I used POF and OKcupid with the intention of finding a long term committed relationship. I would only seek out/reply to those who said on their profile they wanted the same~ I don't agree with hookups.
It amazed the amount of messages I got when people clearly didn't read my profiles. I had a few requirements and I said on my profile if they didn't meet them (location, no children and no casual sex) then i wouldn't bother to reply to their messages.
POF was full of desperate guys and I went out on dates with just 3 of them and they weren't that good, there was nothing there though they were all into me but they said they'd been on their for so long so I guess they were happy I replied to them.
Then I joined OKcupid and had to block a couple of horrible users who just started writing sexual stuff to me and got annoyed when I didn't reply. I met 2 guys on there, the first one ghosted me after 2 dates and the second one I have been with nearly a year and we are deeply in love with one another. <3
They can work, just need persistence and some criteria to meet~ I wish there were more filters you can use to block people you aren't interested in.
To be honest I found most of the guys on there not my type at all, as I like someone who is more 'alternative'.
I had great luck on Craigslist but that is probably not the norm. This was last year because of course it's shut down now. You have to know what you're doing and I would not recommend it for most people. There are a ton of creeps on there since it is totally anonymous. I'm pretty good at weeding those things out and found some really cool guys. I was looking for casual sex but also an emotional connection so it was very specific. The first one was 10 years younger and in a similar situation (going through a divorce and not interested in a relationship). That lasted 2 months and I had to break it off because he was falling in love with me. I didn't want that to happen again so the second partner I found was my age and married! Not something I would tell anyone I know but it was a great connection that worked perfectly for both of us. That lasted 6 weeks then I broke it off because I wanted to start dating (and I wasn't getting enough sex from him!)
I personally would not try tender or POF, only the paid sites. I don't have a use for it now but maybe if things don't go well in the future I would try it. Only for a long-term relationship though. I'm done with the casual sex!
A little bit of both. I used tinder to find something serious. I went on two dates with two guys, and the second guy ended up becoming my boyfriend. The first one didn’t work out for other reasons.
And while chatting with guys, I found it really hard to keep the conversation going most of the time. Some were good at having some banter, but a lot of guys killed the conversation by not asking follow up questions or by replying with dead-end sentences. I usually did my best to engage in the conversation, but once the guy couldn’t get past talking about the weather, I’d drop him. Boooring.
Then there was a dude who got REALLY upset with me because I couldn’t reply to him immediately. I still replied within a few hours and literally apologized for being busy at school lol, but then he started throwing insults at me. Glad I avoided him.
So I did have some decent conversations and I did find my boyfriend after just a few months, but some of the guys on tinder were just either way too boring or way too aggressive.
I met my boyfriend on tinder, we’re going on a year this month. We started as hookup buddies, which eventually led to a relationship (initiated by him surprisingly although I was falling for him quickly).
He was about the 5th or 6th guy I met up with off tinder. Before that I’d had mixed experiences with fuckbois, weirdos, and had a couple of fwbs before him from tinder too.
In short, good people exist on there, everyone is looking for something different, from one night stands to long term relationships - it’s kinda just luck and persistence!
I’ve used Tinder only before and I definitely think it was successful. I was never on it for a hook up but if I had been it was successful in that sense. I want on a date with three different guys from it and the final guy ended up being my now boyfriend so definitely a positive experience for me!
You are beautiful, I personally think even if you were not on tinder you would still get a lot of guys around you.
@desiboy28 aha thank you so much, that’s very sweet. Unfortunately I’m very shy so online suited me better 😂
@ShaunaM95 you are most welcome. I'm glad you managed to find someone on tinder.
I tried pof along time agon online, not for the app. Met one girl who posed in picture that deceived how she actually looked. I say show how you actually look, people like different looks and body sizes. I'm not tall and am bald, but I write my height down that's true and don't hide my head. But other than that couldn't get messages. And then bumble couldn't get any matches though it's hard living in a small city. It's harder for guys but I think it helps a lot and more chances when living in a bigger city for it as there's more options. I had to have my radius for 30 miles to get any women showing up on it. But I just have a feeling many women only needed a radius of 5 miles to get all the matches they want and need in their bigger city and how more men are on dating sites than women. So if they don't stretch the radius on their settings, my picture will never show up on their screen.
Meet my wife on POF. The site other than that was filled with single mothers with a laundry list of expectations from men. Got a couple dates but until I meet my wife it was crap. Tried Ok Cupid before and it was a huge joke. The site's premise is to answer questions and it will calculate your match for you. Instead certain idiotic questions like weather the early was round or flat would have literally half the women going way down and drag other women up as one of your matches. I ended up just answering questions idiotically to see what I got and I ended up have a match with some chick that was into animal porn.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!My husband and I met on POF 6 years ago. His brother met his wife through Tinder like 5 years ago. My sister met her current boyfriend on Tinder 4 years ago. Lots of our friends have met online or on tinder too so it’s not just for hookups.
@curiousscorpio89 I used POF, tried Tinder & OKCupid and a couple other sites. I actually found POF worked best with weeding out nonsense & it covered my area better. Didn't like Tinder because I wasn't looking to hook up & I'm not big on judging from looks. Personality is a big one for me so reading profiles was helpful. My boyfriend & I met on POF, and it's been going well so far.
I will say it's harder for men than women because there's like 10 guys to every woman so it's more in her favor. & I found some woman make it hard for other woman because of their profiles just looking to hook up.
I find that many Tinder users just want to hook up so if you’re looking for something more serious you could try a different app. But, you can also weed out the people who just want to hook up and go out with people who want a relationship. You won’t know sometimes if they want a relationship until you meet them. I went out with 2 people from tinder and they were both nice but only one was more serious about commitment. It ended up not going anywhere with either though because I didn’t know what I wanted yet. I shortly deleted the app because I decided to focus on work and improve that aspect first. If you want to start looking for other people on dating apps/sites, my advice is to decide what you want with another person (whether that’s a relationship/casual dating/hookup/friendship/etc.) and to be up front about what you’re looking for as to not waste anyone’s time or lie.
I tried that. Actually, i only got to the hello part and they unmatched me. Nothing psycho or awkward said. Not basic ice breakers either. Just a hello and maybe something witty and still no response. Honestly i feel like if i would have been on there for a hook up i would have gotten a response.
Worked very well for me, but I kept a very strict “no sex till we both get tested” policy, so it really helped filter out the guys that weren’t interested in a relationship. I think that would be a good tactic for a man too, because it would show that you’re interested in more than a hookup, which is what every woman on those sites is looking for.
But yes, I had a very positive experience with Tinder, my boyfriend and I met on there and we’ve almost been together for 3 years ☺️
POF is the worst thing ever lol. I basically got the exact same message from like 50-60 guys and then there was the odd 50 year old man asking if I would meet up with an older man for money. I also got requests to join a strip club and an escort business.
Tinder wasn't as bad since people can't message you unless you have matched but the people I met on there were a bit strange or really boring. There are also a lot of guys who act very full of themselves.
Overall, I would much rather meet people organically.
They likely act full of themselves because you probably swyped yes to the 10% of the male population that most other girls do too. So it kinda makes sense for them to have the egos.
OKCP was shit POF landed me a boyfriend that i am in live with. Never used tinder.
I have Had Good luck on Badoo.
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Overwhelmingly negative. Never got any replies, only approaches I got were from morbidly obese women more than twice my age, and it was impossible to meet or even talk to anyone. Complete waste of time.
Tinder sucks. I have had it about nine or ten different times now, and I have had no success. People never message me, so whatever. I can (hopefully) do better in person despite the fact I'm shy and know no guys.
If you are looking for a simple hookup, you're in luck with pof.
My experience is Tinder is a hookup site but with a caveat, because girls would hate, and rightfully so, leave guys with the impression that the reason they are on Tinder is “to hook up.” With that being said, my experience has lacked a middle ground, it’s either you hook up or never see each other again
I was on okcupid and I wasn’t looking for a hookup. I met some weirdos. One guy publicly blasted my number, because I didn’t send him nudes. I have way more crazy ass stories from that site. Never again.
Put ‘no one night stands’ in my tinder bio and it turns out people can be surprisingly respectful. I haven’t had any serious relationships blossom from using it but I’ve gone on a few dates and got plenty of likes.
I have used Match and POF. I saw very few users on eother site who swere just looking for q
I have used Match and POF. I saw very few users on either site who were just looking for quick sex. I encountered a multitude of scammers on Match and far fewer on POF. I have had several good relationships based on POF meetings.
I was on craigslist for a little while when I first started dating.
I dated a guy who was a logistics major who worked in logistics, he moved cigarettes from one warehouse to another... not him but he did the executive orders. He was a very "thrill" seeker kind of guy and was the type to go sky diving or what not. He was my age at the time. we went on a few dates but eventually we both separated. I dated another guy who was 4 years younger than me, he didin't go to college... and that didn't last very long either... I didn't have sex with either one of them
I have found a ton of fake “tinder-bots” profiles and it’s rather annoying. I feel people only use Tinder for hookups rather than actually trying to meet their S/O. Some have luck and some don’t! It’s all about finding the right person and who you connect with the best. (:
The only thing I seem to hear about people using dating apps are mainly for hook ups and nothing else.
I tried some like POF, match, elite singles, Tinder etc, and had no luck at all, and what I put in was that I was either looking for a possible relationship (short/ long), or just someone new to meet amd possibly become friends if anything, I had 0% luck, it was a waste of time if anything.
I guess I just have to accept the fact I'm ugly, and most likely be single my whole life and die alone, I guess that I'm not supposed to be happy and that I don't deserve anything in life other than pain and nothing else.
Woah dude, believe in yourself. Other peoples opinions have nothing to do with your self worth and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Put yourself out there. Maybe look for a hookup or two. Find someone who is willing to come around more than once and chill out and spend time with you. Finding someone isn't as much about looks as it is about being able to connect with someone. I'm chubby as hell right now but i connect with this gorgeous girl that i hope will realize sooner or later that I'm legit what she's been waiting for. Find someone and become friends. Play for the long game. But be careful to not be friendzoned, I'm on the brink of it honestly. Even now it'll be hard to climb out of it. But put yourself out there. Meet new people and try to stick around the ones you think are enjoyable to be around. Just be there for the fun and have confidence in yourself.
I went on a tinder date recently, I meant to be meeting them again so I guess it hard to say If it’s going to be successful or not as I don’t know until then.
It’s definitely hard to meet a nice, respectful man who wants more than a hookup. But there are also men on there who do want more. I just like to make it clear that I’m not looking for a hookup. The met the guy I’m currently seeing on POF and he’s great.
None I just sign up for those things to troll my stalkers
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