Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health What would you do if you're significant other doesn't want sex as much as you?
Anonymous
I'm a 21 yr old college student and I've been dating a guy (22 yrsold) for about 5 months now. We've had sex about 4 times (not in a row) since we communicated to each other that we are dating. I lost my virginity to him, he's the only guy I've gone all the way with. I believe I have a very high sex drive and he isn't the same as me in that area. We've gotten into arguements over text before about this cause I enjoy sex and even more so cause I love him. He says he loves me but shoots me down every time I ask... my guy friends say that they would never do that to their girls cause they enjoy the sex as much as their girl friends do. I don't know what to do anymore... this has been going on for two months now and I don't know how much more I can wait. This may be messed up but there's temptation and sometimes I want to sleep with other guys because the guy I'm with gives me the vibe that he isn't sexually interested anymore or doesn't care. That makes me feel unwanted. I've tried mastuebation but it's not the same and not as satisfying. I've expressed this to him every time I feel sexually deprived in the nicest way I can but he still shuts me down. I feel like I'm going crazy and it's getting harder for me to stay patient. He says it's cauSe of work but I work way more hours than he does. I feel bad for visioning sex with other men that come onto me now and then. What do I do? I'm so confused and clueless on what to do about this situation... please help :(
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What Girls & Guys Said
9 28Seems sketchy that he barely wants to do it
RIGHT? My college guy friends say the same exact thing! They tell me that even if he isn't cheating, that isn't fair for me to put up with him not wanting to meet me halfway on this.
You might need a new guy. Or you might have to get freaky so he wants to do it more.
I've tried doing new things when we did have sex.
Try to get him to have sex while trying the things
I have but nothing works
Find out what he likes then try that. Me and my girlfriend discovered things I need to have done during sex now by accident.
Trust me, I've done that too and yet nothing
It's time to move on then 😔
Well, whatever you do, DO NOT CHEAT ON HIM, if you want sex with other guys and he keeps depriving you of it, and no matter what you do, nothing ever changes, then you'll have to move on and satisfy your desires. But once again, DO NOT CHEAT, it is absolutely terrible and inexcusable in many situations.
I've tried many times to break it off with him in ALL honesty I swear. But he doesn't want to break it off. That's selfish on his part since he isn't making an effort to change.
If he won't change, then he can't say anything, and its your decision to break it off, if you aren't getting what you need to have your relationship, then go ahead, he can't stop you.
Stop dating SIMPs. Date a man that doesn't mind using his balls.
What's a SIMPs? This whole dating experience with him specifically makes me feel unwanted sexually and I feel like I'm begging for sex when I shouldn't be put in that position. I've tried breaking it off with him because of lack of communication from his part and about this issue and yet, he won't let me break it off with him... I'm just tired of his excuses
A simp is basically a pussy that doesn't know how to be a man. It's usually the opposite way around with normal guys. I say get what you need elsewhere.
i think sex is the major cause of distraction in college life.
I don't think so because my grades are just fine
your grades are not everything ur state of mind changes. and its not that u had sex and u are changed its a gradual process
shoot girl go get some strange
Find some other guy and dump him, if he can't satisfy you now my be he is not into you that much.
Then why won't he let me break it off with him? It's just so unfair to me that he isn't willing to meet me halfway on this issue or put in effort...
May be he is trying to keep you as an option. You just have your way out and don't give a damn thinking to this, or you can pretend to be with someone else then he may feel jealous and will try to satisfy you if he actually want you.
But he says I'm the only girl he's with and he even lets me check his phone
Then what exactly you want from him, if he is totally into you, it's cool then
Everyone has a different saturation point for sex, like you mentioned that you need more of him and he avoids, so discuss with him on this matter what he exactly wants. Because to be satisfied is something which will get you going else it will frustrate you.
if i had a girlfriend, which i can't right now.. too many things in my life i don't have that i need in order to have a girl.. i would be fucking her as much as i could.. just sayin'
anyway, just remember, the only protection against pregnancy, and std's, are abstinence. i hate to preach but, every time you have sex, you risk both
I get it elsewhere so that it doesn't put pressure on the relationship.
I'm a guy and i share similiraties with you boyfriend. You have to be patient with him, talk with him, hug him, cuddle with. I'm sure he's more down with that kind of intimacy instead of having sex all the time. I know i am.
If sex is really that important to you, than please end the relationship and move with your life instead of cheating on him. He doesn't deserve that.
What i did do at your age was be patient.
What you should do is dump them.