Why do older men & women try to slut shame young women?
MichikoMyneXper 2
So I’m just getting comfortable with my sexuality as I lost my v-card last year. I’m very goal oriented so I see guys as a distraction just a good time. I want to have my stuff together before i go looking for someone to settle down with. And just because I’m comfortable with talking about my sexuality. Slut shaming is old. If I’m asking for tips about my communication what makes you think I gaf about what you think about what I do or say. Why are you trying to tell me about being in relationship. When I just SAID that’s not what I’m looking for right now. I just honestly don’t get what is wrong with people.
Maybe is the way you behave or bring things out that makes it easy for people to sl*ut shame you. And by the way you didn't need to lose your V-card to feel comfortable with your sexuality. Young women often sexualize themselves and think that's their only way to get things done and that often is insecurity masked with over confidence. Also talking about sex all the time is childish people won't take you seriously. Have a great day!
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MichikoMyne
2 mo
I did not say I lost my v-card to be comfortable with my sexuality. I said I lost my v-card last year AND I’m comfortable with my sexuality. I lost it to the guy I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with but things do not always go to plan. I don’t think it’s always the way people behave because. Older people slut shame for any little thing. Are we not supposed to live our lives?
sheikalana
2 mo
We are supposed to live our lives but we must also take full responsibility on our decisions. The way we carry ourselves and the way we expose ourselves may not always be accepted.
laly520Guru
2 mo
slut shaming is wrong
older ones tend to do it cuz often they r too arrogant n judgmental
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ChicoFromThe305Guru
2 mo
I'm not older and I still do It, if they feel shame it's cause they know it's wrong, cause I doubt people feel shame when they excersise even if they have someone talking shit in the background, shame is a natural human emotion and it's there for a reason, it's suppose to make us feel like we are doing wrong and normally we only feel when we are doing something wrong, I shame people to try and help them change their ways, it's worked before, I don't expect it to always work, feeling shame sometimes allows you to think of more than one perspective that isn't just your own and doing that can help you think of things differently, be honest if you never felt any negative feelings or emotions, Will you even process just the idea of some change, if u say yes, you are only lying to yourself lol.
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Nikki1989Master
2 mo
It usually stems from jealousy. Their lives have hit a brick wall, and so they try to bring down anyone that is enjoying life. You can see evidence of that every day on here.
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TheSpaceGnomeGuru
2 mo
Because being a slut is objectively stupid/reckless. If you live like an idiot, smarter people are going to judge you, thats just how life is, and if you actually didn't care about other's opinions, you would not have bothered posting that, as all you will get for answers is opinions.
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bobby_bush_eaterXper 6
2 mo
I disagree. I don't necessarily think slut shaming helps as it degrades the person but I 100% disagree with you that premarital sex has any long term benefit.
The I wanna have my shit together first idea is a terrible and long accepted answer. You should have high expectations and have those drive your decision making with a man. When you try to time it yourself or you think you've found the right time it very well may be too late. Many career oriented woman are discovering this as they get older. Or you may find the right time just never comes. By having sex you're opening yourself to the wants of nearly all men who have intentions that only they truly know. But imagine if you tell a man I want to wait till marriage and he agrees. Every action he does is genuine, it's not a long play at sex or he just behaves this way to get sex later. It's actually real and you both will have displayed an amount of loyalty and self control.
I am not a virgin and I regret having sex in my prior relationships and few one night stands. I now have higher standards and see people for who they are and I won't be clouded by the allure of sex in my relationship decision making. I know 2 paragraphs won't sway you but I hope you look into what I've said a bit more.
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StaximusGuru
2 mo
Because guys don't want to marry a woman who was the town bicycle. Women who just give themselves away and treat sex as meaningless don't value themselves, then other people didn't respect or value them because they don't respect themselves.
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MichikoMyne
2 mo
I noticed with a lot of you older men y'all talk about marriage and how no guy wants to marry a women gives themself away but that’s not topic at hand.
Staximus
2 mo
You asked why older people slut shame, genius
Staximus
2 mo
And that's why
DextroShadeYoda
2 mo
It's not shaming so much as warning you that if your body count gets too high you will be unable to pair-bond with a man and be damned to die alone. It will be especially bad when you hit the wall and men stop doing things for you but by then it will be too late if you don't already have a husband.
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handsomelad70Xper 7
2 mo
Part of the normal, childlike cruelty which informs U. S. life.
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jahaimsMaster
2 mo
They are less brainwashed than you and can see that. Hook up culture was put into place to disrupt society. Hook up culture has all negatives.
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gorydetailsYoda
2 mo
I can’t quite understand what you’re whining about.
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AngryCarlExplorer
2 mo
Well @michikomyne I think you're still young enough to make your own mistakes.
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DrewJohnsonXper 6
2 mo
I think some older men and women slut shame. It's the way they view the world. They think saying something will help the person change based on their comment. They were taught sex was wrong until you were married.
Don't worry about what other day. Keep enjoying the company of men whatever way makes you feel good.
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KrakenAttackinMaster
2 mo
Shame serves a very valuable function in society.
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CuriousMufuxkaGuru
2 mo
You don't know what you're talking about! Lol your description pertains to dismissing, yet you ask here like a little comfort would change anything.
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MrDaveAPSIXper 5
2 mo
Younger women and men are just "playing the field". I think older people just sort of forget this sort of thing, and need to lay off
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CubaPirateMaster
2 mo
Well I for one don't do that
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SabretoothGuru
2 mo
All I'll say is that it's a life that goes nowhere... Nowhere good, anyway.
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riverrat3Yoda
2 mo
Live the life you want ignore all those that try to shame you
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13 35Maybe is the way you behave or bring things out that makes it easy for people to sl*ut shame you. And by the way you didn't need to lose your V-card to feel comfortable with your sexuality. Young women often sexualize themselves and think that's their only way to get things done and that often is insecurity masked with over confidence. Also talking about sex all the time is childish people won't take you seriously. Have a great day!
I did not say I lost my v-card to be comfortable with my sexuality. I said I lost my v-card last year AND I’m comfortable with my sexuality. I lost it to the guy I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with but things do not always go to plan. I don’t think it’s always the way people behave because. Older people slut shame for any little thing. Are we not supposed to live our lives?
We are supposed to live our lives but we must also take full responsibility on our decisions. The way we carry ourselves and the way we expose ourselves may not always be accepted.
slut shaming is wrong
older ones tend to do it cuz often they r too arrogant n judgmental
I'm not older and I still do It, if they feel shame it's cause they know it's wrong, cause I doubt people feel shame when they excersise even if they have someone talking shit in the background, shame is a natural human emotion and it's there for a reason, it's suppose to make us feel like we are doing wrong and normally we only feel when we are doing something wrong, I shame people to try and help them change their ways, it's worked before, I don't expect it to always work, feeling shame sometimes allows you to think of more than one perspective that isn't just your own and doing that can help you think of things differently, be honest if you never felt any negative feelings or emotions, Will you even process just the idea of some change, if u say yes, you are only lying to yourself lol.
It usually stems from jealousy. Their lives have hit a brick wall, and so they try to bring down anyone that is enjoying life. You can see evidence of that every day on here.
Because being a slut is objectively stupid/reckless.
If you live like an idiot, smarter people are going to judge you, thats just how life is, and if you actually didn't care about other's opinions, you would not have bothered posting that, as all you will get for answers is opinions.
I disagree. I don't necessarily think slut shaming helps as it degrades the person but I 100% disagree with you that premarital sex has any long term benefit.
The I wanna have my shit together first idea is a terrible and long accepted answer. You should have high expectations and have those drive your decision making with a man. When you try to time it yourself or you think you've found the right time it very well may be too late. Many career oriented woman are discovering this as they get older. Or you may find the right time just never comes. By having sex you're opening yourself to the wants of nearly all men who have intentions that only they truly know. But imagine if you tell a man I want to wait till marriage and he agrees. Every action he does is genuine, it's not a long play at sex or he just behaves this way to get sex later. It's actually real and you both will have displayed an amount of loyalty and self control.
I am not a virgin and I regret having sex in my prior relationships and few one night stands. I now have higher standards and see people for who they are and I won't be clouded by the allure of sex in my relationship decision making. I know 2 paragraphs won't sway you but I hope you look into what I've said a bit more.
Because guys don't want to marry a woman who was the town bicycle. Women who just give themselves away and treat sex as meaningless don't value themselves, then other people didn't respect or value them because they don't respect themselves.
I noticed with a lot of you older men y'all talk about marriage and how no guy wants to marry a women gives themself away but that’s not topic at hand.
You asked why older people slut shame, genius
And that's why
It's not shaming so much as warning you that if your body count gets too high you will be unable to pair-bond with a man and be damned to die alone. It will be especially bad when you hit the wall and men stop doing things for you but by then it will be too late if you don't already have a husband.
Part of the normal, childlike cruelty which informs U. S. life.
They are less brainwashed than you and can see that. Hook up culture was put into place to disrupt society. Hook up culture has all negatives.
I can’t quite understand what you’re whining about.
Well @michikomyne I think you're still young enough to make your own mistakes.
I think some older men and women slut shame. It's the way they view the world. They think saying something will help the person change based on their comment. They were taught sex was wrong until you were married.
Don't worry about what other day. Keep enjoying the company of men whatever way makes you feel good.
Shame serves a very valuable function in society.
You don't know what you're talking about! Lol your description pertains to dismissing, yet you ask here like a little comfort would change anything.
Younger women and men are just "playing the field". I think older people just sort of forget this sort of thing, and need to lay off
Well I for one don't do that
All I'll say is that it's a life that goes nowhere... Nowhere good, anyway.
Live the life you want ignore all those that try to shame you
Because they are jealous