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Sexual Health He sometimes wants to masturbate alone. But I would prefer having sex whenever horny. I just feel left out when he's behind closed doors. I want to accept this and take my mind off it when he's doing it but feelings of jealousy are getting in the way. I get upset with him when he comes out, I may have self-esteem issues. I do not want to be controlling either.
What should I do when my husband is watching porn in the next room?
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I watch it alone if he's asleep or not in the mood but I would prefer having him help me instead. We have talked about it and he says that they don't mean anything to him and that I am more important. Sometimes, we watch it together and that's good. But I still feel jealous when he once said they look nice, or when he locked the door to do it alone (which isn't very often but he takes too long in there which makes me miss him.) I want to give him some privacy but I feel jealous
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I would like to know why he prefers doing it alone and if others have had such partners and have succeeded in conquering their jealous feelings.
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2 25Join him...
What does he like to watch?
Thought he'd feel shy
Maybe if you like what he likes to watch you can do it for him and he doesn't have to watch porn by himself.
You need to talk to him about this. It's amazing that no one talks about communication.
I did, my jealous feeling peaked after my delivery, I guess it's because I felt self-conscious about my body. So we attended therapy, and talked about it probably to the point where he gets annoyed if I bring it up. I am trying to understand his perspective but I obviously cannot control my feelings or insecure thoughts.
Of course you can't. I'm not sure how to help here. He needs to respect your perspective. Let me put it a different way. I only use porn when my wife is not there. And trust me on this she never says no unless something is wrong. You sound similar if not the same. You should be the first place he goes if he is horny. Not porn. Not unless he is afraid he will get you pregnant again.
Oh yeah that actually kind of happened the last time we watched porn 😯
The problem is I am always home
I suggested he could do it while I was working.
He likes those other women more than you.
He said he likes milf and that once implied that I had begun to look more like one, (which is a good thing for my self esteem) but then i asked him if he hadn't like how I looked before! Am I giving too much weight to what he thinks I should look like instead of just appreciating myself for the way I look. Am I competing with his ideal type?
What type are you, what race are you?
Pretty similar to what he watches
What's that?
Why does it matter?
It would help me give you a more accurate answer. There's so many different types of porn and people watch different things for different reasons.
I guess it may be that he likes anal and we have not done it in like... I don't remember how long...
Well, if you're an Asian woman you should probably break up because I think you deserve better.
And maybe he does all the work in bed
I mentioned that this could be a possibility in a comment I posted. If this plays a part, then I'd go further and say, lack of effort can be perceived as lack of interest. Not getting pleasure. And many more
To the responses basically saying try and compete with what he watches, I disagree. If it's an issue where he now needs more erotic themed sex, then the goal hold be to decreasing this need in other direction, not pushing forward. I'd find an alternative approach