I seriously would like someone to try to explain it to me. I just don't understand. I have watched porn here and there, but the vast majority of it is actually really annoying and not realistic. What makes a person get hooked on it to a point of being unable to go without it?
Watching it sometimes is one thing, and I have friends who do, but literally being addicted to it is hard for me to grasp.
Relationships take time and learned skill, To care for someone besides yourself does not happen over night. However, we live in a selfish egocentric world. We want what we want, when we want it. In the 1800 we had to wait due to physical separation. Automobiles ended that. In the early 1900 we were busy with industrialization and many times money stood in the way of romance. Credit cards put an end to that. Morales stood in our way. Drugs and Alcohol tore down the inhibitions. Pornography has been here for centuries. But notice the change in format. In the 60s, It may have had an actual storyline. Pornography has gone the way of rock music. Producers found the formula that worked and duplicated it for financial success. Pornography today is based on the standard uncomfortable situation , followed by the standard "Do you have a Boner"?, followed by penile display, followed by handjob, blowjob, some form of cameltoe ride, to vaginal sex , to anal sex, to money shot. Very predictable. However, the problem is that real relationship can but seldom dot happen that way, unless the participants are conditioned by watching porn as well.
Back to the question, "Why do people get addicted to it"? It is quick, it does not require any emotional investment and it delivers the expected outcome. It's danger is that it cause us to demand inaccurate expectations.
Very well said. "Relationships take time and learned skill, To care for someone besides yourself does not happen over night." - This right here is deep shit, and I think this is honestly what scared some of my exes. They saw that I really cared about them a lot and was serious about a future with them, and I think it was something they either didn't really expect, or didn't really experience from most other guys, and it scared them and made them want to run away. That's beside the point of course, but just you saying that I think relates. I think a lot of people are not used to real affection or actual good sex.
Commitment requires intestinal fortitude. You have to be prepared to accept the unexpected. Saying I unconditionally care for you is an act of bravery.
i think that the biggest problem with porn is how it is influencing the younger generation.
years ago only prostitutes' would give blow jobs, now its fairly common for people to give oral sex. today the amount of young girls, that will let a guy give them a facial is ridiculous. i mean what pleasure do they get from it? i have never had a partner that has said spunk on my face for me (i am a generation up from that obviously)
i understand that we look at porn and get ideas, but its getting way out of hand and the porn industry are just looking to make more and more different types of porn to mix things up a bit and sell more vids or advertising etc.
lets face it, generally its men watching porn (i know that, that is a general statement and lots of ladies do, but in majority its men) is there a relation between how many men are now into BDSM and believe that they are masters or daddys or doms these days? as this is what they see on porn, ladies being degraded and men doing what they want. they then believe that this is how to have sex.
now from my point of view i know that people have kinks and fetishes, i have had one since i was too young to understand it. but thats me and part of me. people watching porn going i must do that is not them, they are not doms or masters, they are just imitating what they see on the screen.
its almost a type of addiction as they believe that if they do not do it in a certain way that they are not manly enough or the big man so to speak. its pier pressure and thats almost worse. as most the time its made up from the big kid at school who has only watched porn and never had sex in his life or even worse is hiding the fact that he may be a sub or gay etc
Why do people get addicted to anything? It's just how our brains work. We get addicted to things that give us a high.
I think the porn addiction gets bad cuz it starts in childhood then never really ends. Barely anyone talks about it like drinking/smoking is talked about often but porn addiction only gets brought up if a partner is bothered by it. Also might be embarrassing for someone to reach out for help. It's all really sad 😔
But the thing about it is that most porn isn't even entertaining. It's so fake and lackluster, and doesn't have nearly enough realistic passion.
Same with most books, shows and movies tho. Fake is still entertaining to some people
What about live webcams where you see real people enjoying sex? I agree acted porn is boring and unrealistic, that's why I like amateur videos b and live b webcams
I seriously don't know how people get hooked. Even when i had an addiction. I could not stand porn, i hated it and it just was so fake and staged, but i kept watching. I dont have that addiction anymore tho, thank God
But what made you keep watching?
I have better orgasms masturbating. I sometimes use porn in internet, but actually I could use my fantasy as well or read an erotic story. Sometimes I masturbate watching a news channel. Or whatever. If you don't have time, porn it's just a quick way to get off. I understand addiction, you click and you get a fast and sure reward. I enjoyed a lot my last weekend with my wife, was really fun, and loving, and we did a lot of stuff, but sex wasn't that good. Maybe I was ready when she was not, or other way around or i eat/drink too much. Whatever. With porn I'll have a good orgasm, full point. If not, I'll retry shortly after until I get a good one. Now with my wife i have to wait next occasion
Please help me, I want to get rid of this addiction too :(
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!The covid19 thing changed the dating scene around the world. I have not looked into the sales of sex toys for women since this pandemic began. However, the sales of male sex toys like the Fleshlight and similar gadgets have skyrocketed. I even bought one and it does feel like a pussy. Amazing! So with guys pounding their wood inside a rubber-like flesh toy who needs a woman? Well, that toy does not replace a woman anymore than a dildo replaces a man.
The human species is designed to enjoy sharing sex with each other. These toys are just a way to bridge the time between the last sex encounter and the hopeful next.
What's your definition of hook? I jack off at once daily or every other day. Do I watch porn almost 4 to 7 times a week.
Yeah, filter through the categories and preview a few until I find one that strikes me. Do mu business and move on with my day.
So what's your definition of addiction in regards to porn?
You can easily discover this by not watching any porn and retaining for a few months. Most can't even survive a few days...
Addiction like the cases you hear about where somebody literally HAS to have porn like every day. Even guys who are already in relationships. The kind of addicts who say they don't care what kind of porn it is, they watch everything, and literally can't go without it for long.
Oh, yeah I like porn, but I can go without especially when I with a women. But it's luxury and easily there. It ain't I sit there dreaming about porn, but makes jerking off easier... and I guess I am addicted to that.
I don't know, I find it boring, stupid, unrealistic and fake. I don't even like 2d porn. I rarely look at it, it doesn't get me turned on, nothing visual really does... I'm not a visual person when it comes to 2D.
That said, I do admit... if there was live action porn, I would probably check it out. As I am a very curious person and would be curious as to how others do it for real in real life, rather than some recorded studio or whatever.
Not sure I'd want to make that a regular thing, I simply want to satisfy my curiosity about how others do it.
Exactly. That's why I hate it too, it's so annoyingly fake and absurd. And I just CANNOT stand all the exaggerated moans and sounds the women make, it really irritates my senses. I can't see how anybody can get addicted to all that clowning.
1. Extreme ease of fulfilling one of basic human drives - sexual drive. Humans are wired for reaching the easiest goals (just like huge amount of carbs+fat consumed by western civilization).
2. Delusion of having multiple highly sexually desirable partners.
3. Flood of dopamine (also the cause of porn tastes changing towards more and more extreme, desensitization of receptors).
4. Decrease of gray matter in prefrontal cortex - weaker decision making and self-control. Negative feedback mechanism - the more one faps to porn the less motivation and energy to acquire a partner.
Sometimes imagination and great bodies in porn are more satisfying than real sex. This is addictive, you may not find that sexy body of your dreams and porn in your real sex partner.
Gives a sort of ‘high’, go high in fantasy land, very similar to drugs
Because people are horny, dumb mortals.
and what about you?
Oh i am not a horny mortal, i'm an asexual goddess
Addiction is genetic.
It's different for you because maybe it's not your vice. I look at porn sometimes to get my self off. I do it today and tomorrow it calls my name and so its goes until I don't feel for it. We're all addicted to stuff that we think makes us feel good.
im a porn addict myself but im happy about it
can you dm, I wanna talk
I think it is a feedback thing; sexual arousal feedbacks and encourages the behaviour. It is like visual crack for the brain.
Personally I find ideas and scenarios more of a turn on than watching sex. I think watching sex is a guy thing.
It’s both. Just may not be your thing
I'm sure many do for something to masturbate to... Yes I have at times, so I have to admit some guilt... but I am not addicted at all.
My theory is that different people get addicted to different things. In my experience people that have it harder to get real sex are more likely to be addicted to porn. Therefore your experience with sex and knowledge about how it works could be the reason you don't have a problem with it.
As others stated before porn can still work like any other drug since sex is connected to a dopamine output. A person's brain doesn't make a different if you have sex or just watch it.
Like for instance I had problems with porn in the past but never had issues being addicted to social media.
Because climax gives us high.
But what about real sex?
1. I personally think a lot of addicts are virgins or have very limited experience with sex. But that's just speculation. 2. Sex and porn are two totally different activities. Sex is a physical activity with another person. If you're doing it right, you're not focused on yourself - each of you are focused on your partner. A very high level of trust in another person is required in sex, so it's naturally a very very emotional activity. None of these are true for masturbation and masturbating to porn needs even less active imagining and emotions involved (masturbating to the thought of your crush who lives next door can be an emotional activity, whereas the characters in porn are just ideas of people you'll never truly meet and have no real emotions for. They are characterless objects, for the most part). It's just images (moving or static) you watch, your brain thinks it's really there, it frees hormones, and you touch yourself ONLY for the high, because there's literally nothing else you can get from it. Some addicts touch themselves violently just to force their brain to get that high, because their brain is desensitized to the images. So yeah. Sex is a very complicated experience and for someone like myself who enjoys the experience, the "high" is not the most important part. Porn, however, is about nothing but high. And anything that is only about the "high" can be extremely emotionlly numbing and addictive.
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It feels good. It’s entertaining.
Eh sounds like u watch too much
And no one admits thheyre addicted
I turned down a huge prob contract for my idiot boyfriend
But it was stuff I couldn’t do and I’m
Wild so
Consumption of porn is primarily driven by both convenience and the 'reward' it provides (i. e dopamine hit). Over time individuals become consumed by this content to the extent they rely on it. The 'pornification' of society is also to blame for it, where everything is sexual in mass media and in movies. Some even believe what is depicted on these movies and have a very nuanced view of real life sex. I profoundly disagree with Andrew Tate on many things but his description of porn is spot on - describing how it's near-impossible a typical porn scene of a plumber doing a job and then spontaneously having sex with the client can be real. Yet some actually do believe it.
is it porn really... ?
or is it primarily something in our brains...
the same could be asked about alcohol... why 99% of the people I know to drink alcohol (more or less than average) are not actually alcoholic addicted?
it's certainly not the alcohol or many much more would be alcoholics, I just see porn the same way... is not actually the porn that gets you addicted... it is just a susceptible brain that got hooked on porn
It’s addictive & gross!! It had to do with the serotonin Levels in the brain. There’s a lot of info on it out there. It’s gross and bad. My boyfriend and I have a no porn policy
I just enjoy PornHub sometimes, but I'm not someone who has an account nor am I a big fan nor a frequent viewer. I'm just not an addict. Ha.
You can be addicted to anything. It's just how it works. But with porn an obvious relation to dopamine.
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