Yes, it's an ignorant thing to say. Yes, Asian women are fetishized in a way that denies their essential humanity and treats them like they are a trophy, or a price, or some "exotic" thing the man was able to obtain. Yes, pretty disgusting how your boyfriend said it. you SHOULD feel dehumanized by it, because, he has a dehumanizing idea about what a woman represents in a relationship.
If that was MY boyfriend, he'd probably get a crash course in Orientalism, exotification, colorism, and how this all feeds both a sexist and racist bias. He'd either get tired of me reminding him and leave, or he'd get schooled. Either way, I win by not having a caveman for a boyfriend.
Here are some articles for you and your boyfriend to read:
www.columbiaspectator.com/.../
www.salon.com/.../
www.thecrimson.com/.../
www.huffingtonpost.com/.../i-give-up-on-trying-to-explain-why-the-fetishization-of-asian-women-is-bad_us_5a6a34e7e4b01fbbefaff9a2
theotherpress.ca/racial-fetishism-is-racist/
Racial fetishization is racist, is what he needs to take away from this, and YOU need to walk away, if he's stays racist.3 0 0 0Most White guys are overreacting thinking that Asian women are all over them. Dudes, it's your money and wallet. And the submissive trait lmao. They are submissive before you issue the visa. After the visa is done, gtfo lol. Asian men know this too.
6 0 0 0I am an Asian girl but i do think i am not that desirable. I sometimes feel what you feel about interracial relationship. How i envy white/black girls for having a bigger chance to feel more desirable while i feel invisible around them.
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A lot of white men feel constantly disrespected by women of non-asian races. I know that I am really attracted to Asian women's femininity and the fact that they are generally more submissive. I wouldn't mind dating a white woman or a black woman, but so many of them give me so much attitude that I have simply lost interest in pursuing them.
1 0 1 1They are beautiful. Some. Note that surgery is a huge thing over there, affordable for them lol and the norm. I sometimes can't get past the childish look they have (not all but from what i have personally seen.. Its many)
Yeah that's big in the Oriental countries. I have seen some of the Korean actors and actresses, they look like each other and it's kinda weird. I tend to go for Desis and Arab women.
Yes they do and i feel bad sometimes that i can't tell them apart... I like and would date ant race except Asian men. Unless an Asian man looking manly as fuck came my way lol
Stereotypes of submissiveness and femininity I imagine? can't really say because I am not interested in them at all.
5 1 0 0Makes sense.
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7 7Just a type they like.
0 1 1 0I kinda already said that its ok to hace a racial preference. Issue is... Fetishizing a race
It's a bit more than just like though, it's kind of dehumanising.
I know it’s gross
0 0 0 0He sounds weird and unreasonable.
You are right.1 0 0 0YAY a fellow torontonian <3
0 0 0 0My husband latin women
0 0 0 0i have a fetish for @omgjassy
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@omgjassy I'm just a young man on a quest for love
My hubby also likes Asian girls
0 0 0 0I notice it's mostly white guys who fetishize them.
7 1 0 1Yeah ik
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Seems like a dumb move by your man lol.1 0 0 0I don't know. I was never into them. I am more into latinas
3 1 2 0They‘re not my type at all
0 0 0 0I'm black married to a white guy SBD my husband doesn't desire Asian women at all. In fact he calls them a name I can't say here. Dump this guy if he has an Asian fetish, remember you're number 1 not some Asian chick.
0 0 0 0I don't get it either, it's just weird. If a girl is hot, she's hot, I'm not sure why they feel the need to bring race into it. Your boyfriend sounds really weird with the recording thing, as well as his attitudes about inter-racial relationships and towards white women - my guess is that he got rejected by a few white women (probably because he's a weirdo) and has some bitterness towards them. Then because he's become obsessed with race and inter-racial dating that's why he obsessed over the race of a girl rather than just her. Good luck with that guy, looks like you're gonna need it.
1 0 0 0My boyfriend has a thing for Indian women.
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