or another about it, so I wouldn’t say it’s something necessarily bad but it’s something that I seriously consider you think about because most people like sex and having sex with someone they love. Sex is a by product of being in love, so think about what you’re possibly missing. I know you’ve probably had negative first experiences and have been in pain, but these can easily be fixed. These are non issues in my opinion, non issues. If you don’t know what to do, google it. Not knowing what to do is the least of your concerns. The most important thing is how you feel about the person.

[lightbulb27]

well, if you don't, you can hang out with Mother Teresa! I was way older than you when I did, so I feel your pain.
But you will have sex, and orgasms and will feel really good.
Maybe it help to realize this happens to people, that's one reason there are sex therapists. Gotta let go of the stress somehow... let go of the expectations. Lower animals don't have these problems beacause they don't have these big brains to mess things up.
Maybe you two... time to watch a sex training video and just be open? he needs some work on his side... mentally. he needs to be talking to guys or expertise... a therapist. his head is screwed up, shouldn't take much to fix it.

[lightbulb27]

To me it is just like plumbing... it's a clog in his emotional head. clear out the clog and all is good...+ some training that all guys need. He have any friends who are married that can help? The pressure needs to come down on your side, he needs to let go of... something on his side... that is holding him back. The love can be poison sometimes. Read the post from the other girl that is all lust... lust works with sex. Love takes a little work, probably because of his image of what wife/marriage is.

[Jesslin412]

Lol that’s a good analogy. Yeah cause he’s had sex. I think he just wants to make it right. Make it special and gets in his head. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’m gonna die a virgin!

[lightbulb27]

Tell him here's the deal. your job is to catch me, forget about love and wedding, this is all lust now. you want me or you don't, have 5 condoms ready. Start over fresh, there is no wedding... go to bar, you sit there... game on... and let guys hit on you. If you were near me, I'd do that as a fun project for the fun! Hire a friend or pay a player if you have to. That should boost the energy. And his job is to come save you, beat those guys away, seduce you, and have his way with you! If he doesn't know how, he better start leraning then hugh! he has 2 weeks! simple:) Trash the love and doing right, right now, that's the clog. Add love in as sprinkles on the cake. It's sooo easy!

[StingRayxoxo]

If this is the person you love and want to be with, keep trying. Maybe you struggle now but eventually you'll get the hang of it.
I dont think it's necessarily as painful as people make it out to be... I think that was often a scare tactic so women would remain virginal for longer. It was painful (ish) but not so painful that you never want to do it again.

[Jesslin412]

Thanks 😪 I just need to breathe. Take a break for a while from things

[MlleCake]

Oh honey, that pain is not necessary. You're trying to have intercourse before you are ready.

All the stuff you were taught about hymens is nonsense.

PM me if you want to talk about how to have pleasurable sex.

It's ok if you never want to.

But you deserve at least a fair shot at it before giving up.

[Jesslin412]

I mean we haven’t done it yet

[MlleCake]

Yeah. So, let's talk about it so you know how to create pleasure together rather than fear pain.

[Jesslin412]

He’s had sex before. Lots of times. 🤷🏻‍♀️ he just can’t with me. I don’t understand why except for he’s nervous

[MlleCake]

He's trying to insert his penis before you are ready.

[Jesslin412]

He hasn’t tried

[MlleCake]

Then what's painful?

[Jesslin412]

He loses his election every time

[Jesslin412]

Erection

[MlleCake]

Ok, well he is nervous too. He also needs to relax. But YOU also need to understand that pain is not necessary.

[koalita_]

Do whatever feels good for you :)

[PrincessGrail]

Get him to lick you!!!

[Jesslin412]

He has but he stops

[PrincessGrail]

It might take you a while to cum. He needs to be patient.

[MlleCake]

Well, he'd better up his game.

[DevikaButts95]

@Jesslin412 Honestly if he won't have regular sex with you, he should at least do that until you cum.

[PrincessGrail]

@DevikaButts95 agreed!!!

[DevikaButts95]

Like it's a rule between my guy and me that he has to stay down there and lick me until I cum. Like, literally one time he had plans with friends and he just didn't show up because he just couldn't get me to. And he stayed. And it took, like, multiple hours.

[PrincessGrail]

@DevikaButts95 wow.

[Rider22]

@DevikaButts95 good rule.

[Jesslin412]

He’d never do that

[DevikaButts95]

Then he's lame, and clearly doesn't care about your needs.

[PrincessGrail]

@DevikaButts95 once again, agreed

[Jesslin412]

I feel weird when he does oral. Exposed

[MlleCake]

Cover yourself with a blanket.

[PrincessGrail]

@MlleCake good idea!!

[DevikaButts95]

Keep a shirt on perhaps? I usually receive head with just my pants off. Sometimes I'm still wearing a skirt.

[ItsyBits]

You sound like you are going through a lot. Maybe you are putting too much pressure on yourself. I wish you the best.

[TripleAce]

I dunno, sex is the most natural easiest things to do in life... nature has made it so easy that people often times end up sticking it in goats and donkeys... yes it’s that easy

I think it’s safe to say, if it’s this much work... it’s safe to say you aren’t right for each other... or he’s not right for you and I’d move on or take a break for now...

I mean it’s literally penis In vagina... nothing more nothing less huh

[JohnAlaska43]

If he's losing his erection might need him to get checked out.
It has to do with stage frightness but he shouldn't have problems holding his errections. A guys erextion can last a long time but guys can have disfunctions that will mske them go limp.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Maybe sex isn't for you. I would talk to a therapist they
know best for you.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Hey i am odd ball i never had sex and I'm virgin.

[MlleCake]

Wow. Very interesting.

[MyExperience]

If you are not interested in sex, find other fulfilling aspects to your life. Being a virgin or not does not define you as a human being.

[Giggletr0n]

Not like you can change it when you are dead so what does it matter?

[Attractivegirl899]

How about you go get another guy?

[Rider22]

That’s not the answer

[Attractivegirl899]

Yes it is

[Rider22]

Why maybe she really likes him

[Attractivegirl899]

@Jess you need to watch porn

[Rider22]

Is that what you do

[Attractivegirl899]

Wells then go get another guy @Asker

[hansukota]

Ik this is personal but if u have sex more times a week there won't b much pain. In other words it won't be too tight.. Also sounds like your not turned on enough

[Jesslin412]

He’s never tried going in. I’ve never had sex

[hansukota]

Then how us it painful?

[Jesslin412]

He loses his erection every time. He gets upset and I get upset cause I’m frustrated

[hansukota]

OK. With the update it make more sense now. I guess more foreplay and nudity should do the trick. If you're interested I can tell a few tricks to prevent losing the erections

[NYCQuestions1976]

I think your future husband would be disappointed...

[Pejtu]

No idea , but untill my girlfriend met me on tinder she thought the same was she is 20 we are together for 8 months

She was a virgin before she met me and she never had a boyfriend , now she can't see the world without me

install tinder :)

[Lightning8]

You could be asexual, or maybe it's just difficult for you to get aroused, like maybe very specific things need to happen. Have you read erotica?

[Philyouup]

Aww Jess. It’s not like that all. I promise. Really. If it was , we would have never become a humans in the first place.

[Jesslin412]

I’m just over it. Had a bad week and haven’t seen him. We’re not gonna do anything this weekend anyways. It’s always the same

[Philyouup]

😔😐😶

[Philyouup]

Take a break from all this. Your getting stressed.

[Jesslin412]

Yeah haven’t seen him all week and apparently I’ve been annoying whining over everything all week. Pissed me off last night. I barely want to see him tonight. I just want to stay home. It’s hard to see him just on the weekends. And he has been no help this week. Putting him to work Saturday though. I have a huge dog to bathe and I literally can’t do it

[Philyouup]

Well that’s a way of putting him the dog house. Lol.

[Jesslin412]

😂😂 yeah

[Philyouup]

Lol !

[GreenGold1992]

I think you should think about what's more important to you, love or sex, you can have one without the other, you know,

[Jesslin412]

Love is more important 😪 hormones just driving me insane. I love him so much I want all of him

[Straight_Shooter]

It will happen when the time is right. Don't lose hope.

[Rider22]

Don’t you have a boyfriend

[Clarke498]

Why such a rush? Just be more open minded and that could maybe get you more into the thought of sex...

[hellknight666]

If ya need any tips message

[BigBlueGuy]

Sounds like this is not worth all the aggravation for you. Best to remain celibate I think.

[Jesslin412]

Thanks

[BigBlueGuy]

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