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I judge the girl. Men are animals. It is easy to seduce them and make their animalistic desires take over. Women should know that when they steal a man from a woman one day another woman will steal him from her.
I swear if I fall in love with a guy who breaks up with his girlfriend for me I will reject to date him. HELL. I even wouldn't date a guy who has had an ex.
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132 156I don't judge either of them. People have a need to connect with other humans. And there is more than one human on the planet that you might feel connected to. I don't think lying OR cheating is the best way to go about it, but things happen.
i judge cheaters equally. Sex doesn't matter. If you cheat on your s. o, your an ass in general. Whether your a guy or girl, cheating shouldn't be undervalued just because your a guy or girl.
Though i do believe guys get judged more harshly than girls do... A sad truth, especially since women cheat just as much. Its just not as extravagantly talked about as it is with guys. But yeah, cheating is cowardly tactic done by individuals of both genders, and hurts just as bad for either victim whether guy or girl.
The guy!
If you're not in the relationship, then you have no rules related to that relationship. I think that the girl's move might be considered "not cool", but who cares? Its 100% not her problem, she never agreed to not bang that dude. Its that dude who promised a certain other gal to not bang other gals. He broke a promise, she didn't.
The guy who cheated. Cuz he could have lied to the other girl of being single. He was conscious that he was in a relationship while trying to be with another.
That is kind of a messed up view of men you have honestly. Men have control over their urges. If they say they don't then they aren't a man they are a boy.
see I jugde the guy more coz uncommitted people (regardless of gender) sometimes like the forbidden fruit... someone hard to get and someone taken.
but it is on the man/woman not to cheat on the relationship they made promise on.
once a cheater , always a cheater regardless of whether the girl/guy is there to cheat with... they will find a hooker to fuck for all we know.
I ALWAYS judge the cheater more than the person they cheated with.
1. The person they cheated with might not have known about their taken status.
2. Even if they did know about the cheater's taken status, *they* themselves have no responsibility. They never made a commitment, or promise, to the cheater's partner. The cheater did. They didn't.
3. Calling men "animalistic" is a massive cop-out. You do realize that you're justifying their cheating behavior, right? In most cases, these cheaters are adults. They're not controlled by what's between their legs. They have a functioning brain. Therefore, there's no reason for you to claim that they can't control themselves and that the one who helped them cheat should be to blame for it. Nope. Just because they don't *want* to control themselves, it doesn't mean they *can't*. And that's why they're shitty, and why you should put most of the blame on the cheater.
Very well said 👌🏽 Totally agree
I blame whoever was in a relationship and broke their partner's trust.
As someone who never cheated and was cheated on by two exes, I take offense to your remarks. If you think we're all animals and easily manipulated, and have such a low view of my gender, then don't be surprised when us dumb animals use that ignorance against you.
Thr guy who cheated
Coz
1- girl most never knew he had a girlfriend
2- he could have played her like we are separated or she accepted open relationship etc..
3- :/ drunk or revenge for her stealing someone from her previously.
Anyway it's wrong to sleep with a guy who is in relationship with someone else but not that simple coz easily u might think he is single etc..
The guy, he was supposed to care about me and he betrayed me. The girl is shit if she knew he was taken, but it's different, she's a stranger-his betrayal is worse. Also, she may not have known, in that case she isn't wrong at all.
It depends. There is a difference if the girl he cheated with knew that he already was in a relationship or not. If she knows then shitty move to them both but if she doesn't know then she will feel as cheated as the original girlfriend.
The cheater, so in this case, the guy. It's ALWAYS the cheater's fault, ultimately. The person they cheated with may not even know they're married/taken. If they did know, it's not very nice, but still ultimately not their responsibility.
By the way, your take on things is REALLY insulting to both men and women. Men sometimes DO act like animals, but so much of that is because society absolves them of responsibility for their actions and blames women for everything. Cheating is always a choice. Not to mention that women cheat too... so are we going to blame men for that?
people dont blame women for everything, stop making this so one sided
@GAGSUCKS333 Not ALL people blame women for everything, but the OP is doing just that. And hers is a common way of thinking, unfortunately. Society definitely expects a higher standard of morality from women than from men. "Boys will be boys," they say.
society puts higher expectations on anybody, its just in different areas. One example? imagine living in the shoes of a teenage boy who is a virgin and you would get made fun of by most peers. Another? men are expected to be the bread winner in most cases, are expected to approach first and be chivalrous. saying that men have no high standard responsibility is a lie.
a man is expected to take punches from a female, and NOT hit back because you know, you are a girl.
@GAGSUCKS333 Men may have higher expectations in other areas, yes. But not when it comes to sexual restraint, and that is my point. A teenage boy might be made fun of for being a virgin, but a girl who sleeps around will be labeled a slut. Men are not expected to adhere to the same standard of "sexual morality" as women. As for the punches example, that's not so much due to "chivalry" these days, but to plain old physical size differences. Assuming you're an average size guy, it might hurt if the average woman punches you, but the chances of any serious damage being done are low. An average man can seriously injure the average woman. Of course there are exceptions, but this is the general rule. It's also generally looked down upon for a big guy to pick on a little guy, for the same reasons. (Of course if a woman is hitting her partner, that's still abuse and still wrong.)
alright, look at it like this. shaming men for not having sex is just as bad as shaming women for having sex. Be honest for a minute, do you think most guys like being pressured into having sex? I have been called gay by females and men for saying no to a girl and if a girl likes a guy and gets with him some people look at her as if she is tainted. So it really does go both ways. Besides that, I am going to defend myself no matter what size you are. you are taking the responsibility off of women in this situation and you dont realize it. Once she put her hands on me I dont care how small she is and im not going to get hurt and stand there just because she is a women, even if its minimal damage. no one has the right to damage me AT ALL. you think women are defenseless and weak? one punch with the force of 7 pounds to the throat could end my life. 7 POUNDS. Also, what if she kicked my knee cap and broke that too? what if she hit me in the eye and fractured it?
@GAGSUCKS333 I get your point but the question was about judging someone for cheating, not judging someone for being a virgin or hitting someone or anything else, so that is what I was addressing. I never said it was okay to shame guys for not having sex, and I never said it was okay for women to hit men. Obviously, neither is remotely okay, and obviously you've gotta do what you've gotta do to defend yourself. I was just giving the reason why people tend to take violence against women more seriously, which is due to the typical amount of damage inflicted. Once again, DOESN'T MAKE IT RIGHT.
A guy should be able to control himself if he's taken, also he should only want to do stuff like that with his partner. If he cheats he just has the inability to control himself and also a lack of self esteem and trustworthiness. Same for girls if they cheat on their men
The guy.
degrading men with such a statement is horrible. I'm probably gonna start a fight here, but by your logic, that means that rape is the victim's fault because men are animal and can't control their urges. that implication is not ok. men have free will, just like women. honestly, both are at fault. neither one is free of blame.
The guy that cheated. He's the one that knows all the "secrets." The girl may not know he has a girlfriend until they get caught. If she does know and still after the guy, they are equally pieces of shit. But the guy is in the relationship, if he was a real man, he should be able to hold back the temptation and speak up for his relationship. If he can't... he doesn't deserve the girlfriend he has. Same goes if the roles were reversed.
Whos to say the otger women knew he was in a relationship?
Whos to say he wasn't manipulating her?
Of course i judge him more. He made a commitment and threw it out the window.
The other woman was nothing but a temptation that HE fell for. Its up to the person in the relationship to stay faithful, not for everyone else to make them stay faithful.
Its the exact same if the genders are reversed.
The person who cheated always gets the blame. They were the ones who cheated while being in a relationship! Now, if the other person is willing to be the side chick/dude knowing about the relationship then they are to blame too. It really depends on the situation.
The guy is at fault, automatically. He made the decision to cheat. A girl can be as seductive as she can be, he still chooses to be seduced. The girl may also be at fault if at any point she was aware that the man was currently in another relationship and didn't immediately break off.
lol hatsoff to yoh