As men, we can enjoy having sex for the sake of having sex, and having sex won't make us get attached to a girl if we don't have feelings for her in the first place. So, if we're a bit selfish, then, yeah, it can be great.
The problem is that if we know the girl likes us, we also know that having sex means her feelings are only going to grow stronger, and it's going to get harder and harder for her to understand why WE haven't developed feelings for her, because her's have been growing for us the entire time we've been having sex, and it's inconceivable to her that ours haven't been doing the same thing. Eventually, she won't be able to take it, and there's going to be a big argument, and she's going to be really hurt when she finally accepts that having sex with her doesn't grow feelings in us that never existed. And it's going to be a big, ugly scene, and she's going to be hurt, and that's going to make us feel bad, even though were were totally honest the entire time how we felt.
So, even though, as men, we love sex, and even though she may be a physically attractive girl, and a part of us really wants to have sex with her, a lot of us guys won't do it, because ultimately, we don't want to hurt her, and we know if we just go for it, eventually, she's almost certainly going to be hurt, even if she's sure she won't. As hard as it is to believe, most guys aren't complete dicks (some of us are, though, and we know it), and so many of us would rather pass on what would otherwise be good, fun sex, just so we don't destroy someone who doesn't deserve to be destroyed.
thank you very much, you explained very well. now I understand. 😔
Happy to help.
"As men, we can enjoy having sex for the sake of having sex, and having sex won't make us get attached to a girl if we don't have feelings for her in the first place." For me that statement is innaccurate, if I find a girl attractive and compatible enough to have sex with her, the fact that she agreed to it means she likes me, and her choice combined with the attraction and compatibility causes me to develop feelings for her, so I can't separate sex and feelings/love
Are you into a guy and he doesn’t reciprocate?
First of all, it’s probably because he is not getting your signals, and you need to make it more obvious.
Secondly, if that’s you in the pic, I hope you’re not fishing for compliments, because your figure is not average you have nice curves, I think a round ass and while your tuts look smallish, your wide hips more than make up for that, also nice pale skin, so while your face is what you think is average, your body is a solid 7.
Thirdly, we guys actually don’t prefer “fuck buddies” even though you’d think we love it, because sex will just become mechanical and angry over time, so maybe that another reason
he knew that I liked him in first place when we were getting to know each other, but he kept telling me that he's old already (in 30s) that I have a lot of time to enjoy something better. but I kept telling him that I don't care. and he was only smiles after telling me all that,. in the picture isn't me , but I was searching some model has similar body as mine , it's just my skin a bit darker like ivory, instead pale.
Why would someone, besides a prostitute, have sex with someone they didn't like? I'm pretty sure you don't like them for a reason.
I was thinking the same...
Personally i never feel the desire if i don't like the person. And if i find the person unattractive, I don't get hard as well. So it's a big NO...
@ryanbas what do you think if a guy could get hard?
Sex can be done.
but love only works as 2 way street.
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I would not have sex with a girl unless I felt attracted and also felt sincere affection or love for her.
Like regular sex. The thing is that men are more capable of having sex with someone without having any feelings attached as for a girl they need to have some form of connection before having sex with someone. Therefore men see sex with someone they are not attracted to as just sex/pleasure and nothing more.
If I liked her I would do her that she has to have a beautiful heart within
Well sex becomes sports. I'd be having it just because it beats not having it but it wouldn't trigger any feelings from within me that's for sûr.
And if she actually likes me to the point of obsession I wouldn't give her false hope by sleeping with her
It would be difficult not to fall in love with someone who wanted me.
Not existent. If you don't care about her, you don't lie pipe to her either.
For me to have sex with a woman then I would need to have some attraction on her. I would not have sex with a woman whom I don't like. If ever I have to have sex with a woman who likes me and even though I don't like her then it would not be much satisfying for me on an emotional level. Probably I may have an orgasm but a guilt feeling would always be there.
guilt feeling because she likes you and you don't like her?
Yes right, and on top of that I had sex with her even though I don't like her.
would you stop having sex with her when you found someone else that you attracted to?
Nope. There must be fondness.
Any sex you have with someone you don't feel a connection with isn't going to feel satisfying.
You didn't really post a pic of yourself did you?
And tell us why you would have sex with a guy that didn't like you. Please, cuz we're dying to know.
I like him
But you're claiming he doesn't like YOU? He just had sex with you cuz you let him?
he blocked me
Thats not chubby, it's thin.
Also I like clingy, and sometimes whining is cute af if it's not done in a bitchy way.
Chest isn't big enough for my personal liking, and I can't see the face, both of which are the focal points in a girlfriend's body to me, so no I wouldn't be sexually satisfied dating that person, and to be emotionally or intellectully satisfied would require being similar to me in most respects, including shared hobbies, interests, views, and talents.
I also don't have casual sex because of std and pregancy risk being too terrifying, so I dunno what it's like to be in that situation, but I think if I found a person physically attractive, I would form an emotional attachment to them if I did anything sexual with her.
I can't mentally separate sex and love when physical touch is involved, not unless I was raped anyway.
thanks, your wrote very well :(
Don't be discouraged, typically people want drastically different things in partners. It would be impossible for any one person to please everyone because beauty is subjective and a person's preferences are genetic.
then it's useless to be strong. I don't see anything wrong with me, but no one wants me with true love
i don't have sex with people i don't like. i mean if she's attractive enough to me but i know she hopes for more, i'll still not have sex with her. cause i know that shit can mess people up.
Can still have sex, but outside of sex I'll probably treat her poorly. Why be with someone that doesn't want you back?
I prefer that kind of power dynamic.
She looks nice! But I am not going to lie if I don’t like her I will not get pleasure out of it.
very sexy body, sex would be good
I really wouldn't know.
A mistake?
Looks fine to me
I don't have sex unless I am dating someone
She looks good, if I don't like her personality, you can still make the sex good at least.
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