Girls, what’s the best position for trying anal the first time?

[Anonymous]

Doggy seems like the most natural but also very impersonal. Missionary would be intimate but others here have said they moaned loudly or screamed the first time (true?) and facing him might be awkward. On top gives control but is like trying to pierce your own ears. Nope

[Erin2003]

Odd to think of a natural position for anal but doggy does seem to fit the description and it’s probably the most common. I’d still suggest missionary, legs back and feet up. It’s intimate and lends itself to communication, which as V said is important. Yep it will hurt at first and you will get loud but it’s nothing to worry about if you trust your boy. It will then feel uncomfortable and weird as he goes deeper. Have enough privacy to yell or moan because you will want to. I did and most other girls will tell you they did too their first time, it’s normal. It’s an incredibly intimate act and def worth it and gets way better after the first few times. Prep, lube, relax, vocalize, communicate. All important.

[Asker]

Thank you so much I prefer the intimacy of missionary. I am concerned about being loud but think I can minimize that if I try. Otherwise I might be inclined to be face down like prone.

[Erin2003]

Vocalization isn’t a bad thing and serves as both a release mechanism and a way to communicate. You might surprise yourself, it’s not something you can always control. You’ll want privacy. Good luck!

[Varanus]

I personally like prone, but the position doesn't matter so much. What's important is relaxing, starting very slow, and using plenty of lube. If you tense up it'll hurt. So relax, get in a few practice rounds if you can, and when he's first entering you, gently press the head in and then wait and don't move for a good 20-30 seconds while you get used to it, then slowly continue until you're comfortable. It'll feel really weird at first, but if you relax it shouldn't hurt. And communicate. Communicate a lot. It's very important to trust your partner.

[Asker]

Thank you. Is that 20-30 seconds the 😵 part?

[Asker]

Great suggestions esp about prone which I never thought about. I’ll do my best to relax tho it will be hard the first time. Thank you!

[PrettyPriya]

Not doggy! Not from behind at all!

[Asker]

Thanks. That’s kinda how I feel. So mish?

[PrettyPriya]

You have the least control in that position. Lay on your back and pull your legs back towards your chest. Easy to do if you are at the edge of the bed and he is standing. Plenty of access in that position and more comfortable.

[Asker]

Ok that makes sense. Legs folded or feet up? How do I ask this gracefully……do you agree about potentially being loud?

[PrettyPriya]

Yes, you got what I’m after. Yes, you will most certainly make noises lol. Key is to take it very slow and plenty of lube. Patience is everything with anal. In the position I described, you can kick him in the face if he is too eager 🤣

[PrettyPriya]

And by noises I mean not all good noises 😕

[Asker]

Not all good? Meaning…?

[Asker]

And you mean feet up in the air?

[PrettyPriya]

How do I say this tactfully? Well, there probably isn’t so I’ll be straightforward. There is a good chance you will make some sounds ehemm that come from your butt from air being pushed in. Not a guarantee but very real and embarrassing possibility

[PrettyPriya]

Pull you knees to chest and legs folded. You don’t have to put you feet straight up in the air.

[Asker]

Got it and oh geez. Something else to worry about haha, I thought u meant noises coming from my mouth!

[PrettyPriya]

Noises come from everywhere tbh. Don’t worry about it. Just take it slow. My good friend @chrismaster69 probably can give you more help than I can. At least this is what he tells me 😂

[ChrisMaster69]

Most likely. When I wanted to learn about anal sex. My friend who is gay, sat me down and explained it all in detail. More than happy to contribute lol

[PrettyPriya]

@ChrisMaster69 teach us your ways. In all honesty he is a really cool guy and not a weirdo like so many others here

[Asker]

So best to do this when no one is home. Parents obviously but sister too.

[PrettyPriya]

Yes!!! This is not a good practice when others home. you will be extra tense as it is let alone worrying about someone walking in or hearing you.

[ChrisMaster69]

@prettypriya lol.

Will link to an article.

@varanus has nailed a lot of it.

A really important part of anal is understanding dilation.

www.advocate.com/.../21-things-know-losing-your-gay-virginity

www.advocate.com/.../shame-free-tips-how-be-better-bottom

It’s all about prep work, anal is not like you see in porn, it’s all prep and taking it slow.

It needs to be done in stages, ideally over a number of sessions before any cock to ass penetration.

Anal plugs or small dildos are great, as are fingers.

Not all will like it but I prefer starting with tongue and fingers.

Make it a routine to have a nice bath, shower, get a bulb kit for cleaning your ass.

Get some good quality lube, as an aside (no pun intended) get a different colour bottle, having say the blue bottle only out means just vaginal, where as the red bottle means anal sex tonight please.

Over a number of sessions get used to how your ass dilates.

How things like having it tongued and finger play can slowly tease it open.

Then when you get used to how long it takes to dilate enough, move to dildo and try positions.

You want the position to match how his cock bends as it will be easier, Doggy or Prone, also spoon works as well.

Make sure you have a mattress protector and or towels under you, lube will be used and some can mark bedding.

When using dildo or anal plug use lube and get used to how much feels right.

When he’s fingering and tonguing your ass flavoured lube might be okay.

For your first session, relax, take it really slow, remember everything you did with the toys.

Have him seduce your ass, to live it, too tease it, play with it during foreplay.

Take it really slow, remember dilation.

Also NO ASS TO PUSSY WITH HIS COCK.

[PrettyPriya]

@ChrisMaster69 👏 that last part is so important.

[ChrisMaster69]

@prettypriya thank you @ Pink Anon, apologies for gate crashing, I appreciate this was for girls only. I however hate that guys watch porn and ASSume that’s all you do for Anal, spit on your cock and slam it in, then drill for oil. There are big safety issues with anal, from tearing and ripping, to infections and internal damage. It’s really important anyone trying this, learns about it first.

[PrettyPriya]

@ChrisMaster69 agree completely. To the asker, you have a lot of good info here and in the rest of the comments. Take it slow and you’ll be good. 😘

[Asker]

Thanks for the information and references but not looking to overcomplicate it. Still leaning toward missionary with the other obvious preps.

[ChrisMaster69]

@ pretty Pink Anon, No problem, the main thing is being comfortable, relaxed and not tense. This is where toys come in handy, as you can try different positions as a form of practice. The other bit is, he should be letting you return the ‘favour’…

[JuliaStyles]

So you are not even legal yet and you get porked on a regular basis - or are hoping to? Why do you sound more like an attention seeking troll?

[Asker]

Love the image! No, I don’t get “porked” on a regular basis by random guys. Farthest from it. That’s something you’ve contrived to be hurtful. There are lots of us under 18 who have relationships and sex. Nothing wrong with asking questions, getting information, and learning from others. Please don’t attack others when you don’t even know them or their situations. I’m not a troll or promiscuous or stupid. Be nice and if you can contribute to answering my question, I’d still welcome a mature response. Thanks for the pumpkin!

[iseekpinetrees]

Laying on side in cuddle position

[Asker]

Thanks! That’s a position I never really considered for the first time but I do see how I might be super relaxed and it’s still pretty intimate. I’ll give that some serious thought. ❤️

[rachel776]

i haven't tried it but i've always imagined laying flat on my stomach

[Asker]

Thanks, I’m seriously thinking about that way too.

[annaz212]

I was prone for my first time and its a little more comfortable than doggy

[Asker]

Being as comfortable as possible the first time is important to me and to both of us. Thanks for the suggestion.

[charltonhestonsgma]

doggy. also, id put a towel or sheet that you don't like down. there will likely be shit.

[Asker]

I realize that’s a risk but I’ll make sure I’m clean. Guess it’s also a matter of timing too. Not sure about doggy. Leaning toward missionary but it depends on who’s home (hopefully no one) and how loud I think I’ll be. We’re you loud your first time? Thanks for your help! 🙂

[LeeannaDD]

It's actually easier Missionary. Your rectum isn't bent in this position

[Asker]

I am leaning toward missionary but never considered that aspect of it. Are you also suggesting that it would hurt less that way? Thanks for the post!

[IamRebecca76]

Doggy, use cream or lotion, use fingers first, massage it, push it slowly and take all the time for her to be comfortable with it

[Asker]

Thanks for your input

[JennBITx]

Try to do more of a squatting or doggie style so the muscles relax back there

[Asker]

Relaxing is important I know. Sigh. By squatting do you me more like cowgirl? I’m not sure I can do that…. I’d be even less relaxed! Thanks

[JennBITx]

Cowgirl will help. You can also get a numbing line for the outside to help the first few times

[sammy1999]

cowgirl facing him

[Asker]

Thanks but I’d be too uptight to ever go through with it that way. Just me maybe. 🙂

[swettannie]

doggy is great !

[Asker]

Thanks for the suggestion. Would that hold true for the first time?

[swettannie]

what do you mean?

[Isawthelight]

Anal is physical abuse to the body

[Anonymous]

Both my friends who’ve tried it used missionary but also said it hurt a lot so I don't know. I have a boy now and know that if we have sex for the first time either vag or anal I’d want to be face to face for sure.

[Asker]

Thanks I agree except it could be awkward if it hurts

[Opinion Owner]

Yep I understand but wouldn’t overthink it. It’s not like everybody’s doing it but it’s pretty common with friends nbd. It’s gonna hurt some for us and boys know that too so there is nothing to be ashamed of. If we do it I def want everyone out of the house except maybe my sister but yea face to face

[Anonymous]

For the first time, missionary would be better.

[Asker]

Thanks, that’s the way I’m leaning. Any reason you think it’s better?

[Opinion Owner]

Based on my exp.

[Anonymous]

Him trying to steal the top bunk from his cell mate.