Why does my boyfriend rush sex?

[Anonymous]

I've asked him to slow down. To love me first or try being sweet with me. He said he would but he doesn't. It's like I'm a quick fuck every time. He moved me in pretty quickly and even asked to adopt my daughter. We've had an intense past that made us fall for eachother, but still he can't just make me feel loved every once in awhile? Im not even asking for effort every time. Just occasionally make me feel like I'm not just here to fuck... wtf is wrong? Is it me or him? Is there something I can do or say? I'm desperate for advice!

[UnknownReflection]

It's somehow difficult to picture the situation out of your explanation.

The vibe i receive from the circumstances is that he is somehow using you. It seems he just want sex from you and doesn't care about your feelings. Which is wrong. It appears he is not there to be attentive and your emotions/desires and willingness are the least important to him. Which is disrespectful and not correct.

So i assume you must break up. These behaviors shows that he doesn't deserve you. You deserve someone to put your feelings on priority. Someone who see you and listen to you. Someone who treat you more suitable.

[Asker]

It's harder reading that as someone else's opinions than it is thinking it myself.. Thank you for your advice.

[UnknownReflection]

You're welcome.

[Nightshades]

well go on top of him like ride him then you can control the pace

[Asker]

I definitely have. I like control sometimes. But he still doesn't act like he gives a shit about me while we fuck. It's the weirdest thing.

[Nightshades]

and you asked him why?

[Asker]

I have. I just get an "I don't know." It's really starting to turn me off.

[Nightshades]

well I don't know how to fix the sorry

[Asker]

Lol. No worries. I'm in the same boat. It's awfully confusing. x. x Thanks for the opinion though!

[Anonymous]

he likes it like that it is better to talk to him

[dolemite68]

its him, tell him to knock that shit off it takes two to tango