Why do certain boys, get a little bit too crazy after sexing a girl for years?

[Erica686]

So, I was reading through some old messages, between these two individuals I know. And it's very disappointing in it saddens my heart to g that I allow these two idiots to disrespect me smh. But anyways, my point is, I won't say any names, but I will use letters. So with C and I, we went to school together and with our and I we met back in the year of 2014 off social media. Now with C and I, we no longer talk anymore- but if he were to see me he would definitely try to invade my personal space and start up a conversation. But he also has a girlfriend now, and with R and I, we are on good terms and we get along just fine but it took a lot of praying and a lot of healing with inside of me to forgive this man. But we are still in communication, we just don't talk often. But anyways moving forwards. With c and I I'm not sure what he really wanted from me, I mean it seemed like at one point he may have wanted a relationship with me. He seemed very confused about what we were doing then when he asked that question what is this what are we. I told him pacifically that we were friends just having fun nothing more nothing less so don't read too much into it. So he took that with a grain of salt and never asked me again about a relationship. And with R and I. I do, feel like that he's committed somewhere else, and if not. I definitely do feel like that him and his BM has some ties together. But it's not my business.. Now is it.. Lol. But anyways fast-forwarding just to get to my point. I dealt with these guys for some time and they seem to have been a little bit too obsessive with my body but neither one of them was trying to commit. I'm not saying that they had to. But if sex is all that we are just having then why get crazy and get mad when you're not able to have any or the girl doesn't want to. I get it, that they were both just using me, and I'm sure they did found me attractive. Keep reading update to question..

[Caliguy88]

I think it all depends. If they don’t want to date that could be a million things. Maybe they didn’t want to date at the time. Maybe they don’t want to date you. Maybe they felt you didn’t want to. But we can all go crazy for girls. I wound say it’s what’s in the pants. Half the world has what you have. Obviously they like you in some capacity. If I was acting like that, I’d be really into you… though you might not know that. I’d say just ask if you need answers. I’m always honest as possible when asked stuff like that.

[Erica686]

Thank you for your honesty. Even with my 7 year friends with benefits, that's R. He still expects and thinks to have free cookie from me... But don't want to add nothing to the plate not saying he has to. But you can't just keep eating off mines for free. I mean C and R are good guys overall. But they just wasn't good to me and their behavior changed, after I kept giving them sex. And imma be honest I'm not the most confidence person when it comes to that department sometimes I felt as if I wasn't doing anything. They would always be the ones on top of me haha.😂😂✌😆😲😵😮😐. But I read that that's like a dominance role, shoot I sure wish somebody told me about that like years ago. 😏🙂

[Caliguy88]

That’s life…. You live and you learn… I bet they are both fine guys. Sometimes you get into the whole, “this is our type of relationship” too. Do they know about each other? My most recent friends with benefits likes me… I liked her at first and then I figured out she gets around. I personally lose interest in a girl if she’s being with more people than I think is ok or if the other guys are losers. I don’t want to be associated with that.

[Erica686]

And with R. I really love him.. And it hurts.. B c I wanted to date him... Like him and I have a lot of history and I mean a LOT!!! And we do still talk here and there.. but he has hurt me the most... I can never I will never trust him again nor the same. We work together great and we get along just fine and we can brainstorm like there is no other. And I know, he's been other girls: I'm not sure if he's like this for all females. But he says having sex with me is very different, then those other females. Then says, he's physically attracted to me, then mentions and say to me how we have this SEXUALLY chemistry, and he found it one of the best things to have which I don't know why. But I don't know, his feelings may be a bit stronger! But again. Each and any chance he gets he has it on his mind now that's just being a boy and a guy. But 7 years of sexting each other... like.. Yo that's enough bro. Me and the other guys C.. Was for at least 2-3 years. Still to long. But the Chemistry Between Us was a little bit different and so was the energy. He wanted to make love! But then by the next day he would come off being really sweet or cold or distance. :/. Now with him. Yes, I did like him. And I don't think I really wanted a relationship with him. But I wanted to spend more time with him outside of the bedroom- so smh.

[Erica686]

Yes. With C he couldn't stand R and how he treated me. But I'm like, yo wtf C.. Look at how you treat me. And with R. When the question was asked this year or maybe last year would he ever consider dating me. He told me yeah, but he also. Mentions to me about how I didn't be truthful to him and I wasn't honest and I didn't keep things 100% with him. He said you told me that you've been messing around with other guys so I didn't think that you were interested in me or wanted to be with me. He said, you told me that you have been messing around with someone. I mean yes I did tell him about other guys that I was actually interested in but the simple fact is he wasn't really being clear and open or forwards about what he wanted. So a lot of times I will test him and to make him jealous because he would get mad but then other times he acted as if he didn't care, and didn't seem like he had a problem with me talking about them or giving me advice. Then the worst thing that I did one year I sent him a picture. Oops lol

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

I had a nasty attachment to the girl i lost my virginity to in a one night stand. I eventually got over her, and we don't speak to this day

[Erica686]

Omg I'm sorry to hear that

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

Nah, i don't care

[Erica686]

Well R doesn't seem like he wants to go and I mean I don't want him to go. But the level of disrespect that he gave to me, May absolutely no sense... Smh. Like him and I we can get along all we want, but I still don't trust him. He has gotten better with respect to me but I had to do a lot of praying and patiently waited.

[Anonymous]

They’re horny?

[Erica686]

Can you please read the whole thing. Then give me an actual answer. And yes! It seems to be smh!

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, a girls vagina can have that much power over a guy. But guys like that are very immature.

[Erica686]

Thank You. And it's the same ones that says I'm not going to get crazy I'm not going to change :(. And they did! But then they'll go out here and treat somebody completely different and 10 times better. And I'm a good person I just don't understand why use me. Smh

[Erica686]

Like if you have no intentions on dating me then let me go and leave me be and don't leave me alone

[Erica686]

Like my 7 year friends with benefits that's R. He still expects and think to get the free cookie... they don't want to add nothing to the plate not saying he has to. But you can't keep eating off mines for free! I mean C and R are good guys but they just wasn't good to me and it all happened , after I kept giving them sex. :'(