When you finally get the guy/girl why do you still want nudes?

[lilyanony1]

When your dating and don't get so lucky I can understand why you may ask for a nude because well you probably won't see it in the flesh. But once you're dating and sleeping together, why do you still want them to send you pictures?
Surely the real thing is more exciting than receiving pictures?
And if the person has already made it clear they're not comfortable doing that type of thing surely you'd drop asking as it's a boundary they don't want to cross...

[Shizunk]

I never asked for nudes and never will. But I think I get the appeal. There is a certain tension to it. It's the same reason I will enjoy playing a stripping game with someone I have already seen naked. Even if I could just walk up and take her clothes without problem, there is still a sense of novelty to doing it differently.
That said, I find the idea of sending nudes odd regardless of relationship status. Sounds kinda degrading I guess? Could be that people like it for the same reason. Forbidden fruit or something.

[lilyanony1]

In a time where we could trust people. Maybe sending them could be fun. Be we hear so many revenge stories and people just doing things out of spite. You can't be too careful. Our intentions may be for one thing but we really can't account for another. We already have issues with people divulging personal business without permission why wouldn't they exchange nudes?

[Phoenix98]

You can do it to tease each other like sending one in the morning with a naughty message attached when they get to work because now they're thinking about it the whole day raises the anticipation.

There's also just the novelty of it. Or she could be on my mind and be something I'm craving but I'm away on a trip or at work and can't have her but o hey there's a little something on my phone of her I can look at in the mean time.

Things like that. It's the same reason you look at photo menu's at restaurants or play strip games with someone you've already seen naked. Or repeat any sort of fun or exciting experience really.

[KrisPW]

Yes, if they are not comfortable, then it should stop.

As for the first part, I've seen my guys body, doesn't mean I don't want to keep seeing it. And he seems to like my little "thinking of you" naughty / fun pictures I send some times.

[jjj101010]

I agree

[snowgirl123]

I don't know, I will return here, to see how people reply. I think it is because men are visual, and want to be stimulated more than what they already are all the time

[horsenrhinounicorn]

I don’t ask and don’t want them.

[DizzyDesii]

I never understood it either. Like just come over if u wanna see me naked

[NathanDavis]

never been a nudes person... never asked for any before, during or after anything... when I get into relationships, I want to be with that someone in person... the digital side of a relationship is secondary to me, well, that has been the usual for me... in the future, who knows how it will be next

[DonkeyDan]

I don't ever want nude pictures, I can wait till I see them in the flesh. I prefer my first encounter with her naked body to be in person, keeps the mystery alive.

[boggboss]

Because u can't be there all the time again tho if your not comftble I wouldn't ask

[HighValue]

I have never asked for anyone's "nude" pictures.

[t-8900]

depends on context. i love it when she sends nudes with humor/jokes added in to lighten my day when i'm down. it's not as sexual as some think. I mean YES obviously but it's not what I get hung up over. She showed she trusted and appreciated me. Do you know what that means? Its not just lust actually. If it was she's not going to risk her reputation. No, she's fully trusting of me now and I her. That is special even if people dont like it. Surely some can understand that type of symbolism.

[Gwenhwyfar]

I don’t

[Danny_dan92]

Builds tension to keep shit exciting. Cause when you get the guy going while he cannot do shit, you better be ready to get destroyed when it can happen

[lilyanony1]

That's what the imagination is for. The memory of what you've seen the the reality is actually better. Especially if she's changed it up a bit...

[Danny_dan92]

Yep, exactly

[lilyanony1]

So you can wait to see it in the flesh 👍🏾🤣

[Danny_dan92]

Oh yeah. Then man handle her

[lilyanony1]

If she's your girl I'm sure she likes your throw down 👍🏾

[Danny_dan92]

Every girl I’ve had sex with, loved it. And I say this in as humble as possible.

[lilyanony1]

😊👍🏾

[Danny_dan92]

I don’t do hookups anymore tho, been there done that. I still have the high sex drive but I rather be in a relationship with a fuck ton of sex than sleep around. Thing is, cause of today’s society finding a relationship is very very difficult

[lilyanony1]

I agree it's hard. I loved someone desperately but he kept messing he around. Couldn't decide if we were casual or exclusive. Tried to get me to engage in risky sex with others and generally just neglectful. I had enough. I was happy just being with him but I clearly wasn't enough for him.

[Danny_dan92]

Am I gonna sit here and say that every guy out there can be loyal and wants one female partner? No. Because the truth of the matter is since way back in history. Men have had multiple partners. Since before medieval era, the alpha males in tribal groups would fuck and impregnate all the females in the his tribe…. That instinct has carried through our dna since then. This is why most men prefer to fuck as many women as possible. Only back then… we didn’t see child support. So the reason WHY has slightly changed

[lilyanony1]

It's sad. It makes some guys into pigs!

[Makeushiver]

Why don't you send some to me since we likely won't have a chance to hook up. If we do I promise I'll give them back

[Massageman]

I'm not about to even ask for them.
I never did, and I won't ever in the future.

[genericname85]

you can see it as a sort of appreciation or validation that can go both ways. it's just a nice feeling to have your girl send you nudes even if you can see her and fuck her in the evening.

[EssenceOfLight]

I don't think it's for personal use.

[lilyanony1]

What makes you say that?

[EssenceOfLight]

Some guys take intimacy as very private matter, others like to brag with their new conquests among their friends.

[lilyanony1]

Yea... I'm always afraid of the latter

[Wise4myage]

I think its like an addiction for a lot of guys, and lots of girl do like sending them after they are in a relationship.

[lilyanony1]

I don't get it. I personally don't want my stuff being passed on. Or by mistake being seen by someone else...

[Wise4myage]

You make valid points.

[Twalli]

Obviously we would prefer to see you naked and have sex, as opposed to see pictures/videos of you naked, whether or not they're sex tapes. Yet you either aren't with us 24/7 because of money/life and even if we are together, you aren't always naked so sex and nudity aren't constants for us with you.

[lilyanony1]

Yea but that's the point. In the time you're not with the person surely there are other things you can and should be getting on with. I don't really see why nudes have a place in society. When I was younger and had little sexual experience I wanted to see what a penis looked like and when I received one it was exciting because well I was new to all this. But now at 30 I get that there really isn't much difference I couldn't actually care less. I just don't want the guy I'm with to have a shrimp. Something I'd only know once we sleep together anyways. I do think this is kinda killing our society since we all want the best... We're kinda missing out on the key things about people.

[Twalli]

I mean another reason we like nudes is that they're usually personal

[LegendaryIcon]

I never ask for nudes

[lilyanony1]

Prefer the real deal?

[LegendaryIcon]

Yeah

[andy530]

They keep the embers burning while apart

[OnTheLevel]

Simple answer... you aren't always nude and you aren't always with me.

[Joshua0213]

I don't know I don't ask for them she just sends them to me randomly when I'm at work or such

[boxxie2002]

It's a bit like foreplay or sexting sending and receiving nudes.

If you or the other person are not into it though need to drop it... needs to be consensual