Why do we have good dreams about the worst people?

Is it just our subconscious playing a trick on us? Reminding us of the few good moments with the person? I constantly dream about school bullies trying to befriend me, good relationships with bad exes, getting along with the men of my moms past, and so on. Is it just my way of seeing the good in everyone?

In last nights dream, I was dating a certain ex, the worst ex. But one thing about him, he always knew how to touch me. And eventually how to fck me. And no other kiss has come close. So like Towards the end of the dream, we went to make love but he was having a hard time letting himself go emotionally. He just always wanted to fck but we were finally about to make love (such a rarity for us). We get interrupted and decide to take a walk through the woods instead.

The woods was where I lost my virginity and it was a horrible experience. But in this dream, it becomes a nice moment and we end up discovering this beautiful spring. We sit on this rock and I’m between his legs as we just face the scenery and enjoy eachothers company, relaxing our feet in the water.

We turn to kiss and he asks “so are we fckin or makin love?” I surprise him with my answer but we turn and admire eachothers body as we begin to undress. Our skin is as golden brown as ever, just shimmering in the sun. In real life, he hardly admired my body since I was just like a sex doll that he slung around.

Anyways we begin making out heavily and i can feel every kiss and every touch. Reminiscing when i don’t want to. Then he stops kissing me to ask a question. In shock, i wake up from the dream. Man i was pisssed! I was bout to get laid 😂 I tossed and turned all morning trying to get back to that dream lol. I mean Our relationship might have been a total fckup but the diick will always be unforgettable 🤣

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Or maybe its just some sort of stockholm syndrome
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last nights dream hit diff! I was making out with a Mustafa lookalike (possibly him) but sadly i had to made a move when his girl wasn't lookin. I dont like that homewrecker shit. Next thing i know, he and I are in bed and she's tryna creep on me. Like nahh ion do threesomes sweetheart, especially not with another female. MOVE! I go to sit on his dick but it was like a pinky finger. Guess thats what my triflin ass get
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Dreams are just like files on a computer library that haven't yet been sorted efficiently into the best folder for pulled recall later on long term. So memories are not relevent and mundane - delete these files. Others are powerful and important or pleasurable to recall later on or important for survival when faced with a certain task or obstacle in future - save/optimize the files. l in your brain for later.

    What u are dreaming of is just the file/memory your brain is currently working on reviewing at the moment while alseep. Often disjointed from the next although we often create stories out of them. They can also be a great way to see what is on your brain's subconscious mind and most important to you at that stage in life that it dwells on and relives some nights.

    • Oh wow great way to look at it

  • What little of what remember of my dreams are usually mundane couple things. They often involve an apparition of a nondescript woman. Maybe my subconscious longs for something I never had but can't grasp a particular person so it makes a ghost. I don't hold any meaning towards it.

    • Oh yes i love dreams about people I've never even met

Most Helpful Girls

  • I think to an extent our brains try to work through things even while we’re sleeping. After I ended a two year abusive relationship I dreamt of my ex consistently for around 3 weeks, some good but mostly bad. Almost two years later and I still have dreams once in a blue moon about him. I searched what it means to have a dream of an ex being mean to you and it said it was a trauma response so fuck me sideways🤷🏻‍♀️😂

    • Yea mine is definitely trauma because i dated this mf over decade ago lol

  • Yeah. I got an ex i still dream about too.

    Weird

    • Shit i dream about new, old and people I've never even seen before. Its odd how the mind works

    • Agree. I probably have a lot more dreams. I think i be so tired i don't even remember most of them.

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  • Dreaming about me again, I see. Unforgettable….

    • If you were 2 years younger then yes i’d believe you were him

    • Alright. That’s enough to feel important 😌

    • You are important to me

  • if you learn to master your dreams, it's not that hard

  • That dream sounds amazing! Haha! I think it is more like your mind telling you what you want to hear kind of like a self induced Stockholms.

    • What i want to hear? I would prefer not to hear about him at all lol

    • Lol! No I know! But at the same time you have referred to him as being your best sex partner and how you would go back to him if there was any possibility of him being better.

    • Um no. He was the best kisser and his dick was unforgettable but not the best. I did love that he could do “the lift” though. And no i went through to much to escape him. Goin back is one of my greatest fears

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  • I have dreams about the greatest people...

    • Lucky you

    • so far... let's not jinx it, lol

  • I think it has to do with trauma and the high one felt when with them. I sometimes have dreams about a woman I dated in the past who I would honestly say was the first woman I truly loved. The dreams always revolve around the night she told me she didn't feel the same way about me I did her.

    Not always a memory, but the encounters are always somber and bittersweet more than anything.

    • Yea its quite odd. Very often the opposite experience of what it is in real life

  • My mileage varies. C U Next Tuesday's are still C U Next Tuesday's should they be in my dreams.

    • Lmao what? Is that your hookup day

    • Look closely at what he emphasized with "C U Next Tuesdays "

    • @ShadezMcgee ahhhh

  • Well, sorry, but I've never had good dreams about bad persons...

  • This never happens to me. I usually dream about beating the crap our of anyone that has crossed me. I still think about a kid that used to bully me in 9th grade. I am all grown up and kick the crap out of him.

    • It angers me but maybe its because im not one for revenge. So ig my dreams try to be the bigger person

    • Yes, you are a better person than me.

    • No i just meant the me in my dreams is better than the me irl lol. Im not the bigger person either 🤣

  • I never have such dreams. Mostly they are good dreams or erotic.

  • I’ve only ever had good dreams about my ex and I wake up feeling happy. It’s awful. Such a shifty person popping up in my dreams

    • Shitty*

    • Yes thats what im sayin lol! I do have some nightmares too but often its dreams that make these mfs look like the good guy

  • Well dreams often are projection of what we wish happened. So it's natural that subconscious wishes that the negative experiences didn't happen and instead things went better.

    • Ahhh i see

  • Well, I was always taught to think of dreams as the opposite look forward to the flaw is in the dream and that’s the opposite

  • Right

  • I hardly ever remember my dreams. I wonder if I even have dreams sometimes

    • You see nothing when sleep?

    • I may dream but I don't remember it.

  • Yes I've had dreams of people who've hurt me. It's no fun and I don't know why.

    • Yea super weird

  • probably because the body don't lie, and deep down you want to belong to him

    • Uh no the hell i dont

    • but you do dream of him...

    • Girl i dream of everybody as i said above

  • It is interesting what we think / fantasize / dream about. It can sometimes be about conflict resolution or just thinking about the good times/potential good times with “bad” people (maybe helping us justify our time with bad people) or lustful type dream (wishing things had worked out).

    • But i definitely dont wish things worked out so thats why its weird

    • Maybe it’s trying to justify their place in your life (if you considered him overall bad for you)

  • Not me! I have good dreams of murdering my enemies and dismembering their remains and feeding them to the fishes.

    • Thats disturbing

    • Not to me!😂🤣🤪

  • Wow Desii😁😁😁. That's some emotional connection you had there with your Ex.

    I don't get dreams like that all from when I was 13yrs and I had first discovered nocturnal emission.😞😞.

    I'm so jealous of you.

    So what type of sex is your preference? To make love or just having spontaneous sex?🤔🤔

    • Spontaneous no matter what. But preferably lovemaking that consists of fast paced pounding

    • Nice! I love spontaneous sex 😁👍

  • I’d like to have a good genuine answer for you but sadly I just don’t

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