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Then guys TRY to console us by saying "dont worry, theyre just a fantasy." HOW CAN I NOT WORRY THAT IM NOT THE ONE HE FANTASIZES ABOUT? I want to be his EVERYTHING lol Is that really too much to ask for? Some guys even say "if they looked like you, thats when you should worry". Im like tf? How lol Id be happy because I know that my body type turns him on ans is his fantasy as well
Or they say "even if he was with those porn stars, theyd probably look for pics of girls like you. Men like variety"
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Obviously, Im not & most of us aren't porn stars, but we still would feel better if those women at least resembled us. Because Ill know that he's happy with my body type at least
Before y'all ask, yes, I only masturbated to my ex boyfriend. I never pictured anyone but him, and he was pretty much my fantasy. Like Marshall from HIMYM, only wanted my "Lily" and only fantasized about my "Lily" (Im a hopeless romantic and when I love someone, I literally cannot even imagine anyone else). So it really hurt to see that he was pleasuring to himself to women who were the complete opposite of me, light skin, big boobs, etc
This is a reason why I just can't date. I'll ask and feel terrible to find out that those women look nothing like me
Even if he's not gonna cheat on me with them, it still makes me feel like im not enough because he *has* to go to other women to get a fast boner
TLDR
Why can't we be our men's fantasies? :(
Is there any explanation to this shit aside from the ones I already stated? Or do we just have to accept that most men aren't satisfied with just one woman (not talking about infidelity)?
*NOTE I dont mind that men watch porn, I just get hurt when the girls he consistently looks at look nothing like ME. Because it means that he doesn't find my body shape attractive enough for a fast boner. So dont come at me (haha pun) with that "all men watch porn, deal with it"
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15 37I do NEVER orgasm as hard as when I jerk off to my girl. She's the hottest girl to me due to how much I love her.
That's beautiful lol
Not as beautiful as the real thing, if I only had it... she's actually only my crush yet :/ but we've known each other for about a year now and already talked lots.
because sometimes, "regular" is, "boring"
This is the problem, women are always comparing themselves to the porn stars... DON'T. Guys are looking for entertainment, they don't want them as a girlfriend, that's why they have you. You are what they want. It is pure and simple visual entertainment. And it's not that they don't like looking at you, or want to see you, guys are visual, I don't think women truly understand this because you're not that way like we are, we enjoy looking at the variety. It has NOTHING to do with our feelings toward you. Maybe also the porn stars might be doing things that you don't do, that's sometime the other thing. Women tend to take it personally and you can't, because it's not. Now, I understand how it may hurt your feelings, but this is easily solved by talking to your bf/husband about it. How it makes you feel etc. If he truly cares about you, he'll explain and comfort you and/or make changes. But if you try to think about it as "nothing", like a child playing with his toys, minding his own business, and not personally, it won't bother you nearly as much. He's not having sex with these porn stars, he's only looking! Would you not look at a hot male celebrity, if he was dressed just perfect for you and doing all the right things that really turn you on?
Ugh. I don't care about porn, or the acts. I'm asking if he consistently searches for women who look nothing like you! I could care less if he's searching kinky shit, or if it *has* to be sexy school teacher role play, I can be kinky or dress up like a teacher. But it's when the women he deliberately searches for look nothing like you. Like white girl/black girl with big tits. When I'm neither of that and small boobs. It feels like he's not satisfied with my body type since he has to CONSISTENTLY look for other body types for a fast boner
Its not like a woman would care about a mans fantasy because according to women we all are the same
Besides are sexual tastes.
So just find a man who thinks you are his fantasy..
There's plenty of us who would think you are our fantasy so just choose, and if you don't like that one leave him for another one, toss him aside
That's not easy to do...
@BuchitaBuchys For all women? Possibly. For you... Shouldn't be too hard. < / creepy >
@0112358 I don't get it. You're trying to say I toss men aside?
No I'm saying you're physically right in my ideal zone and when i compete with other men for women I have sadly found lots of competition. There are a lot of men who fantasize about women who look basically like you.
@0112358 how do you know what I look like?
I remember. You're 6'4" blond with big tits and no ass.
@0112358 lol you're remembering wrong because I'm short af. And in my question details I clearly said I'm dark skin, dark hair, dark eyes.
Oh that's right. And I hate blondes sorry I got confused again. Yeah short af dark hair and pear shaped is my favourite and a lot of other men too.
@0112358 yes sure fine. But that's rare to find. And I'm not going to go around asking guys on the first date like some weirdo, what kind of porn do they prefer. I'm sure most would think I'm insane, which I am, and never see me seriously again lol
Im really pretty sure it's not rare. It's fairly common. And given that men who like those features are most likely to approach... I would sort of keep looking for men who really like you rather than resigning for one who seems like he's settled.
Let's be honest, we aren't exactly the woman's fantasy either.
Yes, with me at least. If im with him, I fap to him and everything.
And if a more attractive man with more to offer showed interest, you would probably fantasize about him at least a little
No. You really think that more attractive men never try when you're in a relationship? More attractive isn't even possible. Like I literally obsess over the men Im with. Hell, I still fap to my ex to this day lol Pathetic I know but I have a few dick pics that I should get rid of sometime soon
So you fantasize about a previous partner? Even with a current partner?
No. I make sure to move on before dating. I stillhavent moved on from him which iswhy i haven't dated.
Even if that takes me years. Like literally, with my first ex, I didn't date for a year and a half.
Maybe you're a very specific case, but I think most women at least fantasize a little about other men
Hmmm. I don't know. I just no I cannot. And if they do, they dont really love their partners in my opinion
I don't know about that.
I watch porn but I don't fantasize about the pornstar while jerking off actually i fantasize about my girlfriend
Do you have any favorite porn stars?
Yeah
Do they look like her? and I thought you said you dont fantasize about the porn star?
Yeah i don't fantasize but that doesn't mean i can't have a favorite 😂 lol
And they don't look anything like her May be same figure and nothing else I just like curvy girls so that might be it for the figure part
So same body shape though?
Yeah mostly
Seek Id be ok with that lol
*see
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My girlfriend has somewhat similar fig
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Google Jasmine Black if you're that Interested, lol
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