Why do guys feel like they can't express their feelings? Or like it's not ok to ask for help?

[Anonymous]

Why are men looked upon to provide everything to survive? Even growing up they are taught that feelings are for pussies and to basically bottle it up. "Be strong" "be a man" "man up"... I think we as a society are getting a little better about this.. but.. 🤷‍♀️ us women are very "capable" of taking care of ourselves.. and don't feel like we have to bury our feelings to prove we got this.. there's time my guy won't talk or tell me what's bothering him. And I just want to be there for him even if just to lesson. And when he just won't talk about whatever I feel like I'm not doing my duty in being his rock the way he's mine. Or not worthy or inadequate, not good enough to be his Support... I know that's not why he doesn't want to talk. But why do guys gotta be so hard on themselves and not let anybody else in.. or help?

[Anonymous]

First of all, let's be clear that you women are very "capable" of taking care of yourselves because men conceive of design, build and maintain a modern world that allows you to be "capable" of taking care of yourselves in a very protected and sheltered world. Every modern convenience, tool, machine, vehicle, structure, fuel, infrastructure, and protective force that allows you to be "capable" is made possible by men, so let's keep that in proper context.

To your question, men will never feel comfortable expressing their feelings the way women do because, to put it simply, it's not masculine, and humans, both men and women, view feminine men are less attractive, less worthy and less valuable. That will never change, despite all our efforts to make a difference.

Men (and boys) know these things instinctively. We don't have to be taught or told. We see it from a very young age in the realities of human nature. It's not complicated or difficult to understand. Emotional men are simply unattractive, and always will be. Saying otherwise is dishonest, disingenuous and harmful to young boys who should be told the truth, not a lie that will end up hurting them later in life.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not sure how your update ties into the original question.

[Asker]

I'm not sure how you can start an answer with your own opinion that has nothing to do with the question... or how you are still relevant in society, with that small mind locked behind those big protective doors. "A man with walls is a man that cannot put himself in someone else's shoes." Have a good day, not a man enough to be one. 👍✌️

[Opinion Owner]

I see your butt is very hurt. lmao

[Asker]

Not as bad as the road rash your giving yourself from the sand falling out of your vagina🤭 hahaha that's a knee slapper right there. K I'm all done now bye bye🥱🥱🥱

[Opinion Owner]

A woman trying disrespect a man by saying he has a vagina. That's fucking rich. And you're probably not bright enough to understand how you actually just disrespected yourself. lmao.

[LoganJayce]

It's going to take a long time for this to change. A lot of guys have no idea how to put their feelings into words, and even if they do know how they feel like they shouldn't, which I think is why blind rage and life ending cases of depression are so common in men. Just be there for your man, an be sure to tell him it's okay to have an emotional side and share it.

[Asker]

I do and I always tell him I won't judge and its ok to break down and I'll just lesson and not say anything if that's what would help. He's also manic depressent.. so I know it's hard for him.

[honeybunSs]

They feel that way because that's how society thinks men should be. They are raised to think that they need to be tough and independent.

[Lizzzzz288283]

Societal “standards”. same goes for women.

[DSimus]

Turns out the Patriarchy isn't that great for men either.