Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Why do you consider going to the strip club cheating?
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Guys like me don't like lap dances. I prefer to just have a beer, watch the pole dancers and bullshit with a buddy. I personally don't see the problem as it's not different than watching porn. Porn being a little worse in my opinion but still nothing wrong with it as everyone masturbates and everyone watches it from time to time. Thing is I don't love the women in porn or on the stage. They mean nothing to me as a person. To me it's just entertainment. You as my girlfriend/wife are someone I would take a bullet for. I kinda feel the jealousy is unfounded. Enlighten me?
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21 11if I’m dating a person who’d rather see other girls dancing naked for him than me lol that’s a problem.
Ok what about an art class. He goes in. Gets his painting supplies set up. A woman complete bare poses seductively. And he paints her with the other 20 people in the room. Would you be upset with this?
It’s a class so no but if he decided to go paint another lady instead of me fuck yeah
No, I personally don’t find it cheating.
Your awesome
I have experienced strip clubs in a different way and honestly I want no girl close to my man or touching him or whatsoever... I’d go with him or he doesn’t go.
It is disrespectful. I wouldn’t accept it. If you are in a comitted relationship there are just some behaviors you need to let go off. Why should you be in a place, where women dances sexually in front me, some
Give lap dances,
Which is really just dry humping and foreplay, touch sexually, if you are in a relationship, then let your girlfriend give you a dance. Plus I find it immoral in itself and ai would’t want a guy who frequents these places to be my man. And I am a very sexual person!!! I initiate sex, take sensual pictures, I even dance myself (not striptease!!! But for my man anything), i am turned on my public sex, etc etc but somethings i am just not cool with.
I find this epically bizarre that it’s viewed this way in your eyes.. your putting yourself in a trouble zone if your in a close relationship. Like setting up a dating site account to get women to flirt with you. The respect and more is an all time low.
As long as he was honest, I wouldn’t care. No touching just looking. I wouldn’t be mad, but the conversation has to happen before he goes. Forgiveness after the fact is going to take some time and groveling.
It’s not cheating but women just don’t like you looking at other women naked in person
It's another woman, you're looking at other than your wife/girlfriend
Some people have issues with this.
So it comes down to insecurity. You feel so scared I am gonna leave you for someone better so you have to try to control me from even seeing what the world has to offer. Because I am owned by you?
It has nothing to do with being "owned" by the person, never said that unless she has specifically said it. Also a belief too by some people. but why would you want to look at another woman besides her if you and her are active in bed etc.
Sometimes she's not in the mood and imagining a sexual encounter with her to masturbate to doesn't get me to the climax, nowhere near it. Also I don't go to strip clubs so I can imagine the girls I saw there while I jack it. I get no sexual satisfaction from staring at them. All it is is something nice to look at. Like admiring art. Rich people go to art shows drink bourbon and wine and admire art. It's not the exact same but it is very similar to me. Porn is a different story. I use it to get off. Watching others have sex and get to climax together is a kink of mine. I am not imagining myself in the mans shoes. If that makes better sense? At least in terms of me as a person.
Yeah it does make sense, is your girlfriend upset with the idea of you going to strip clubs? what'd she say? etc
Well I havnt explained it to her the way I did you. Any time I bring up the topic it turns into a fight and she won't listen to my side. She walked in on me watching porn burst into tears and left.
I feel unheard, as if she doesn't even want to put in the effort to understand me. I feel frustrated that she has to put restrictions on me because to me she seems terrified I am not happy with her, when I am.
From experience, I know men and women are different. Some women do like porn though and some just don't. I don't know her thoughts on it exactly. but I can relate to how she feels, it's sad. and I think it's more of an insecurity because whatever reason. Maybe she feels like she's been cheated on who knows I can't really "speak" for her but it's not an easy topic to discuss with either party
Do you guys have sex often? if you don't mind me asking or does she not want it as much as you?
We used to have it pretty often, but some time passed and it slowed down. I still wanted to have it every day or every other day. She only wanted, at most, once a week. If I was lucky. I feel insatiable, sexually frustrated whatever you wanna call it.
ugh, that stinks :/ might as well do whatever you have to do to get some relief just try and make sure you don't get caught but either way it's going to be a fight with her it seems
If she would let me explain myself I would but she isn't willing to listen. She just want things to be the way she wants them. Thanks