Why are minors being allowed to access sexualised content?

[Loubie-Lou]

So I've come to the realization - That children 13+ are able to see the sexual content that is on here, in the 'sexuality' section... and the fact that some adults are actually replying to them 🤢

Why are minors being allowed to see sexualised content? Why are adults replying to them in a sexualised way? What is wrong with you people? Why are the people who made this app allowing minors to access this content?

I know that some volunteers try their hardest to keep children away from this content but wtf? Children shouldn't be allowed access to sexualised posts.

Absolute nonce behaviour.

[MrOracle]

Gag is following the law in the US, which restricts pre-teens from those kinds of posts. The law does NOT restrict teens (13 and older) from DISCUSSION of sex (nor should it - GaG is probably a better place to learn the REAL information than asking their dumbass friends, or their parents who might not tell them the truth) - but it does restrict individuals from propositioning them and such. But GaG is not the police, and it isn't GaG's place to try to enforce this stuff on every single post - of which there are tens of thousands per day.

If you see something being posted that's inappropriate, you can Report the post, and the Mods can review it and take action as necessary. In extreme cases, GaG could refer individuals to the police, but usually they'll just delete the post and perhaps warn or even ban the user. And that's a reasonable expectation to have for GaG.

Consider that, over all, GaG is FAR safer than something more private, like SnapChat or even Instagram/Twitter, because most of it is public and subject to review. Kids have easy access to hardcore porn if they search for it, as well as dating sites and anything else they want. Compared to that, GaG is tame, and has active moderation. It's never going to be perfect, but teens shouldn't be kept away from information either. Realize that most teens have sex, or deal with sex as a relationship issue, and having a place where they can ask legitimate questions and probably get at least SOME quality answers is a good thing.

Ultimately, it's not GaG's job to protect children, though - it's their parents' job.

[K-I-S-S]

Yes, agree with most of it. They will experiment and look anyway. Might as well learn from good sources. Although would need some monitoring, so some adults wouldn't start doing wrong things.

[Psychoanalytical]

You know what's worse. I remember coming across 2 male adults accounts on here, who follow mostly minors and children. I contacted the admin about it and he told me that after checking their private messages, he determined that nothing wrong was going on.. and he emphasized on how children's safety is a priority here.

Now, I'm convinced that the admin himself is a part of this mess and that G@G might be pretty much used in child trafficking, because as I mentioned before, some of the bots created to boost the follows of the admins were already promoting pedophilia. And when I reported one of them, his account remained untouched! They only removed some of his questions but the other questions are disgusting and all of his disgusting content is still up.

[Psychoanalytical]

Just a correction.. it turns out I had a misunderstanding. The "bot" I mentioned turned out to be a real person, not a bot account. That still doesn't prove the innocence of G@G admins though because the guy hadn't yet got banned and children are still gravely endangered on this platform.

[SueShe]

My personal impression is that G@G has too much to lose in terms of generated revenue if they are starting to impose age restrictions on this site.

They are fully depending on revenue generated by advertisement and if they implement some kind of more secure access method, people will refrain from joining G@G. Less people = less revenue.

The age limit of 13 is probably set to limit legal action for allowing pre-teens to view mature content. I am not familiar with the legal procedures in the US since this site is based in the USA. However, I am sure that G@G has made sure that they are protected and that they don't have to fear much should there be a legal action against them for making mature content to minors of 13+ years.

It is very sad that mature content is made available to children. There would be a number of possibilities to limit visual attachments to non pornographic content. And if those measures are not enough, then G@G should really consider

a) to remove all adult content from its pages
b) to create a separate, adult only site where positive ID checks are made prior to allow access.

I am deeply saddened that adult content is actually what attracts people on this site.

[purplepoppy]

Good question, surely gag has legal obligation to prevent minors from accessing sexual material or chatting with adults.

[Loubie-Lou]

You would think so? The majority are men that replying sexually but I don't find that shocking 🤢

[Boromir]

I observe mainly postings of minors that have _questions_ about sexuality. In a country where sex ed is in a lamentable state that’s not a bad thing. There will be good answers and stupid answers but the overall balance goes to the ‘useful’ and ‘well intended’ answers. Real sexual content, eg pictures and so is quickly removed. I think you’re seriously exaggerating the issue.

[Loubie-Lou]

It isn't the people who created the app. Its volunteers that try their hardest but they don't catch everything obviously. I don't care about educational posts but when a grown man, or men are replying sexually to a child obviously I have an issue with this?

[Boromir]

That’s fair and indeed a risk, but my personal perception is that such encounters here are not too common and quickly resolved by (community) moderation. Not sure what happens in the direct messages. I only have my own ‘male’ profile here and never had any bad surprise in my inbox.

[Loubie-Lou]

You're a 32 y/o male - I don't think you're the target for peadophiles, so I'm not surprised you've not had any surprises in your inbox from them.

[SueShe]

Why are such pictures quickly removed? It is because some moderators monitor those questions and report those pictures when they see them. Not long ago, there was a question with a picture of zoophilia on this site if zoophilia. There is absolutely no child security on G@G. None whatsoever.

[AliceTheNguyener]

Those minors can just have their age as 18 and access the content. Wish there was a way to deny access because there's the occasional dick pic in the "Sexuality" and "How Do I Look" sections, plus a lot of underaged anon selfies.

[Loubie-Lou]

Although I agree not every minor can be stopped, don't you think it's funny how other apps and social media at least try? They advertise this app as suitable for 13+, they're allowing minors to see sexual, not educational, content. I understand they can just lie about their age, but they don't even have too do that and then for adult men to reply sexually to them? This isn't acceptable.

[OlderAndWiser]

There are rules about minors accessing the sexuality category but it is impossible to effectively enforce those rules. Have you come to the realization that any minor on the net can access porn 24/7 from thousands of sites? It is up to parents to take responsibility for the things their children see on the net.

[Loubie-Lou]

Then why are minors who clearly have their age set to being a child allowed to access this content? I'm fully aware that they can lie, or get it from else where but this app doesn't even try to stop them from seeing it. Or are you saying that it's okay for minors to view sexual, not educational content? - This app states that it's suitable for 13+, when it is very clearly not - they need to at least put a bit more effort into trying to make it more difficult, like a lot of apps and social media do already. There is no excusing this, nor is there any excusing the men who reply sexually to children.

[OlderAndWiser]

Have you addressed your comments to Admin? Complaining to the general population of users will be unproductive.

[Loubie-Lou]

I've emailed them but I highly doubt I'll get a reply. I've also spoken to one of the volunteers who tries her best to keep the children safe on here but she's basically the only one who does it.

[OlderAndWiser]

Why do you think she is the only one who pays close attention to minors interacting with adults? Because she is the only one of whom you are aware?

[Jay13496]

You're right. There was a question I saw about a girl who wanted to ask about sex but she was only a 16 year old kid. There were a bunch of creepy answers from adult guys. I think it's stupid that minors van access the sexuality section in the first place.

[psychoticanimallover]

They are fair game to most of the men here. Some of them are looking a bit rough already.

[Astarlessnightsky]

Minors are the ones who know the least about sex, so its only natural they ask these questions, IF they got no one else to ask them.

I you are 18 or older and still know nothing about sex and all the related topics, its a little too late, isn't it.

[Loubie-Lou]

Questions are fine. Education is fine. But when a grown ass man, is replying sexually to a 14y/o girl on a sexual post, not educational, that she commented innocently on - that is not acceptable.

[GingerGuy]

I hear what you're saying, but from the gags standpoint, to control that would take so much more. Profiles would then have to be "approved" and they'd have to see ID, pictures etc to prove your age. And even then, that doesn't stop say some child accessing their parents account maybe? It would take a lot of resources to control that, and even then no guarantees. That'll be why. Even if they just tried to remove all those posts, even that would take constant monitoring. I don't know how many people are employed or control this site, but I'm guessing not enough to be able to "control" that. And when you think of it, they find it somewhere online if they want to. It's everywhere, not just on this site. Not making excuses, just reality.

[Loubie-Lou]

If they can't do something properly, they shouldn't be doing it at all. Excuse or reality - it's a shitty reason to allow peadophiles free rain and a safe place to speak and sexualise children.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

I personally censor my replies when in response to a minor or question started by a minor. I fully agree that they shouldn't see adult content and always wondered why G@G allows and encourages it - at least the part where adults and children can co-mingle on these topics...

I do believe minors should be allowed to have these discussions among themselves, possibly with professional adults (like child psychologists and child sexual behavioral specialists) but they should be professionally vetted and monitored on some level.

[Loubie-Lou]

Yes thank you Why don't some of these men understand it isn't their 'job' to 'educate' 13-17 y/o girls on sexual topics. And the fact that so many of them are trying to make excuses for it is appalling. Education is so so important, I fully agree with educational posts but you've stated, it needs to be monitored or done by a professional, otherwise it leaves it open for peadophiles to take advantage of the situation, which they are.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

I think many of the men here, including myself, are a bit sleazy and not good for minors. I have to police myself very diligently to ensure I don't start creeping on them. As a man, we are drawn to youth, sexuality and innocence. It's natural and I understand that, but I can also see it's dangers very clearly. Most men seem unaware of this, or ignore it out of self-greed and self-indulgence. I'm sure I will get a lot of hate for this, but I believe in being honest and truthful about it. There's too many people out there spreading lies and being players.

[Loubie-Lou]

If you're attracted to children, please find help. If you feel the need to "creep" on CHILDREN, get help. Oh god, I seriously hope you don't have any access to them in the real world.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

Not children! Jeez. Can you have a honest discussion without making absurd assumptions? Girls who are post-puberty are no longer girls. They are young women. Men are naturally attracted to young women. It's basic biology and you need to understand that if you ever hope to understand men in general. You should be glad to have one who understand this enough to discuss it rationally and honestly. Most men just lie and creep on girls/young women. I thought for a moment that you were open minded enough to have this discussion. Am I wrong?

[Loubie-Lou]

This post is about children. You specifically said "Including myself, are a bit sleepy and not good for MINORS"

[Loubie-Lou]

*sleazy

[Boromir]

@Loubie-Lou I think that healthy sex education can come from both genders. I fail to see why women would have the sole right to that. The amount of female sexual offenders is much lower than male offenders, but not zero. You might want to avoid to too much of your own luggage seeps into your attitude and opinion.

[Loubie-Lou]

This has nothing to do with gender? It should be left to the child's parents or a professional.

[Loubie-Lou]

And fyi a minor is anyone under the age of 18 aka a child.

[Boromir]

@Loubie-Lou that’s not what your writing implies. You only attack men.

[Loubie-Lou]

If you read my other comments, I've even mentioned that women are and can be peadophiles.

[Boromir]

@loubie-lou I missed that, will re-read. Sorry.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

"If you read my other comments, I've even mentioned that women are and can be peadophiles." This is the problem with your thought process right here- You call people pedophiles incorrectly. Sex with per-pubescent children is a sickness - nobody should be attracted to them, period. And you would be correct to suggest medical intervention. (From Wikipedia) "Ephebophilia is when an adult is mostly or only sexually attracted to post-pubescent teenagers—usually those in the age range 15–19. Adults with this attraction are called ephebophiles. Ephebophilia is not just the sexual attraction to teenage partners but is when an adult prefers such sexual partners." That refers to the problem of men (or women) who are more obsessed with teenage sex, but casually misses that biologically men are and always will be attracted to "young women" on some level. Some grow out of it after age 30, but many do not. We've made laws to protect children, but we also over-reached common sense with those laws because now we're treating teenagers like children, and they are starting to act like it. Once a child hits puberty, they've become young adults, and are continuing a journey into adulthood. This is when it's our responsibility to teach them about adult responsibilities and concepts, which we are entirely FAILING them at, all because of our aversion to protecting their "innocence". If you need further proof of this, just keep reading G@G... Gen Z is entirely fucked up from it. Millennials aren't much better off either. I honestly don't know how to fix it, but people need to understand and take a less emotional approach to teen sex, for starters.

[Loubie-Lou]

I'm sorry but a 15y/o is a child. They're not even legally allowed sex in the Uk - So how is a an adult having sex with them legally? Or morally? They're not - they're a Peadophile. Sickness or not, still a peadophile. And lol - we all know how trustworthy Wikipedia is.

[Loubie-Lou]

And a minor is still anyone under the age of 18.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

I'm sorry but a 15 year old is not a child. A 15-year old is a young adult and treating them like children is causing them irreparable damage. You are being willfully ignorant because of your views. No medical doctor nor legal scholar would agree with you that a 15-year old is a child. It's just not how the world works, nor biology. While I agree with you on the availability of sexual content being available to MINORS, that's where our agreement ends, simply because at that point you are choosing emotion over logic.

[UserGAG]

@Loubie-Lou You must have had a fucked up childhood. Stop bitching! And Wikipedia is trustworthy. So is Wikileaks.

[0112358]

I thought they couldn’t see sexuality topic at least at one point. I can’t remember.

I seem to recall the admins found when they age gated some parts of the site, teens just lied about their age to get around it and then you have a worse scenario where you have underage kids being hit on and observers can’t even tell it’s happening to intervene.

the legal issues are such that I’d suspect the owners would rather ban under 18s entirely since they’re not worth as much advertising wise but it’s tough to do.

ethically there SHOULD be places teens even 13 can ask factual questions and get answers, but all of us can I guess help by looking out for inappropriate sorts of interaction that go beyond trying to give a mature answer.

[boombastik]

Kids nowadays are having sex at 12-13 and I'm sure it's always been this way. I was kissing girls and looking at their tootys in preschool. Humans are sexual creatures and are gonna learn somewhere. I'm not saying it's cool but at least here there are half ass responsible people and information. You're not gonna stop a curious kid.

[Loubie-Lou]

This isn't about kids being curious, or finding educational information. It's about grown ass adults replying to them sexually. Children should be allowed to access educational posts but they don't need to see sexual ones at 13 and they definitely don't need to be sexualised by adults.

[UserGAG]

@Loubie-Lou Can you prove that there are people sexualizing minors or just educating them by given honest opinions based on experience?

[bowenw]

There does not seem to be a way to verify age on this site. I agree children should not have access to sexual content, but I'm not sure how that could be accomplished other than by good parental control software.

[Loubie-Lou]

People that clearly have their age set as 13+ are still being allowed to view sexualised content, they don't even need to lie about their ages here - this is my issue.

[bowenw]

If that is the case this site should not allow them access to the sexuality category, although dishonest individuals could lie about their age.

[Loubie-Lou]

They can, everyone can lie about anything but the people who made this app aren't even trying to stop minors from seeing the sexualised content - which is alarming.

[bowenw]

This site does have a contact form. Maybe if enough of us request that children should not be permitted to access sexual content that something will be done.
https://www.girlsaskguys.com/contact

[Loubie-Lou]

I've sent an email but I doubt I'll get a reply

[bowenw]

I did as well. Hopefully they will do something about it. 🤞

[douride2]

Here is a perfect example of what shouldn't be happening a 13 yr old child asking questions in the sex topic. GAG admin why are you letting children post in the sexuality topic?
Insecure about my body 13 years old?

[Psychoanalytical]

One of the users wrote her "if you need an honest rate or feedback then my DMs are always open". A 13 years old being offered to send her pictures to someone above the legal age that she doesn't know. How happy are the admins now? I will remain convinced that they are complicit in this UNTIL they raise the age allowed to 18.

[Loubie-Lou]

They're allowing it then happen. I'm sure they're fully aware of what goes on here but don't care - it's easier to turn a blind eye rather than make an effort and actually do something about it.

[Loubie-Lou]

*to happen

[genericname85]

i don't see the issue. i don't know why sex should be hiddem from children as if i was evil. i think it's actually a good thing to learn about it early on, so they can be responsible around it, once their time comes.

[Loubie-Lou]

Educating children is not the issue here. Them being able to see sexual posts, not educational and fully grown men replying to them sexually is the issue here.

[genericname85]

meh. that's just the internet. i guess most people on here don't put their actual age anyway. kids see porn before they see their first girl naked. that has been the truth for me personally already and is even more true today.

[Loubie-Lou]

So you think is okay for men to message children sexually on the internet?

[genericname85]

i think people tend to see issues where there are none. people make it seem like 99.9% of men on the internet are pedophiles. i simply don't se that. that's all i'm saying. i personally have no issues talking about sex with a minor. i have no intentions of getting sexual with a minor but i think they can profit from my experience.

[Loubie-Lou]

What would you be classing as an educational way to speak to a child then? I'm not saying it's 99.9% of men but there is enough of them for there to be an issue - The same way women can be peadophiles too, I'm not leaving them out. Any adult that thinks its okay to get sexual with a child needs serious help. There is a difference between education and blatantly talking sexual with a child.

[genericname85]

well i agree with you that those guys need serious help, yet those guys are stigmatized and criminalized way worse than gays and transsexuals have been in the times where that was still socially acceptable. so how are they supposed to get help? and how is that help supposed to look like? i mean conversion therapy doesn't work for gay people at all, does it? so how is it supposed to help pedos? there is no way for them, other than consciously suppressing their sexual desires for all their life... imagine that. i couldn't live like that.

[genericname85]

socially unacceptable*

[Loubie-Lou]

The difference is that LGBTQ+ is LEGAL. If two women have sex - they're both adults, they're both consenting etc Peadophiles go for CHILDREN. They cannot consent. It causes trauma. It can change how they view things. If they cannot control said urges, they need to put somewhere where they have no access at all to children. It seems you're caring way more about these peadophiles over the children they're harming.

[genericname85]

yeah i see you're really good at judging. you're an expert at manning the pitchforks and torches and incite violence against certain people. but just put yourself in their shoes for a second. imagine engaging in sexual activity or even "sexual chat" with your preferred sexuality was forbidden and everyone would call you a sicko and call the cops on you the second you make a step outside of the closed. i was comparing it to gay and trans people cause only a few years ago, that same social stigma existed for them. i know you grew up in the "snowflake" generation, so to you that seems normal but it sure wasn't always like that. if you were not straight and sexually interested in the opposite gender at appropriate age, there was litterally no place for you in society. by the way: i don't really see the harm for children in chat at all. if we'd be talking abour rape, sure. no question. but how dows chat harm, considering that any child can go to pornhub and can watch the most fucked up hardcore porn on the internet with just one click, if they so choose.

[Loubie-Lou]

So you do think it's completely okay for an adult to have sexual conversations with a child? LGBTQ+ and straight people can all be peadophiles. Peadophiles are not right in the head and need serious help. LGBTQ+ are consenting adults. Peadophiles go after children who CANNOT consent - how do you not see the difference and why it's an issue?

[genericname85]

again you said "they need serious help". yet we can't even help gay people to be straight. so how it this help supposed to look like outside of "locking them away". that's my question i challenge you to answer. it's easy to just say "get help" if you're ignorant about actual the possibilities... "So you do think it's completely okay for an adult to have sexual conversations with a child?" no, that is not what i said. i will not correct you, i will give you a second attempt at repeating back to me in your words what it is i actually said.

[genericname85]

i have to do that, to make sure you're actually listening or else, you will do, what many people do in this situation and just play their indoctrinated hate tape that is installed in their head instead of actually listening and understanding. that happens a lot. and when that happens, having a discussion is often toxic and completely pointless. i wanna avoid that if possible.

[Loubie-Lou]

Gay people don't need to be 'turned' straight because it's between two consenting adults 🤦🏼‍♀️ what don't you get about that? - They're both of legal age, they can both consent. Peadophiles are HARMFUL to children. Children cannot consent. It can cause trauma. This is why there needs to be a place they can go, away from children, with no access to children (not even online) - since they're a DANGER to children. How do you not see the difference?

[genericname85]

are you consciously closing your eyes to what i'm trying to say? i understand what gay people do does not "harm" anyone (as long at it indeed "is" consensual). that doesn't matter for the point i am making. there was a long time in fairly recent history, where we thought that gay people were "mentally ill" and just "needed help". so we tried to "fix" them but nothing we did helped. we were unable to turn gay people into gay people or trans people into straight people. and i assume the same is true for pedophiles. i am not making a value jugement here. i'm simply questioning the means we have to "help"... and if we can not help, what does that mean? we consider it not someones fault if they're gay or trans right? is it someones fault if they're pedo then? as for the harm: how exactly does "an adult talking to a minor in a sexy way" harm the minor. that part i don't understand. where is the harm? this is the last chance i'm giving you. as it stands, you don't seem to listen. you're just playing the tape you have prepared in your mind and are not actually considering my thoughts. so if you continue to do this, i'll opt out of this conversation.

[genericname85]

and just to remember: i'm not making any value judgements. so i invite you to also not do that.

[Loubie-Lou]

If you seriously cannot understand why an adult talking to a child can harm a minor - you're the one that needs this 'help' also. You shouldn't have any access to children.

[Loubie-Lou]

*in a sexual way

[genericname85]

well you can't even explain, so you're worse than me, since you're not even asking.

[genericname85]

you see i don't judge before understanding. you apparently do. so that's a pretty terrible thing... maybe you'll learn to think rational and non normative as you grow more mature... but i won't continue a conversation with someone who's unable to think. i'll mute this now. bye.

[Loubie-Lou]

I'd rather judge someone for having an attraction to children rather than support them and let them continue to harm children while thinking there is nothing wrong with it.

[verylovelyguy]

i don't see what's wrong with it. sexuality is a normal topic to discuss for somebody entering puberty

[RingOfFire]

Have to agree with this. I saw this post right after I wrote a comment on another post where a 17 year old girl was asking a question about oral sex that I would like to respond but that I don't talk about sexual topics with anyone under 18.

I'm not sure what the answer is. People can always lie about their age so there really isn't any way to stop them even if they wanted to. Unfortunately, it's a hazard of the times. Children can access all the sexual material they want on the Internet. There really is no foolproof way to stop it. Personally I never post anything about sex on a post that lists age under 18, but I have noticed a lot of people do... as you said.

[Dchrls78104]

A failure on the part of the moderators of the site and a development I have always warned about.

[Loubie-Lou]

Thank you. It's shocking people are trying to I find excuses for this but then again, they're probably happy that it isn't moderated properly!

[SueShe]

Let me just tell you that there are a number of moderators that are taking this issue very seriously and act accordingly. It is not so much a moderator issue than a lack of controlling who access what topics here on G@G.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

I never really understood why its a bad thing to expose kids, around 11-13 when their puberty starts, to sexuality.

[Loubie-Lou]

Uh - Peadophiles? Grown as adults replying to them sexually? There is a time and a place to educate children - It doesn't come from some old man/woman on the internet sexualising them. Just the same as minors shouldn't be introduced to BDSM they shouldn't be able to access sexualised content unless it's educational.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

No I meant with that to educate them when puberty starts

[CuriousMufuxka]

It's the internet!

[Loubie-Lou]

So it's okay for men so make sexual comments to children? Way to out yourself.

[CuriousMufuxka]

I do not condone such behavior, but also don't whine and make bullshit accusations like you have. The internet cannot be sanitized!

[Loubie-Lou]

So you're against it but willing to turn a blind eye to it? p. s you can't 'not condone it' as much as you think you do.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Are you sure what you're actually fighting against? It seems like you just want to fight. I support freedom of speech or in this case typing!

[alance99]

Its not only GAG, they are accessing actual adult websites too, parents should keep a check on their children

[Loubie-Lou]

My issue is, gag are saying this app is child friendly while making 0 effort to make it child friendly/safe.

[DaddyDevn]

While I do agree with your point you have to realize children of any age can access ANYTHING extremely inappropriate (porn, violent videos etc.) on the internet with a simple search. If they’re parents aren’t monitoring what they do on here you think they’re not doing inappropriate things on other sites?

[Loubie-Lou]

So that means apps shouldn't monitor or at least put barriers up to try and stop them? Wouldn't you do that if you owned an app? Or would you be happy knowing you've created a nonce safe haven? I understand children can lie about their age but this app doesn't even stop the ones who have their age set to a child seeing sexual content.