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But. . . this is just my theory and I could be all wrong, so. . . what do you think about when you are getting ready to take a new dating relationship to that next level of sexual relationship?
When you decide to have sex for the first time with a new partner, what is your motivation?
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But. . . this is just my theory and I could be all wrong, so. . . what do you think about when you are getting ready to take a new dating relationship to that next level of sexual relationship?
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23 20I can't say I've ever had a motivation in that regards it just happened at their behest and who am I to say no
You are James, the Gold Man!
E, F, G. Somewhere in there.
It was so long ago, I could barely recall. :- )
for me, sex is compartmentalized from romance. having sex is something i do when i feel like it and have the chance. with a partner, that probably happens pretty soon.
All of these except the show off part.
sex is my daily dose of must have 😍
The only thing I know is this, if you have to kneel to your new partner for sex, you are in the wrong relationship and your partner most likely is only looking for something platonic.
Withoit details it’s ambiguous but I do think on the one hand it makes sense to part ways if your sex drives are incompatible, but I don’t think wanting sex less or not as quickly, is necessarily an indication that they don’t seek a a romantic partner in you. Platonic is platonic. It’s not the same as not ready to have sex. It having low drive. I understand for all intents and purposes it can feel the same to the person who wants sex now, but it’s not the same. Again doesn’t mean I think you should stay 😊 It’s like people who are affectionate don’t blend well with In affectionate people. Doesn’t mean the unscfectionare don’t have romantic feelings. Just their expression is incongruent with the other
@VIVANT I respect your opinion, but as someone who passed 3 years in a LDR, with a woman who find "virtual sex" (not the real deal) unromantic, and who felt down, everytime we had it, I must say, if after 5+ months there is no strong sexual interest from her, or if she avoid at all cost to talk about sex, you know there is a problem. And if you can't watch porn with her, you surely know there IS a problem.
Hmm Yeah I can understand why that’s problematic if there’s zero interest in 5 months.. As far as porn. It’s not my thing but I’m not asexual... do you think if you are having sex but she doesn’t like porn that’s a problem?
@VIVANT Is not much the fact of liking porn or not. Her reaction to sexual things were always uneasy. She suddenly use to say "my parents are calling me for dinner, etc". I get it's Spain and people over there have a more unite family culture than Northern Europe, but it was something constant everytime a sexual activity/conversation was brought up, so her not having an appeal for porn wasn't a big deal, is the way she handle the situation, back then, when we were together. Leaning more to her perspective, since I was her first boyfriend, she probably taught we were gonna see each other in person (like myself) and that there was no need for virtual sex. I also think after she realized that the probability was more of a dream, she must have decided to save up her sexual life for something sure. What called my attention is how come she started liking another guy online, a few months after our 3y relation ended? I truly believed she was gonna rather find someone in person, instead of that she found another guy online, who she meet in person (they live in near cities)🤷🏽♂️, and who her father run from his house, for I don't what exact reasons (according to the last conversation we had). Anyway, I gave her my blessings and I learned life time lessons from what we had, so I thank her for the relationship.
The first time or the hundredth time, the motivation is the same: to get myself and him off.
And nothing else? It's all just physical pleasure and it doesn't matter who your partner is?
Correct
Damn
@Syrian_survivor Well, at least she is honest about her motivation!
@OlderAndWiser I mean I think she's missing out on lots of better stuff but hey, to each their own, maybe it's out of her hands and that's how her mind is wired. I'm just surprised haha
@Syrian_survivor There are women who think just like some guys in this area.
Damn I see that's true
My first time, she seduced me outright.
Did you complain about it?
I did later yes. But at least I didn't haler rape like women do men when they change their minds while later regretting it.
Seeing her naked body...
E to G
I’m horny and if we’re dating then I only have access so let’s get to it.
not sure on the options but, I am looking for something forever. Something forever, a forever attachment, a lifetime attachment. Some form of emotional bond that is everlasting if that exists. And at my age, Im jilted by it and Im sure it does not exist.
Cause I'm horny and to show the dude he will crave it more and more😂
Yeah one day my 25 years old cousin was naked infront of me and then I licked her breasts and ass
Looking at them makes me want sex. No need for further motivation.
I just want to demonstrate how many tim es I can make h er cum.
Boobs...
Have sex to show not only I love them alone, but also trust them and get to that base in the relationship
Could he be fun to be with
I want him to enjoy it and want him to request again for that
I do it to take ownership of her.