Why do some guys only want a hook up but not a relationship? Is it because of the girls?
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This guy I used to work with said guys will only boo up 10/10 girls and the ones below average they will just use for sex
is this true?
so for example will a girl like this ever be used for sex or will she always be seen as girlfriend material due to her looks?Will guys always view her as girlfriend material and not a booty call?surely guys don’t just go off looks? Surely it’s 50/50.. But I could be wrong
Its the girls. If she's dateable many men will prefer to date her. If she isn't its just for sex. Its not just looks! I don't know why you girls keep saying that! If a girl has casual sex she's undateable to me and ill personally just use her for sex even if she's hot. This is what is called a slut. Guys dont date sluts, clearly or else how did they get to be one? Smh.
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marish01
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Why to date sluts if they are good only for one thing...
bamesjond0069
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@marish01 exactly
marish01
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People don't date for only sex. If they want only sex and nothing else they will have it casually.
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bamesjond0069
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@marish01 huh?
virtue2332
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People usually don't intentionally date for sex only. This becomes evident when the honey moon stage ends and the sex marathons end and you realize that's all you really had. Also guys don't date sluts is ridiculous. Bames there is nothing wrong with a girl that has casual sex. Probably more better than an inexperienced frigid prude. Im not going to pretend to know your dating life but there is a high percentage chance you have dated plenty of what you would consider undatable they just unfortunately feel like the have to lie about it and the orgasm you thought you gave them.
marish01
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@virtue2332 what is the meaning of dating a slut if sex is the only thing she offers? There are more guys who are willing to have sex with sluts than willing to date the.. Sometimes they have to choose sluts because they can't find good girls. And yes some men are cucks who love the idea of being with a woman who has bad many dicks in her. That thing turns them on. No man with self respect gets off imagining his girlfriend being fucked by many men.
bamesjond0069
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@virtue2332 guys with options dont date sluts for serious relationships. Ill go on a date with a slut if i enjoy her company and to have sex but how could i ever marry her or have a family with her? Smh. "Bames there is nothing wrong with a girl that has casual sex. Probably more better than an inexperienced frigid prude." Im hardly even sure what this means... well yes the sluttier the girl the more likely she will cheat or just leave or in general treat you like shit. Id call that something wrong with her. And every slut that fucks so good was a virgin once ya know so clearly they aren't prudes. Have you ever even had sex with a virgin? They are far more interested in sex than a slut. Way better in bed too. Maybe not the first or second time but if you're entering a serious long term relationship then its worth the terrible hardship of teaching them the highly complex tedious ways of sex. The horror! Smh. Thats sarcasm by the way. They have no baggage or dislikes and are generally happy to try anything. Sluts come with baggage they expect you to carry. They won't do things prior men made trauma to them about. They won't do anything new because theyve done it all, its boring to them after 20 guys all did everything with them already. And they just dont bond very well which is not good for that romantic making love sex.
bamesjond0069
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@marish01 right again.
marish01
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True. Sluts get numb. Sex is like drinking water. Nothong special. How can one expect sluts to desire someone. They deside sex. To them sex is like masturbation. It's all for orgasm. Not sexual intimacy. How can one enjoy sex with someone who views you as a means to orgasm and doesn't value their intimacy with you. How fun is this?
virtue2332
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I'm just saying at best you can only hope the person is who she says she is. Because of the slut shaming mentality some unfortunately have become good at lying. As far as virgins you are clearly delusional. Virgins are not better in bed. I just prefer my women with some experience. To each thier own. Bames buddy clearly you are joking or trolling. You obviously can make your own decision on who to use as you say for whatever. I hate to say it your going to meet your match one day and it's not going to end well. Especially if you think women should act a certain way to be worthy. I was a medic in the Air Force travelled to many countries. Working as a medic I was out numbered by women 5 to 1. Had many as patients and close friends if you think your using anyone your probably the one being played with
marish01
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@virtue2332 how is he the one being played with if he sees sluts nothing but holes? And why do you think women have to be other men for becoming good in bed but only being with you makes them shitty lovers? Do you think of your own "skills" as worthless for teaching? No need to bow ocer other men's skills. And no need to glorify other men's dicks. Lol I believe a real masculine men is grossed out by the idea of his beloved woman being touched by other men.
virtue2332
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I'm just saying he thinks he is Soo superior to women. Like he is the one making the decisions on who he uses and chooses to be in a relationship with. Women are smarter than he thinks they are and a woman that he thinks is a slut could have made bad decisions when she was younger and changed and someone who was innocent suddenly gets a little wild. He can only ever hope the one he thinks is the one isn't really the type he would never date because she has slept around and won't admit it. I say this because the type of attitude he has calling women sluts creates the environment where this happens. If we were all just open and honest about how we are and what we like without the fear of being judged we would be better off. If he likes virgins more power to him unfortunately people judge and the fear of being labeled causes some to lie about that as well. There is some one for everyone. I've been married going on 20 years. I don't have an issue with any views. its ridiculous to shame someone else and call them names because they don't conform to your standards. Just move on to the ones that do. Only a sociopath would go out of there way and use someone and after shame them and call them sluts. It's immature and childish. Also I don't think a woman has to have a bunch of shitty lovers to be good in bed. That's ridiculous. From my perspective for sex to be good you have to trust each other and be confident and mature enough to communicate what it is you enjoy it's more than just the mechanical actions it's the mood the atmosphere you create the connection. That comes with experience. I never said with a bunch of random guys I said experience. I have a active fulfilling and enjoyable sex life. We are best friends and know each other well. We got together in our 20s but actually have known each other since she was 9 and I was 11
marish01
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@virtue2332 she could be the best match for you by being only with you. But you won't admit this because it hurts you to think she has been with other guys. As for him I believe him. There are too many women who get used only for sex. Guys who act like assholes get the most sluts. Why? Because sluts have psychological issues and damaged self-worth. And why would men who use women for sex (consensually) respect them? It is called USING THEM FOR SEX for a reason. If you use someone you can't respect them.
bamesjond0069
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@virtue2332 "Like he is the one making the decisions on who he uses and chooses to be in a relationship with." Uhh i am though. Who else possible chooses who i am in a relationship with? "could have made bad decisions when she was younger and changed" past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior. An ex slut is statistically more likely to get wild again than a girl who has only been with one guy. Which girl is more likely to have 100 men? Choice A who currently has 20 or choice B who has currently 1. Both are married. Be honest who would you bet all your money on? "I never said with a bunch of random guys I said experience." This makes no sense. If she's a slut then yes, it was in fact a bunch of random guys. If its just experience then why can't she become experienced just by fucking you? My girlfriend was a virgin when we started dating and we fuck like 2x a day for a year. Trust me she's quite experienced now. Do i need to let her fuck 5 other dudes to make her know what she's doing since you say she's a prude and not good in bed? Smh.
bamesjond0069
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@marish01 "There are too many women who get used only for sex." Yes exactly. Im pretty good with women so its not like just because im having sex i become a retard like most of these guys out here. there's always another girl around the corner. Girls who sleep around are all exactly the same. This is all they have to offer: used holes and friendship. They dont have anything else really. They are all the same. But a virgin is different she waited for me and has her virginity to offer. Thats something none of these other girls have to give. Therfore she stands out as something more valuable. Short of that women have very little value in a relationship sense. Because they all offer the exact same thing as any other one basically. So if there's lots of options that are the same what moron is going to commit to one? Just have all of them seems better.
marish01
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Why to commit one slut if you can have too many sluts and why to commit a slut if she has shared the most intimate thing with RANDOM men. This makes her intimacy worthless. If that intimacy is given to a total stranger then what would make you want that for commitment. A virgin by choice is a virgin for her self worth and her high value of INTIMACY
bamesjond0069
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@marish01 👏👏👏
HanrejYoda
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You have waaaay more control over your life if all you do is hooking up. Relationships require compromise and more often than not men feel they give up too much for too little.
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KingofCupsXper 5
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Let's be real, sometimes you need sex and the perfect partner isn't available, at least you enjoy something special with someone, even if it's not meant to last. Although there will always be an occasion where you want more, you want to build something with her, grow together for awhile. She's really got be worth it tho. Because most of the time you just get bored after a few weeks and crave something... or should I say someone new.
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Aiko_E_LaraMaster
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Same reason why girls only want a hook up but no a relationship.
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NazgolYoda
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Many reasons. Could be they're recovering from a breakup, got burned and facing rejection so hating now, just horny but not up for a relationship..
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fred_durstXper 7
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because relationships is hard work
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Kiran_YagamiXper 7
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It can go either way, but in general, guys only want hookups because they have options. If you have many girls at your beck and call, why would you settle for just one? You can text a girl any day of the week and get laid, and if she says no you just text a different girl. Men with options exercise their options. Ironically, men with options are more attractive to girls than men without. It's the way the cookie crumbles.
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Asker
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What about good looking celebs like Ryan Reynolds I’m sure he gets loads of girls flirting with him yet he stays with his wife Blake
Kiran_Yagami
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There are always exceptions to the rule. And there's no guarantee he is being faithful or that she is being faithful other than their word.
Hellraiser1984Xper 6
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Because they are boys. Boys just want sex. Men want sex and love. Some guys really would love to love a woman. It's just that it's mostly just girls out there. Women are getting rare men too.
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anton_deeXper 6
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Sad to say but yeah, guys mostly hook up for sex. And that girl is yummo. If she has a great personality and wonderful behavior, she is the perfect wife...
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myabe123Xper 6
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Welp as much as pretty as this girl is, is love like a thing? Like deep feelings plays into it?
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Thatdude091699Xper 5
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For me I did booty calls and friends with benefits because I was constantly moving around and didn't wanna build a relationship then leave it in 6 months.
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In_TranceMaster
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Sometimes it's because of the girls. Most times it's because of themselves
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OddBeMeMaster
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No it’s because of them. The guy just doesn’t want to commit.
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JennieFYoda
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It's wiring for a lot of guys and they aren't ready for responsibility. The willingness of teh girls simply helps that allong.
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DjaayYoda
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The more a guy knows he's not what he should be towards a great relationship and all done the RIGHT way , the more he justifys that inequity to just (looks) of a girl to make up for what he's not. This makes himself feel worth in value the same as he scores. Relationship for him at that demise would entirely give up his position of a no body quickly. The same thing women do too.
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Joshua0213Yoda
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Personally its the exact opposite of what you said, only hookup eith 9s and 10s. Anyone else for a relationship though. Usually the girls who are really good looking, thats all they have to offer, they can't hold a conversation, they aren't funny, they don't want to try etc.
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Raaj4youExplorer
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I want relationship.
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This_Is_My_Opinion8Xper 7
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Some guys just want sex. Some guys want relationships. It's not about the girl, it's about the kind of person he is.
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Asker
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What about if he’s had previous girls before?
This_Is_My_Opinion8
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Most people have sex before they meet the person they want to spend the rest of their life with. I had girls before I met my wife. What separates the previous girls from my wife? What made me want my wife? Who she was. I got along with her great from day one.
Asker
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Sorry I meant.. guys who have had previous girlfriends before and say to the new girls “I’m not looking for a relationship” then why was he able to secure one before? It’s like deep down he does want a relationship just not with me 😞
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This_Is_My_Opinion8
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Two options here. Either that can be true. Not going to lie, he can not want a relationship with you. That's a possibility. But... he can also be that he is not looking for a relationship at the moment. With you or anyone.
MJtheCoachXper 6
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Because girls are extremely annoying and controlling and they love drama and they nag a guy to death, and they always for jealously issues.
Men are simple they want peace. Women wanna talk and talk about everything 24/7 and make small problems huge.
Don’t worry sex robots are goanna do something that men will avoid women all together
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Havill4ndXper 5
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I've never just wanted to have set with a women. Always wanted something more.
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27 111Its the girls. If she's dateable many men will prefer to date her. If she isn't its just for sex. Its not just looks! I don't know why you girls keep saying that! If a girl has casual sex she's undateable to me and ill personally just use her for sex even if she's hot. This is what is called a slut. Guys dont date sluts, clearly or else how did they get to be one? Smh.
Why to date sluts if they are good only for one thing...
@marish01 exactly
People don't date for only sex. If they want only sex and nothing else they will have it casually.
@marish01 huh?
People usually don't intentionally date for sex only. This becomes evident when the honey moon stage ends and the sex marathons end and you realize that's all you really had. Also guys don't date sluts is ridiculous. Bames there is nothing wrong with a girl that has casual sex. Probably more better than an inexperienced frigid prude. Im not going to pretend to know your dating life but there is a high percentage chance you have dated plenty of what you would consider undatable they just unfortunately feel like the have to lie about it and the orgasm you thought you gave them.
@virtue2332 what is the meaning of dating a slut if sex is the only thing she offers? There are more guys who are willing to have sex with sluts than willing to date the.. Sometimes they have to choose sluts because they can't find good girls. And yes some men are cucks who love the idea of being with a woman who has bad many dicks in her. That thing turns them on. No man with self respect gets off imagining his girlfriend being fucked by many men.
@virtue2332 guys with options dont date sluts for serious relationships. Ill go on a date with a slut if i enjoy her company and to have sex but how could i ever marry her or have a family with her? Smh. "Bames there is nothing wrong with a girl that has casual sex. Probably more better than an inexperienced frigid prude." Im hardly even sure what this means... well yes the sluttier the girl the more likely she will cheat or just leave or in general treat you like shit. Id call that something wrong with her. And every slut that fucks so good was a virgin once ya know so clearly they aren't prudes. Have you ever even had sex with a virgin? They are far more interested in sex than a slut. Way better in bed too. Maybe not the first or second time but if you're entering a serious long term relationship then its worth the terrible hardship of teaching them the highly complex tedious ways of sex. The horror! Smh. Thats sarcasm by the way. They have no baggage or dislikes and are generally happy to try anything. Sluts come with baggage they expect you to carry. They won't do things prior men made trauma to them about. They won't do anything new because theyve done it all, its boring to them after 20 guys all did everything with them already. And they just dont bond very well which is not good for that romantic making love sex.
@marish01 right again.
True. Sluts get numb. Sex is like drinking water. Nothong special. How can one expect sluts to desire someone. They deside sex. To them sex is like masturbation. It's all for orgasm. Not sexual intimacy. How can one enjoy sex with someone who views you as a means to orgasm and doesn't value their intimacy with you. How fun is this?
I'm just saying at best you can only hope the person is who she says she is. Because of the slut shaming mentality some unfortunately have become good at lying. As far as virgins you are clearly delusional. Virgins are not better in bed. I just prefer my women with some experience. To each thier own. Bames buddy clearly you are joking or trolling. You obviously can make your own decision on who to use as you say for whatever. I hate to say it your going to meet your match one day and it's not going to end well. Especially if you think women should act a certain way to be worthy. I was a medic in the Air Force travelled to many countries. Working as a medic I was out numbered by women 5 to 1. Had many as patients and close friends if you think your using anyone your probably the one being played with
@virtue2332 how is he the one being played with if he sees sluts nothing but holes? And why do you think women have to be other men for becoming good in bed but only being with you makes them shitty lovers? Do you think of your own "skills" as worthless for teaching? No need to bow ocer other men's skills. And no need to glorify other men's dicks. Lol I believe a real masculine men is grossed out by the idea of his beloved woman being touched by other men.
I'm just saying he thinks he is Soo superior to women. Like he is the one making the decisions on who he uses and chooses to be in a relationship with. Women are smarter than he thinks they are and a woman that he thinks is a slut could have made bad decisions when she was younger and changed and someone who was innocent suddenly gets a little wild. He can only ever hope the one he thinks is the one isn't really the type he would never date because she has slept around and won't admit it. I say this because the type of attitude he has calling women sluts creates the environment where this happens. If we were all just open and honest about how we are and what we like without the fear of being judged we would be better off. If he likes virgins more power to him unfortunately people judge and the fear of being labeled causes some to lie about that as well. There is some one for everyone. I've been married going on 20 years. I don't have an issue with any views. its ridiculous to shame someone else and call them names because they don't conform to your standards. Just move on to the ones that do. Only a sociopath would go out of there way and use someone and after shame them and call them sluts. It's immature and childish. Also I don't think a woman has to have a bunch of shitty lovers to be good in bed. That's ridiculous. From my perspective for sex to be good you have to trust each other and be confident and mature enough to communicate what it is you enjoy it's more than just the mechanical actions it's the mood the atmosphere you create the connection. That comes with experience. I never said with a bunch of random guys I said experience. I have a active fulfilling and enjoyable sex life. We are best friends and know each other well. We got together in our 20s but actually have known each other since she was 9 and I was 11
@virtue2332 she could be the best match for you by being only with you. But you won't admit this because it hurts you to think she has been with other guys. As for him I believe him. There are too many women who get used only for sex. Guys who act like assholes get the most sluts. Why? Because sluts have psychological issues and damaged self-worth. And why would men who use women for sex (consensually) respect them? It is called USING THEM FOR SEX for a reason. If you use someone you can't respect them.
@virtue2332 "Like he is the one making the decisions on who he uses and chooses to be in a relationship with." Uhh i am though. Who else possible chooses who i am in a relationship with? "could have made bad decisions when she was younger and changed" past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior. An ex slut is statistically more likely to get wild again than a girl who has only been with one guy. Which girl is more likely to have 100 men? Choice A who currently has 20 or choice B who has currently 1. Both are married. Be honest who would you bet all your money on? "I never said with a bunch of random guys I said experience." This makes no sense. If she's a slut then yes, it was in fact a bunch of random guys. If its just experience then why can't she become experienced just by fucking you? My girlfriend was a virgin when we started dating and we fuck like 2x a day for a year. Trust me she's quite experienced now. Do i need to let her fuck 5 other dudes to make her know what she's doing since you say she's a prude and not good in bed? Smh.
@marish01 "There are too many women who get used only for sex." Yes exactly. Im pretty good with women so its not like just because im having sex i become a retard like most of these guys out here. there's always another girl around the corner. Girls who sleep around are all exactly the same. This is all they have to offer: used holes and friendship. They dont have anything else really. They are all the same. But a virgin is different she waited for me and has her virginity to offer. Thats something none of these other girls have to give. Therfore she stands out as something more valuable. Short of that women have very little value in a relationship sense. Because they all offer the exact same thing as any other one basically. So if there's lots of options that are the same what moron is going to commit to one? Just have all of them seems better.
Why to commit one slut if you can have too many sluts and why to commit a slut if she has shared the most intimate thing with RANDOM men. This makes her intimacy worthless. If that intimacy is given to a total stranger then what would make you want that for commitment. A virgin by choice is a virgin for her self worth and her high value of INTIMACY
@marish01 👏👏👏
You have waaaay more control over your life if all you do is hooking up. Relationships require compromise and more often than not men feel they give up too much for too little.
Let's be real, sometimes you need sex and the perfect partner isn't available, at least you enjoy something special with someone, even if it's not meant to last. Although there will always be an occasion where you want more, you want to build something with her, grow together for awhile. She's really got be worth it tho. Because most of the time you just get bored after a few weeks and crave something... or should I say someone new.
Same reason why girls only want a hook up but no a relationship.
Many reasons. Could be they're recovering from a breakup, got burned and facing rejection so hating now, just horny but not up for a relationship..
because relationships is hard work
It can go either way, but in general, guys only want hookups because they have options. If you have many girls at your beck and call, why would you settle for just one? You can text a girl any day of the week and get laid, and if she says no you just text a different girl. Men with options exercise their options. Ironically, men with options are more attractive to girls than men without. It's the way the cookie crumbles.
What about good looking celebs like Ryan Reynolds I’m sure he gets loads of girls flirting with him yet he stays with his wife Blake
There are always exceptions to the rule. And there's no guarantee he is being faithful or that she is being faithful other than their word.
Because they are boys. Boys just want sex. Men want sex and love. Some guys really would love to love a woman. It's just that it's mostly just girls out there. Women are getting rare men too.
Sad to say but yeah, guys mostly hook up for sex. And that girl is yummo. If she has a great personality and wonderful behavior, she is the perfect wife...
Welp as much as pretty as this girl is, is love like a thing? Like deep feelings plays into it?
For me I did booty calls and friends with benefits because I was constantly moving around and didn't wanna build a relationship then leave it in 6 months.
Sometimes it's because of the girls. Most times it's because of themselves
No it’s because of them. The guy just doesn’t want to commit.
It's wiring for a lot of guys and they aren't ready for responsibility. The willingness of teh girls simply helps that allong.
The more a guy knows he's not what he should be towards a great relationship and all done the RIGHT way , the more he justifys that inequity to just (looks) of a girl to make up for what he's not. This makes himself feel worth in value the same as he scores. Relationship for him at that demise would entirely give up his position of a no body quickly. The same thing women do too.
Personally its the exact opposite of what you said, only hookup eith 9s and 10s. Anyone else for a relationship though. Usually the girls who are really good looking, thats all they have to offer, they can't hold a conversation, they aren't funny, they don't want to try etc.
I want relationship.
Some guys just want sex. Some guys want relationships.
It's not about the girl, it's about the kind of person he is.
What about if he’s had previous girls before?
Most people have sex before they meet the person they want to spend the rest of their life with. I had girls before I met my wife. What separates the previous girls from my wife? What made me want my wife? Who she was. I got along with her great from day one.
Sorry I meant.. guys who have had previous girlfriends before and say to the new girls “I’m not looking for a relationship” then why was he able to secure one before? It’s like deep down he does want a relationship just not with me 😞
Two options here. Either that can be true. Not going to lie, he can not want a relationship with you. That's a possibility. But... he can also be that he is not looking for a relationship at the moment. With you or anyone.
Because girls are extremely annoying and controlling and they love drama and they nag a guy to death, and they always for jealously issues.
Men are simple they want peace. Women wanna talk and talk about everything 24/7 and make small problems huge.
Don’t worry sex robots are goanna do something that men will avoid women all together
I've never just wanted to have set with a women. Always wanted something more.