Which do you this is worse? Being raped or being falsely accused of rape?

[OceanMelon]

Explain your answer.

[Screenwriter]

Though being falsely accused of rape would be a socially traumatizing event, being physically raped would be socially, physically and psychologically devastating.

Who knows how long it would take for a person to feel emotionally safe with another person? How would you learn to trust yourself in an intimate relationship with another person? You would likely question your ability to "read" people. You'd ask yourself, "How did I not KNOW something was wrong with X? How did I not see it coming?"

It might be worse for men who are "supposed to be able to defend themselves."

Being physically attacked in so intimate a manner is far worse than being accused of attacking someone. Your BODY is violated without your permission or acceptance. Your body is all you have and is a large part of your being. Having body autonomy taken away damages a person for a long time. It takes concerted effort to rebuild a feeling of being safe, of trusting other people and of being whole again.

[Citizenkirk]

Falsely accusing someone of any crime is the worst crime there is. It changes people into something they are not or shouldn't be. 5 years ago I was a pacifist now I am locked and loaded with ultimatums and promises to execute any law enforcement officer attempting to serve a fictitious warrant for my arrest for a crime I never could would or even conceive of committing which is the battery of a woman in a domestic situation. Unless of course that woman is wearing a badge trying to serve that warrant and that would not be in the domestic situation. The hypocrisy of criminalizing someone who's not a criminal like using them of doing something that is the furthest from anything that they could possibly do goes beyond reason or sanity. I still could never lay hands on a lady or text someone without provocation but for the first time in my life I'm more than ready and even eager to lay down serious fire suppression on people who call themselves police who are doing just the opposite for the purpose of ruining people's lives. What's worse is accusing someone of something like that when they did not commit that criminal act? I don't know the answer to that, and I don't think I want to. I suspect that that kind of behavior, falsely criminalizing people, is the true personification of pure evil, if such a thing really does exist, beyond this metaphor form.

[JackSmy]

How can anyone that has never experienced either, answer, in any REAL way?
I can't imagine how HORRIFIC, it could be, as a woman, to be raped!! To be so VIOLATED, and abused, and it disgusts me, that some of my gender can do that!!
I have known some, falsely accused, though, and even when it is proven to be a false accusation, he is FUCKED, FOREVER!! It is on his record, for the rest of his life, but the one that lied, and accused, didn't face any charges, and went free. She TOTALLY fucked up this one guy's life, forever.
She should have been charged, and sent to prison, for lying, at the very least!!

[SamtheDnDgirl]

Both are horrible and both can happen to anybody. One is more likely to happen to women and the other is more likely to happen to men, but they both carry horrible and long lasting effects.

Rape has more physical effects
Being falsely accused has more societal effects
Both are psychologically damaging.

Which is worse? Depends on how well a person is able to recover.

I have been assaulted, but never fully raped, thankfully, But even that was rather frightening

[DavidFox]

Sorry to hear you were assaulted. That’s horrible.

[Agape93]

I hope you killed the pig

[SamtheDnDgirl]

Killed, no. Shamed to the point where friends dropped him.

[Agape93]

You’re a lot nicer person than I am. All the same hon, I am so glad you’re ok now. You be safe ok hon?

[SamtheDnDgirl]

Thanks, sweetie.

[Agape93]

Anytime love. If you ever want to talk, let me know. I won’t judge you.

[MrOracle]

I'm sure being raped is worse, but being falsely accused would be a pretty close second in many situations. Men have lost everything (family, children, business, freedom, etc.) over false accusations, so while still not as bad as being raped, it's very, very serious.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Both are horrible... Both are crimes committed by truly horrible, sick individuals... Both can irretrievably damage a person's life, reputation, and loss of the person they were before, and that's something that person will never get back... And both should go to prison for their crimes...

[AllieOops]

Being falsely accused because you don't go to prison for years for being raped. Of course that is assuming he doesn't get exonerated. If he is then being raped is worse.

[MCheetah]

Both are equally bad, mainly due to the psychological abuse and being made to feel helpless. A woman may be raped, but also has tons of support out there and, if she can get away from the rapist in her life, can start to recover. Usually, if a man is falsely accused of rape, he is "guilty until proven innocent" and his life is quickly destroyed unfairly, and he usually can't even seek legal action to combat the false rapist, as laws in the West still allow this heinous act to be completely legal and happen with zero consequences.

So they're both equally bad in my opinion because there's more of a chance of not being able to get justice for a false rapist.

[90sVibe]

One has more internal trauma and the other external if you compare the two. As a survivor myself, I honestly feel like it's almost tied. Being falsely accused of something as horrible as rape can literally destroy a person's life both internally and externally but on a different level than a rape victim. I think its easier to recover from a false accusation than a physical and emotional violation however so that is why I would deem rape worse.

[abc3643]

Being raped, of course.

[OceanMelon]

Reason?

[abc3643]

You can undo a false accusation rather easily. You can't undo being raped. In a sense, you are totally devalued... used... and powerless to protect yourself and that scars you forever.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

"undo"? When you're falsely accused and "undone" the effects still remains FYI. You know what? I can also explain how raping can be "undone". It just means the rapist stopped. I put a quotation mark because of what you think is undo.

[abc3643]

@Aiko_E_Lara You have much to learn about the nature of reality... and the law.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

So do you. If someone accused someone, you can't go back in in time to actually prevent it. Sure you can stop but what happens happens. You can "undo" it by stopping or taking it back just like stopping the rape and take the consequence.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

What happens to the false accuser talking it back is of course people will turn against him/her and reassure the falsely accused but that's basically like the rapist getting convicted and the victim gets many supports. That's what you failed to see.

[abc3643]

@aiko_e_lara
Son, listen.
You are young and you lack life experience.
Have you ever been raped? Have you ever had anything akin to it happen to you? I have.

Regarding false accusations, yes, that sucks. Except that the legal system is designed to handle it.
If there's no proof of rape (and there wouldn't be in the case of a false accusation), then the alleged rapist no only would be acquitted, but wouldn't even be charged. This is why God gave us rape kits.

A good example is the Duke Lacrosse Scandal of 2006 in which the Duke Lacrosse team was accused but later exonerated from the rape allegations.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Duke_lacrosse_case

What happened to those young men due to the allegations and overzealous prosecution was terrible and adversely affected them, but they WERE exonerated. It's in the record that they did nothing wrong.
Their accusations were "undone".

The genuine rape victim cannot undo her experience any more than we cannot undo 9/11.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

How about you listen? You can go with that “have you ever been raped” argument when I can also ask you have you even been falsely accused? But after all what comes out are just anecdotes. I can say yeah I’ve experienced both. It’s not even just about justice system but anyone can make also make up anecdotes to trick the justice system like framing and being falsely accused and unproven can also happen. This isn’t just a one sided thing. When you can give only one then so can I giving individuals who actually got falsely accused convicted for decades. This guy was only 16 and now he’s 41. And the hardest part would be, where would you even go after you’re free? www.youtube.com/watch Do you think he can turn 16 again and start over?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Like what I said, if the rapist got convicted and she got supported, that's basically the "unrape" or the undo of rape. It would be quite hypocritical to say you can't undo rape but you can undo false accusation even if it's in FACT done before. The undo of false accusation is basically just like to make up for the false accused victim, just like to make up for the raped victim. Also it is in fact the punishment for raping is way harsher than the falsely accused.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

*false accuser

[Aiko_E_Lara]

And you being a 57 year old doesn't automatically make you more valid. I just gave data like what you did. What makes the age relevant here? You can also be a 57 year old living under a rock because it can be possible.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Also the irony I'd like to point out is you're talking about undone by law. I thought you're talking about the nature's law here? In nature's law, it happened and can't be undone in nature's history. So who needs to learn here?

[abc3643]

@Aiko_E_Lara OK,... I'm done with you. You are a perfect example of the old adage that "Children should be seen and not heard." Buh-bye.

[Soremain]

In the worst case scenario being falsely accused of rape is obviously worse, because that can lead you to prison where you get raped by other prisoners multiple times who think you are a rapist.

So then it's do you wanna get raped or do you want to get raped AND being seen as a rapist.

[Agape93]

Being raped.


Physical trauma, possibly being murdered or mutilated afterwards.
Emotional and mental trauma.
Risk of STDs or other infections
Risk of pregnancy
Loss of reputation
Loss of feeling safe
Developing mental/emotional disorders
Etc.


Those falsely accused may get either jail time which can be appealed and overturned with dna, or they experience A loss of reputation.

[Agape93]

and yes I know guys are going to thumbs this down. So go ahead, thumb it down and ignore it.

[The_unknown_memer]

*me who gave a thumbs up * 👍😥

[Agape93]

Thank you love :) I appreciate it

[Gwenhwyfar]

Both are horrible but I personally think being raped is worse. More visceral.

[tiffsterz13]

Agree but what if the person falsely accused goes to prison and raped for something he's in prison for and never did it to begin with. Not to mention years taken away from him, his family and loved ones. Both are absolutely horrible if u ask me

[dwiller943]

Being raped, because you were actually attacked.

[Niya2006]

Well I think being rapped would be worse at my age. Being rapped could most likely get me pregnant and who wants to raise a child at the age of 14

[DavidFox]

Being raped, because that’s real abuse that you must process and heal from.

[JosyJosy]

Being raped, cause of the fact that it happened, the feeling you can't shake, cause you literally felt it, probably feared for your life too etc

[PeteyB]

In both cases you're an innocent victim, but in only one case can you be wrongfully imprisoned and lose your job, family, etc
Rape survivors have to deal with PTSD but won't get jail time for being raped.
On the other hand they could get pregnant, but there are plan B pills

[jamesgoldman]

Either is going to fuck up your whole life

[ColHathi]

Raped. I can't be bothered to explain it. It should be obvious.

[ravagesavage]

Both are worse

[AdithyaR]

It's a tough choice, both ate incredibly horrible situations to be in and can destroy lives. But I'd say being raped is worse cause there's guaranteed physical and psychological damage to the individual or in some cases, death.
With false accusations, there's at least a small chance that the truth will come out and the accused can be free of all charges, though reputation might still take a blow.

[Sweetheart666]

Being raped. Definitely. Only about 3% of accusations are false. However, with decent legal representation men get off Scott free.

[douride2]

Both would be horrible to have happen. in my opinion being raped is the worse of the two.

[genericname85]

i think it pretty much equally ruins the live of the person that suffers from it.

[SCDivinitySoul]

Emotional rape would be worse, but being falsely accused I think would be worse, you would get sent to jail/ prison for something you didn't even do, where most likely you'll be getting raped.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Both are worse one which impacts a girl physically and mentally but she gets some kindness and support.


But once a guy is falsely a cussed of rape

He looses everything his job his status his reputation his image nobody would talk to him everybody would raise fingers kids will be afraid he will be like banished 3ven though staying together even family would go separate ways its lot of psychological pain

[Aakash_Hangargi]

And you know if a person is raped he or she knows that somethings need to be worked and recover none the less it's hard and weighs heavily on mind and soul. If you are physically strong you can defend yourself and escape But also being falsely accused without any doing i mean you won't even know why or how the person would be framed and how to fight it. How will a person escape blaming and being framed horribly horrible without a way out even if he is proven Not guilty nobody will view him the same and try to maintain distance just why to take risk.

[syskerully]

You're only highlighting the kindness that the rape victim receives. You're ignoring the trauma and ostracization she will face after being raped (in many parts of the world, it is STILL the norm to distance oneself from rape victims, or even shame them by saying she was asking for it or that she's impure). Also, most rapists don't wear a condom so the woman is often left pregnant, and in places without abortion laws or with conservative societies, she won't be able to get rid of the baby. She'll have to raise her rapist's child, often by herself. Fuck dude, this is rape we're talking about. Think for a second what you're comparing.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

I haven't compared it I just kept few points and i have never said that they wong face trauma but you are proving my point a few good people like you would definetly give her the aid she needs at least in some way a little moral support. But think as well if you were accused of rape and sentenced without even doing so it would be also very bad it destroys the guys life if you think practically she can get a second chance but there is no chance for rapists and it shouldn't be given as well so think if someone is falsely accused his life is gone all left is shame and it is traumatic for the innocent people a black mark throughout life without even doing anything.

[s2firestar]

Being falsely accused of rape - definitely. Because that will destroy your life forever - your carreer prospects, your education, everything. You might as well kill yourself there and then, because after the event, even if you are cleared, you will forever be remembered as a rapist, while being raped is hopefully a one off terrible experience and then you can recover, work on the PTSD.

[Skankhunt]

Both. It can do some real damage psychologically.

It can cause:
Rape: Fears anxiety, trust issues, rage, guilt, feeling dirty, feeling worthless, avoiding people and social gatherings etc.

Accused of rape: Fears anxiety, trust issues, rage, anger, not trusting women, afraid being accused again, avoiding meeting new women etc.

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm pretty sure being raped is worse.
But both are bad.

[crmoore]

They're both really bad, but I'd imagine being raped is worse. But going to jail/prison for something you didn't do, losing your job, friends and family potentially hating you, is pretty bad, too, so maybe it's decently comparable, I don't know.

[LEADFOOTboi]

being falsely accused of rape... because if i'm accused of rape... my life is over, i'm a friggin PRISONER at that point... you get fired from your job, whatever scholarships you have are gone and even if you're ruled innocent, they dont come back... then the false accuser has no consequences, but ruined another person's life on a whim...
rape is serious traumatic experience, but at least your life isn't simply legally and finantiallly over...

[SuccessfulHornDog]

I think being raped is worse. They are both bad but the rape can't be undone. If you prove your innocence when falsely accused you can recover to some degree

[Twalli]

I think a false accusation is worse. There's no therapy to recover from that trauma. Especially if you have to do time.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Falsely accused!

[Dinosaursandanime65]

You can still kill either way. Them, kill them. Ra. Ra. How do flatten someone's skill with out breaking it?

[OceanMelon]

K, dude

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Whatever. For the right person, this could be good. More faces to go on their wall over the fire place. Would be weird, but...

[Dave31989]

falsely accused

[SHREYASH007]

Being raped is worse.
mental trauma and assault is hard to forget.
false accusation can change with time , it is temporary with timeline varying.

[IlluminatiExposed0]

I mean they're both a kick in the nuts. Probably being falsely accused, at least if you claim you were raped you get some sympathy.

[KyleAbe]

That's a tough one. But I'm going to go with been raped. That been said, both can cause lots of damage to people.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Be specific about being falsely accused. Anyone can be falsely accused but doubted or convicted. So by comparison be falsely accused can not be worse or can be worse. Because if you do get convicted after being falsely accused, you are going to face more prison rape for decades. And even after being free, you will not know where to go.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@abc3643 For blocking me, im just gonna say it here. That's not even an argument anymore. You're only done because you just can't eat your words. That's why you can't elaborate. Perhaps you're also ignorant about ad hominems being a logical fallacy. How about if I say, you're a perfect example of an ignorant retired boomer living under a rock? I'm just arguing at your level. You're still ignoring the claims im giving.

[andy530]

Probably rape but only because if the physical aspect of it. Both can cause similar mental health damage

[admles]

You're comparing apples and oranges here.

Both can destroy someone's life, and neither should be acceptable.

[Valnac]

The are both bad.
Being raped screws up your mind.
Being accused puts you on the sexual predator list.

[The_unknown_memer]

Being raped is far far worse , because your actually gonna suffer ptsd for the rest of your life

Being falsely accused of rape , might cause you to loose everything but you can regain them back with time

Between being raped and falsely accepted of rape

Being raped is much worse for men

[The_unknown_memer]

I meant falsely accuses

[The_unknown_memer]

"Accused " damn auto correct

[beckythewinner]

Probably getting raped.

[MrEscanor]

Both are terrible in their own way.
Both are innocent.
Both have to suffer from some else's actions.
Both have long term damages.

I wouldn't choose one to another.

[scooogy]

falsely being accused of rape, because that can last way longer.

[DCSTVT]

That's a hard question to answer as one leaves you mentally scarred for life and the other ruins your life.

[Nachowedgie]

Being falsely accused. There's no argument to be had about it

[Joe1956]

being raped

[Waz2020]

Both are never a good situation to be in

[Anonymous]

Being raped is obviously worse because of the lasting trauma, the physical harm and the social stigma. Plus, you can't be "unraped". But if you were falsely accused of rape, you would still be able to clear your name in court and in the eyes of those who know you.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

You can't be "unaccused" too according to the law of nature because what happens happens no turning back time. Even if the accuser took it back, that doesn't change the fact that the accuser had accused and the victim being accused. You can't time travel to stop it from happening. Involving the same principle with rape, you can also "unrape" by just stopping the rape if that's the case.

[Opinion Owner]

The consequences of being raped and being falsely accused are HUGELY different already. On top of that, the person accused can still go to court, and CLEAR THEIR NAME through the legal process, so they will still be able to avoid the worst consequences of rape accusation, like prison time or death penalty. They won't be 'unaccused', they would be PROVEN INNOCENT.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

That's involves the same principle with being raped. The rape victim gets proven to be raped and supporte. If the rapist got convicted and she got supported, that's basically the "unrape" or the undo of rape. It would be quite hypocritical to say you can't undo rape but you can undo false accusation even if it's in FACT done before. The undo of false accusation is basically just like to make up for the false accused victim, just like to make up for the raped victim. Also it is in fact the punishment for raping is way harsher than the falsely accuser.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

It’s not even just about justice system but anyone can make also make up anecdotes to trick the justice system like framing and being falsely accused and unproven can also happen. This isn’t just a one sided thing. When you can give only one then so can I giving individuals who actually got falsely accused convicted for decades. This guy was only 16 and now he’s 41. And the hardest part would be, where would you even go after you’re free? www.youtube.com/watch If you're proven innocent then what? You've lost so much time trying to be proven innocent. Can that be undone? I'm talking about the lost of time

[Opinion Owner]

You will suffer from the rape no matter whether it is proven that you have been raped. the trauma is something no court can take away or heal. It is permanent. And in MOST cases the rape victim will have to live with the knowledge that her rapist is not convicted (fact). Yes sometimes a person is dragged through the mud before being proven innocent. That is the flaw of the system. But in MOST cases, this does not happen and their are acquitted quite easily.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Just like you will suffer from the lost of time due to the fact that you've been accused. There could also be people who are falsely accused and unproven judging by how long they've stayed convicted and the accused don't face charges most of the time (fact). No matter how rare being raped and falsely accused is, that's not the question. She's asking which one is worse. Im just debunking how you claimed "It can be undone" Let me ask you again, can you undo the lost of time and the time spent worrying? Even if he's proven innocent, he can still worry it might happen again.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Also while worrying it might happen again and thinking he can't be proven innocent, that's also permanent. So why so one sided?

[Anonymous]

It depends. Most false rape accusations never see the light of day, so they are not as bad as rape. But some men who are falsely accused of rape have their lives completely destroyed. A friend of my family was falsely accused and his life was completely gutted. He lost everything and ultimately committed suicide.

[Anonymous]

Being falsely accused.

[Anonymous]

Being falsely accused is much worse.
It literally ruins a persons life.

real rape... firstly is rare (less than 1/1000 as per bureau of justice statistics)
So as much as actual rape is traumatic because it involves violence, force, and bodily damage... which causes mental trauma. Rape accusations cause mental trauma as well, when the males life is completely destroyed. When they have to struggle to rebuild their lives, fight court battles and the financial issue it causes, losing their job, getting kicked out of school, being made a social pariah, losing family/friends, etc.

[Anonymous]

Depends on if ur a man or a woman. For a man, an accusation will ruin his life

[Anonymous]

Being raped that is trauma people can never live down and never forget and Ka physical as well as emotional