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Not my proudest moment, but I refused to date someone cuz of his name. He had the same name as my brother. And, not only that, he had the same nickname as my brother as well! I know, it's pretty fucking shallow. But if we were to have sex, I don't wanna be yelling my brother's name. I'm sorry, but gross. I didn't really like the guy that much either. This was when I was younger, like 18. A friend of mine broke up with a guy cuz she didn't like his hands. She has somewhat of a hand fetish, and he had small hands. She said she liked "big, manly hands". So after about a week of them dating, she broke it off. Another friend of mine broke up with a girl cuz he didn't like her feet. He said they were shaped weird. He said they got naked, he saw her feet, and lost his boner (lol wtf), but he had sex with her anyways and then broke it off. I personally think all feet pretty much look the same, but whatever. Another guy friend broke up with a girl cuz she had a weave. He said he doesn't like weaves on girls. He had a really bad experience with a girl with a weave, she didn't really wash her hair, and he said she smelled and was always sweaty. Plus, he said he likes to pull hair, and he can't do that with a weave. So he dated a girl for like a few weeks. He thought it was her natural hair, but it turned out to be a weave. So he broke it off, despite really liking her. TLDR: Just answer the original question you lazy fuck.
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27 36I've never rejected or broke up with someone due to a shallow reason, it was always either because I lost attraction (physical or emotional) towards her, or because I started to like another girl.
You're a better person than I am lol
I know ;P
I prefer the terms "idiosyncratic" or "quirky" reasons. I don't mean to split hairs here, but "shallow" is loaded with negative connotation, and I don't like to make people feel bad for rejecting people for reasons which might very well be beyond their control.
That being said, I guess the most shallow reason I've ever declined a date is because I thought she was physically unattractive.
By the way, I could see having a sibling's name as a total turn off. If ever I met some woman who had my mother's name (unlikely, my mother is the only woman I've met with her name) that would be a total deal breaker.
You are always correcting my shitty ways haha. That isn't too shallow though. I mean, nearly everyone wants someone attractive physically and personality. Haha, thanks. It's just that I can't do it. I just can't. I have 5 brothers, and my dad. I don't want my partner to have their same name. Thankfully my dad's name is rare, and my mama gave most of us uncommon names. But the 2 oldest brothers have fairly common (Hispanic) names. And the oldest has a common name even among other ethnicities. Daniel.
She was too fat
there i said it... i just couldnt handle dating a girl who weighed more than me, plus everyone would have given me so much shit...
she was so sweet and nice, she made me sandwiches everyday for like 3 months... i let her down easy though, and we still remain friends
I just feel bad... i think i should have given her a chance. she's even lost like 15 pounds which is great!
i really hope she meets an awesome guy
Fat is the main reason why people refuse to date someone. Not the most shallow reason. Everyone wants someone they like on physical and emotional level.
i know i like her personality a lot and the fact that she still cares about me... she has so much strength in character i really am amazed, she is beautiful in that way...
Broke up with my ex cause he was REALLY hairy and short and had a weird flat nose. Not passing on those genes to posterity >.>
I don't think your reason was shallow. I couldn't date someone with the same name as my brother. That's... gross. if I really liked him I'd have to rename him maybe XD
I've never rejected someone for a shallow reason. Yet.
Haha thank you! That's what I was like. I just can't do it. :c Hmmmm. Yet lol
Lol I've heard of the whole weave thing. I don't really see what the big deal is about it. And if he didn't even know it was a weave then wtf. But everybody has their shit.
I don't think I've ever refused to date someone over something shallow tho.
Yea. He said he really liked black girls. But he didn't like how some girls didn't keep their weave maintained. And he just has to pull a girl's hair and spank her during sex. He said he likes it rough. So that's why he can't date a girl with weave, even if she keeps it clean and nice and can't notice it. You're a better person than me lol I just can't do it. If he has the same name as my father or brothers, I am a horrible person, but instant turn off.
Lol I mean I get it. It would be hella awkward to date someone with the same name as my dad. And just how hard does he have to pull! Lol sheesh. I get the whole maintaining it, because let's be honest, some girls do NOT know how to keep that shit maintained lol. But if it's well taken care of, then I don't get it. Weaves can be pulled.
Haha, thank you! :x I felt really bad, I mean, I wasn't really that into him either. But I felt bad, cuz I just couldn't look past the fact he had the same name! :/ Lmao! I asked him that too, cuz I've seen black girls fight, and they sometimes pull hair, and it's not like the weave comes right off. Sure, some strands yank off, but that happens with non weave hair too. If you pull my hair, some strands will come off (with enough force that is) He said he just didn't like how unkempt that other girl had it. And it completely traumatized him on weaves :/
Lmao well he's traumatized then. I completely get that. It's sad that one girl ruined it but that's usually how it goes. He has weave phobia. Poor guy 😂😂😉
I never asked out this one girl becaues she was fat
That's everyone's issue I think. Fat. Did you really like her personality though?
She was OK looking, and her personality was OK (this was grade 8 lol) But the fat part really tipped the balence scale.. If she wasn't fat, I would've asked her out if I mustered the courage. It would've been more of an experience for me lol. I don't mind fat, but not noticeably.. I'd prefer some belly because I'd rather not be staring at a 6 pack all the time lol
He reminded me of my uncle whenever he smiled.
Oh gosh lol I would probably leave him for that too :x I don't blame ya!
My (ex) girlfriend got fat, moaned about it but did nothing to try to lose it, instead just ate loads of junk food, so I finished with her.
How long were you dating her for?
About 6 months
Ouch lol Well, I mean, I don't understand how some people let themselves go so badly. I'd leave a guy if it got extreme (like obesity) and he absolutely, adamantly refused to do something about it. I'd want him to be around as long as possible. And I'm also not sexually attracted to really large bodies. I can understand where you're coming from. I feel really bad saying it, but large bodies are somewhat of a turn off to me.
My main reasons for rejecting a guy are
No job
No car
Too short
Too skinny
Bad manners
Bad hygiene
No ambition
I second this, no scrubs.
I would argue that almost no one would find no job, no car, bad manners, bad hygiene, and no ambition as "shallow." Those things speak a lot about a person's character.
I do agree with you that it's not shallow In general although I think that the specifications of my list are the reason it is shallow. As an example too short is under 5'10 and I would not date someone who is 5'9 no matter how perfect they seemed.
Hmmm. Well no job, I can get past that if they're in school or otherwise bettering themselves. Bad manners, bad hygiene, that should be a given lol I don't think anyone will date someone like that. Same with no ambition. The height thing may be the only thing I'd consider shallow on your list, seeing as you said if he was perfect, but not over 5'10 you'd refuse. We all have our own shallow ticks though lol So I don't see a problem with it. I feel bad for not wanting someone with the same name as my relatives, but it's something I haven't been able to look past, thus far.
I have never been in a situation where I have liked a guy with the same name as relatives , but I most likely couldn't do it either lol.
No car at your age seems extreme to me, but i know it does depend where you live. I think I first got a car when i was... 29? I was married, one kid, selling our first home and moving to a 4 bedroom house before i got one. But I hear that in some places, insurance + parking + gas is less than $900 a month before you even look at the actual car.
It'd just be too weird for me :/
@kheserthorpe I didn't even see that lol Yea, I agree. No car is a bit shallow. I don't have a car, so I don't really care about it. It's a luxury, not a requirement in my opinion.
Actually, where i live most kids get their car around 17-19. So it depends on the place. These kids are spoiled though 🙊
Oo yeah, I completely agree with you. I refuse to date someone who has the same name as the guys in my family for the same reason lol It's weird...
I've never been shallow in the dating department but if it came down to the name thing... deuces! lol
YES! Thank you! Lol I just can't do it. It's so fucking creepy. I try to give guys a chance. And force myself to like back those who like me. But I just can't do with the same name as my brothers or father. No. Sorry. lol
I wouldn't date a girl who is fat or has slept around. That might be shallow but I don't think it's as bad as dumping someone because of their hands but at the end of the day I think people can have whatever standards they want for a partner as long as they aren't mean when dumping/turning them down.
That doesn't sound too shallow. Yea. She said she just couldn't deal with the fact that she had bigger hands than him. It reminded me of the episode from Seinfield, but the opposite lol Na, she wasn't mean about it. But she felt bad that she couldn't look past it. I couldn't even give the guy a chance. :/ I felt so bad.
Lol were his hands really small or were hers just really big? i can understand the name thing. I'm not sure I'd be ok dating a girl with my mom's name, luckily my mom's name is weird so I probably won't run into the problem :/
No. She has "normal" size hands I guess? But his were really small. She said they were like my hands. I have really tiny hands (cuz I'm really short, 4'11). She is like 5'5. And he was her height, or 5'6 I think. And his hands were like my size. And she just loves giant man hands lol Yea. :/ My dad has a completely old school paisa name though (Nicasio) so I'm almost certain I won't meet any guy (around my age at least) with that name lol But my brother's name is Daniel. It's common not only with Hispanics, but other ethnicities as well. And then I have 5 brothers in total :/ Thankfully my mama gave most of them uncommon names. Like my name is fairly uncommon as well (Delia). Not too uncommon, but it's rare that I find someone with that name.
lol yeah Daniel is a pretty common name, that's going to narrow your dating pool a bit.
Ugh I know! Lol I feel so bad. But I just can't. Maybe later I'll finally learn to stop being so damn picky. Beggars can't be choosers right? lol :/
or you could name them something different like david.
But that's not their name lol I guess I could do that. It's still weird to me though :x
When we were sending messages on a dating site and she complained about how guys tend to get creepy really quickly.
Yes, listen, I'm a potential date, not a baggage handler.
Lmao. That's pretty rude of her. I don't think that's a shallow reason lol
The name LOOL same reason as you!
I'm an English major so evidently, I'm really picky with words. If a guy has a name that flows well together, I'm immediately turned on by it. This'll probably sound really bad but foreign names bother me. The guy can be insanely good looking with a charming personality but if his name is like Vibhav Srinkathlaka or whatever, my vagina gets so dry that I feel like I should shove a fire hose up there to get the momentum back. Not sure why I'm like that.
I've never broke up with anyone.
The shallowest reason I refused to date someone was simply because she was ugly. The reason it was so shallow was I was talking shit about her not knowing she was behind me, and when I turned around and saw her.. I kinda glared at her and walked away... I think she's a lesbian now.
Ouch! I feel bad for her :/ Did she try to ask you out? I wouldn't really think that's so shallow. Did you like her personality?
I double checked... yes, she's the lady in a lesbian relationship with a straight dyke. Anyway, yeah, she did and I just said no. I didn't like her personality either, I dont know.. I couldnt get past her looks. She was ugly to me but its not like she was hideous. We were in a music class together, and we had a band project for class, just cover a song and record it. We'll we had her play the bass because she had no musical talent at all. she couldnt even get 3 notes right. it was kind of frustrating because the song was particularly easy on the bass. Anyway, I hadn't noticed her in class at all...(she was there the whole time) when it came to recording the bass. I looked for her, couldnt find her, then proceeded to say "I havnt seen her, she sucks, its annoying. Ill just record her part and get it over with." When i turned around and saw her, she smiled, i glared and grabbed the bass and gave it to her. never apologized. WTF is wrong with me?
Awwww. I feel so bad for her :( I have no musical talent either :c This woman is sounding more and more like me! I feel so bad for her :/ It was a little mean, but I hope you're easier on rejecting women now right?
Yeah, but she's in a happy relationship! and I think I helped her get there and realize her true self HAH. you're not a lesbian are you.. I mean its cool if you are, I dont judge sexual orientation... I've been single for 5 years. My rejecting consists of ignoring girls completely now. School is most important, after that, Career. THEN ill get back in the game.
Lol no, not a lesbian. More like bi. I wouldn't mind dating a girl, but I'm a lot more attracted and interested in men. Oh I agree with that. It's a good idea to better yourself first :)
I liked this 1guy because of his hands (fingers) so pretty nd long.. Also this other fr the back of his head. So pretty & I don't mind starring at it all day...
i turned somebody down once, because she was obese. and another one because i thought, she was ugly.
Eh. I wouldn't consider that too shallow as nearly everyone wants someone they are physically attracted to.
is it possible to be even more shallow? XD the obese one had a really beautiful face. maybe that makes it better? xD
I refuse to date someone with the same name as my brothers or dad. That's pretty shallow :x
lol my little sisters first friend had my name and her second one had the name of our other brother xD but i think it´s understandable because it´s somewhat awkward.
I can't think of a time I just straight up was into a girl then stopped because of one aspect of her body or something.. There are women in the world I'm straight up not attracted to but I've never just straight up rejected the possibility of being with a woman because I wasn't attracted at first. It's far more likely I'd reject someone for their personality than for their looks.
straight. up. :p
@linkywinky editing posts is for noobs :p
Haha, I'm glad you're straight up :3 I wasn't really that into that guy. But what topped the icing on the cake was that his name was the same as my brother's :( Even same nickname lol fuck.
i didn't find her physciallt atttractive enough.
Well ill say that i do tend to overlook girls with short hair.. I like girls with at least shoulder length or longer hair and i just couldn't date anyone with hair like a guys hair.
But i have seen a few girls who manage to look good like that, but those are few and far between.
Did you refuse to date a girl cuz she had short hair?
Well no, i was thinking hard about your question and this was the best i could think of lol. i haven't met a girl with short hair that i'd be interested in on a personal level to want to date, but if i did, i think the hair thing just might be an issue for me... im not totally sure on that though.
Understandable :) But her hair can grow at least lol
thats true, maybe in the initial attraction phase it would be an issue, but if i got to know her, maybe i could l look past it?