Why do men like women on top during sex?

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Why do men like women on top during sex?

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nightdrot Master
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Generally, actually, I don't. I much prefer being on top - missionary or, if it is wilder sex, doggy style with me leaning over her.

When we want to be wild and I feel like being submissive, which is not that often, I want her on top because it feels lie she is in total control. Basically my naked body is there to be used by her and my penis is a toy for her to play with. With my girlfriend on top, I am basically helpless and have to obey her.

The irony is that even when I am in a more submissive role, what I most like is when she milks me. I am naked on all fours and she is stroking my dick as if it were a teet. Totally gets me hot.

The only other way that I enjoy having my girlfriend on top is when she licks and plays with my balls. Does not matter what kind of sex we are having - romantic, mellow, animalistic - when she licks my balls I am absolutely paralyzed and all I can do is lay there and squirm and swear and breath heavily. (My girlfriend says she has never met a guy who is so turned on by having his balls licked.)

So, sorry I answered more than you asked. I guess the bottom line is that I like having a woman on top only when I am in a submissive role, otherwise I am actually not that big a fan.
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- sheflips
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  what is the right way to lick or touch men's balls?
- nightdrot
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  @sheflips Every guy is going to be a little different. Licking - with me - is straightforward. Tongue going up and down - and UNDER!!! - the balls. Sometimes you can even take a guy's balls in your mouth and then rub the tongue against the scrotum. Touching is more a matter of cupping the balls or just running your fingers over them. The hard part, of course, is how much pressure. A guy's balls are, obviously, his most vulnerable point. Too much pressure can hurt, not enough and it is not sexually arousing. The first time my girlfriend played with my balls she just started with two fingers on my balls and her thumb laying under my penis. She was slow and gentle and the more I responded the more pressure and the faster she went. With her tongue it was easier. Basically she just started licking my balls. Not hard, just regular licking like you would an ice cream cone. I went - pardon the pun - nuts!! Sorry, it is hard to describe, but I hope that helps.
- sheflips
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  how about licking the skin between the two balls? Is there a feeling there? how about sucking 1 ball in and out of the mouth continuously? Will that hurt?
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- sheflips
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  You should author your own kama sutra book, lol
- nightdrot
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  @sheflips Licking "between the balls" is fine. Fantastic - and probably unavoidable. (If it helps, think that you are not licking the balls, per se, but the scrotum. Go all over, it's all good. Again, especially under the scrotum.) My girlfriend has sucked one of my balls into her mouth as you describe. I like it, and it does not hurt so long as you are careful - take it gently into your mouth with your tongue - but when she manages - and I am not down there so I can't see it - to get my whole scrotum in her mouth, I melt. I am totally helpless and am literally unable to move. It really is fantastic.
- nightdrot
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  @sheflips Ha!! Thanks. I take that as a high compliment. Maybe as a second job, but I owe it all to my girlfriend who is open and fun in the bedroom and, in an old fashioned way, really does believe that it is important to sexually please me. Fantastic sex and I love her too.
- nightdrot
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  Oh, one last thing, if you DO take only one of your s/o's balls into your mouth, be careful not to suck too hard. Remember that they were built to "hang together," so if you pull them to far apart, you can hurt your guy. For what it is worth, at least if my girlfriend is any indication, this is easier than it sounds when you explain it.
- sheflips
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  Unfortunately, I can't take both balls inside my mouth. so... Should the licking strokes be circular or upward/downward or left/right? Do you prefer your balls licked more than your dickhead?
- nightdrot
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  @sheflips Generally I like up and down if out of her mouth, though with some movement to the underside of my balls - can't stress that enough. In her mouth, it is necessarily limited space, so to speak, but circular is better. (Hard to describe why - but I won't try to in this limited space. Just take my word for it.) As to balls or dickhead - balls 10,0000% I love being sucked and my girlfriend will swallow my cum - and sometimes share it with me in a kiss which we both find really romantic - but having my balls licked, for some reason, drives me wild. That all said, I am happy to offer advice, but every guy is apt to be a little different. Trust me, he will appreciate your willingness to try new things as much as anything. A guy wants to know that his girl is into pleasing him. Start trying new things - trust me - he'll notice in a good way. Hope that helps.
- sheflips
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  Thanks for sharing. Maybe you'd want to create a poll or open a question? Tag me if you do.
- nightdrot
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  @sheflips Will do. Thanks.
- nightdrot
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  @sheflips Hey, one last thing - belatedly. Every guy is different. Even my girlfriend says she has never met a guy before me that gets so turned on by having his balls played with, kissed and licked. Other guys may like it, but prefer other things. Others still may not like it at all. After all, a man's balls are his most vulnerable spot. So you kind of just have to be open to exploring. To me it is sexy, it makes me feel open and vulnerable to my girlfriend, and it really drives me wild. To some other guy it might be, "Uh-huh, not touchin' those!" Though I guess most will like it to some extent. Best of luck and hope it helped. P. S. Three different poll ideas popped into my head from this exchange. What poll idea did you have in mind specifically? Thanks.
- sheflips
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  Thanks for the advice! Maybe you can ask if men prefer to have their dickhead or balls licked or sucked more than the other?
- nightdrot
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  @sheflips Let me give it some thought. I have seen polls here asking guys if they like having their balls played with. I'll do a search and see what else turns up and will let you know if I post anything. Been a real pleasure chatting.
- nightdrot
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  @sheflips Just a quick follow-up. Might I suggest that you post that poll? A woman asking that question of men is much more apt to generate a response than a guy asking it. After all, guys will naturally want any woman to understand what stimulates a man sexually. Telling another guy is merely rehashing what is, to us, the obvious. No need if you don't want to - but to maximize the number of responses, I suggest that you post the poll.
- sheflips
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  Yeah, sure will do. Im also interested to know how to touch or play with it. I really like playing with balls, it is so much softer than stress ball and bounces so much better than jelly stress balls. Thanks for the advice.
- nightdrot
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  @sheflips Loved your last answer - OUCH! That said, I gave you some sense of where I am coming from. I cannot imagine other guys are too much different from me. It may be a matter of degree. I just basically am reduced to helpless ecstacy. Other guys may not go so far - and even I love to be sucked. Like I said, my girlfriend and I find it deeply romantic. That said, your poll will be interesting, but you will learn as much from the guy you are with in terms of what he likes. As to bouncing balls - my legs are crossed even as I type this.
- sheflips
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  So I've only been with 2 men. My ex, who was 23yo at that time, got horny in less than 2mins of me massaging his balls while my ex-husband never got horny. He said it just felt like a body massage which didn't give him any arousal. He has erection problem though (that is why we are divorced). So I am not sure if massaging the balls can turn on all men.
- nightdrot
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  @sheflips Not sure why you have doubts. Again, every man will be different, but you yourself noted that your ex had other issues. He was as much out of the average as I might be. The 23 year old probably gives you a better read overall. Because, let's face it, guys are generally horny most of the time. That does not mean that they all respond to sexual stimulation in the same way, but again, for a man, his balls are a VERY sensitive area. Bottom line - it is no different than women. Some things that may you send you into space may bore another woman. You learn what works for you. Don't overthink this. You could take all the fun out of it for both of you. Believe me, in any case, if you enjoy playing with a man's balls, he is not apt to complain. Gosh knows I wouldn't!
- nightdrot
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  @sheflips P. S. By the way, if you really have any doubts, you should see me when my girlfriend starts playing with my balls. Laying head back, my legs spreading wider and wider as I am trying to make myself as open to her as I can and every other moan out of my mouth is, "Oh god, oh sh^^, oh f***, sh**, oh sh**'n god..." Not poetry, but I think you get the idea.
- sheflips
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  never got that reaction from my ex-hubby
- nightdrot
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  @sheflips Hey, sorry to be delayed responding. Just a couple of things. First, as I said, my reaction is probably not the norm either. Keep in mind that my girlfriend said she'd never seen a guy react as strongly to having his balls played with as I do. So, don't use me as the yardstick - if you'll pardon the pun. Second, and more important, you sound frustrated. I don't know your circumstances, but just keep one thing in mind. It is great that you want to please a guy and get that strong a reaction out of him. Any guy would love that. (Your ex had issues. If he didn't appreciate what you tried to do for him sexually, that is his fault, not yours.) However, believe it or not, what is more important to a guy is that you explore your naked bodies together and share the experience. Yeah, I love it when my girlfriend licks my balls. You know what I liked better? Learning together what turned us on sexually. Do you really think my girlfriend licked my balls the first time? Continued below...
- nightdrot
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  As for me, I hate to tell you some of the things I tried to turn my girlfriend on. One time, I did something - I won't tell you what - but I kept going at it until finally my girlfriend stopped me and said, "Honey, what are you doing?" Suffice to say, we both had embarrassing moments and we laugh about them. Because what they demonstrated is how hard we wanted to please each other. Oh, and I hate to tell you, we went a little wild for a while in the early years. Now we are a bit mellower and - strangely - even happier. Still, I promise you, what matters most to me - and will to any guy - is not how you make him feel, but how he feels when he has that moment when he is inside of you and you are giving yourself to him. That'll light up his world. In the meantime, be patient. There are no magic formulas. You'll get there. I promise.
- sheflips
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  Nice to read your comments. As a divorced woman, I honestly felt sad reading your comments. I just felt alone. Your opinion sounds like you a professional counselor or something. Can we start a private message? I have some personal questions and someone your age can probably enlighten me. I can't send you a message unless you follow me.
- nightdrot
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  @sheflips Thanks. Very kind. No, I am not a counselor. Just a guy who has found someone who makes me wildly happy. Who cares about me and puts up with me. When I get on my high horse - which as you can tell I do a lot - she just smiles, rolls her eyes and gives me a kiss on the cheek. We do have our moments, but I love her with all my heart and she has taught me a lot. As to chatting, I am now following you but you'll have to initiate the first message as I am - notwithstanding my time on this site - about as technologically backward as you can imagine. (My girlfriend uses the word, "Hopeless," actually.) So, once you send me the first message, then I can reply. Finally, I did not mean to make you feel sad. Having had a very bad break-up at one point, I know how that feels. I know that feeling of being alone. It is like a tunnel with no end, but there is an end. You just have to look for it, be open to it, and remember that loving and happiness are talents as much as feelings. Chat soon.
D_Bone_Steak Guru
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Personally it's great to take a break and let her do all the work. I usually don't cum though unless I'm doing the humpty hump, so eventually I'm going to have to take over and be on top.
I think women are the same way, so if she's having a hard time getting to the squirt zone... Do her like burger king, and let her do it her way.
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Pinay_ako Editor
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So he can see the view from down there and play with her boobies while she grinds back and forth and bounce up and down on him
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NightlyCreature Xper 6
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Personally I like the view, cowgirl position shows a great view of her breasts and face, reverse cowgirl shows an amazing view of her ass.
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MlleCake Editor
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It feels good.
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PhilTee Xper 5
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1. Guys are generally heavier than girls so there's less weight on top, which is more comfortable for both.
2. It feels so sexy for a woman to be on top, moving in a way that turns her on the most at her pleasure (I like to watch her pleasuring herself like this 😉) as much or as little as she wants.
3. It's just... so sexy, can't explain it totally 😋
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Skeptic19 Xper 3
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cuz boobs excite guys
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theharlequin Yoda
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It's sorta like watching her pleasure herself while the guy plays the part of the dildo
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sammy1537 Xper 6
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This question is based on a false assumption presented as a fact. It is indeed a false assumption. Regardless of what you imagine, classic woman on the bottom is still the most common position during sex.
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SirRexington Master
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So i can admire her leaning over me. It's like an angel hovering above and gracing me with their holy gifts.
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theventrsomeone Xper 6
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We have our hands more free and can touch you anywhere. Are you self conscious about it?
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Anpu23 Master
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Breasts, simple as that.
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- Utell
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- Anpu23
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  @Utell mostly in the sense of development. I really don't have the time to focus on playing. I work a full time job and own two companies as well as being on the board of a third. I also blacksmith as a hobby, not to mention a huge backyard that I am turning into a paradise for my family.
omgjassy Master
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Because they are lazy.
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- Utell
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  Yes they are, they are even seeking for buddies to the the Job for them!
- omgjassy
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  @Utell exactly
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Browneye57 Master
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They like every which way.
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winterfox10 Master
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It's a super sexy view and we get to relax while you ride us!
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taleswapper Yoda
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Both hands free, all the tasty bits to the front, and she's doing most of the work. What's not to like?
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kunalmehta005 Xper 5
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Coz sometimes guys also like their girl to be in power... It's a real turn on for us... It feels really hot...
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FýrdracaDócincel Guru
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Two reasons:

-Laying back and relaxing instead of having to physically support ourselves through the whole damn thing.

-Gravity has a way of doing incredible things like creating stars or conditions for life to exist. Another such incredible feat involves pressing a pair of soft tits on our chests in an extremely sensual way that can't be done when things are flipped. xD
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Nora_Sutherlin Xper 6
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Because they're subbmissive
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DamnMan Explorer
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Says who?
I like my woman on the bottom!!!
Or side!!!
Or on top!!!
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- FýrdracaDócincel
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  Brilliant!
BeardedMenace Xper 3
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Honestly I do get lazy sometimes during sex. Being on top takes a lot of energy and it's easy to get overheated or dehydrated. It's nice to take a break and let her do some of the work
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Cellestial Yoda
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For the view, it'shot to see her boobs bounce and her facial expressions while she's riding.
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TallAnon Master
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Boobs! And the amount of effort they put in equals how horny they are, so that's hot to notice
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