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Why does my Boyfriend go Limp inside of Me?

I was recently having sex with my boyfriend and his penis went limp inside of me!!! As long as I'm giving him oral he stays hard but when we get ready to become intimate he goes limp and when he goes limp I just push him out. He says that my vagina is really good and tight. I really love him he is very well endowed... and when it comes to him giving me oral sex he does an amazing job... but after the foreplay. I want something stiff and hard but he doesn't last long enough for me to get an orgasm!!! How should I address this problem? I'm feeling very unsatisfied when it comes to that!!!
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  • https://rexmd.com/learn/erectile-dysfunction-and-magnesium

    Does he do any exercise? People say it's age and although that plays a part, it's really all down to the cardio vascular system, and blood flow.

    One of the main nutrients that is linked to blood flow is magnesium, but it is also the mineral that helps the body relax and recover from stress. If he is stressed from work, he may be depleting more magnesium than usual. If he is not on any medication a simple thing to do is to purchase some 'BetterYou Magnesium lotion, and give him an all over body massage before your next session.

    That will transdermally boost levels of magnesium and assist the entire cardio vascular system, blood flow and potentially even with the enzymatic functions related to sustaining an erection (in theory). This is because magnesium is responsible for way over 300+ different enzymatic activities in the body. You might want to avoid using the lotion on his penis though, it might sting once he's inside (just guessing).

    I'm not a Doctor and all written above is for educational purposes only...

    • Yes! He's a gym rat! He works out as much as possible. When he's not working... but I thought working out... helps improve your sex drive?

    • It should do providing it's not over done. But also bear in mind that magnesium requirements increase with regular exercise along with other minerals / nutrients. Therefore if one isn't aware of this, problems can be caused.

    • Okay thank you

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  • I can't imagine going soft while inside before ejaculating. Does he ejaculate or just go limp without ejaculating? I have premature ejaculation but my erection is very hard so I easily penetrate and remain hard until I cum. Does he have a hard erection when he penetrates you?

    • He's done both! And yes there have been several times he's had a hard erection when he penetrates me but as soon as it starts getting good and I start throwing it back he goes soft.

    • I try pelvic floor exercises to improve my control over ejaculation. I think they can also help with erection hardness as well. Perhaps this is something he needs to get checked out as it seems unusual to me to go limp during sex like he does.

    • I do kengals a lot and I also do them while he's inside of me to try and keep him hard and he still goes limp. I've done everything I possibly can do and it's always the same results.

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  • Is he your age or older? Diminished sex drive and ability is common in men that age. Talk to him about it in a gentle non-confrontational way. Men are sensitive about the subject. He needs to see his doctor and have his testosterone and prolactin levels checked. If that isn’t the issue, other medications he is on could be the culprit or he just may need an ED medication to help him with his erections. Its difficult to talk about such things to a partner and doctor but it’s treatable. Frame the discussion around the idea that HE will be happier with better performance. Good luck!

    • He's 51 years young. He seems to think that it has a lot to do with the long hours that he works... but he's like that even when he doesn't work long hours.

    • Stress and fatigue can be factors but if this problem persists, he should seek medical attention. At his age, I strongly suspect work hours aren’t the issue. Men are proud and don’t like to admit anything is wrong with their manhood. He’ll be stubborn about it but keep trying to influence him tactfully.

    • Ok I sure will! And yes it's happened more than twice. I'm almost to the point where I don't want to have intercourse with him anymore. It's sad 😢 but that's how I feel. I love him very much but when it comes to intercourse sometimes I just want to say forget it!!

  • I mean, I don't know what to say…lol
    I would be talking from a 20 year olds point of view. 😅

    It may be because he is getting older.

    • I think so too... I've tried to get him to go to the doctor but he won't go.

    • Then it looks like you need to sit him down and explain to him what you want, and why he needs to see the doc. 🤔

    • I concur and I'm on it!! I need him to be able to use that monster meat 😆 lol

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  • Does he finish immediately inside you and then go limp? Or does he loose his erection when penetrating?

    • He loses his erection while penetrating.. as long as I'm sucking him he stays hard and once he starts penetrating for about 5 min he goes soft but today he got an orgasm while it was soft inside me

  • Well your relationship sucks since it is all about sex. So... I don't know maybe you should rethink things a bit

    • First of all our relationship is not all about sex!!! He knew I had a high sex drive when we met! Maybe you should think before you respond to a question ❓❓

    • You asked for people to answer your question. I am not going to argue with you or give you the answer you wanted to hear. You asked the question and you got my answer. If you don't want people to answer the question then don't post it. sorry but I am not sorry

    • Your the only one that gave a stupid reply!. And I'm not sorry either idiot

  • Could it be fear of pregnancy? Are you on BC?

    • No I'm not on BC. I can't have children so it's not that!!

    • Is he able to masturbate to climax? Then it's mental, not physical.

    • I agree I think it's mental too but he doesn't want to go see a doctor to find out

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  • That's exactly why he goes limp, it's in his head that he can't satisfy you because he cums to fast.

    • That sounds about right!

    • It's a psychological thing, he's worried about orgasming too soon and not pleasing you.

    • Yes! He gets very upset when I don't cum! He's often said he doesn't think he satisfied me enough

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  • Maybe your vagina doesn't give enough stimulation.

  • Are you or him surgically "fixed" (ie tubes tied or burned/vasectomy)?
    If not, he may be getting anxiety over you getting pregnant, and that can kill a boner instantly if he doesn't want kids.

    • No it's not that! He doesn't have children and I can't have any children. I'm 49 and he's 51 years young

    • it might be not enough friction/suction then.

  • 1. Change the position, he might be uncomfortable. Cowgirl is best.
    2. Keep moving, if your pussy is tight and you don't move for a few seconds, dick gets lose.
    3. Keep kissing or let him squeeze and suck your boobs while being fucked

    • I've tried all kinds of positions with him reverse cowgirl, doggy style, riding him, froggy style and missionary and it's always the same... I even put him in my exercise chair and he still went limp. I don't know what else to do he refuses to go to the doctor.

  • mean one solution could be dildo play. but is this a new situation or was it always like that with him? if it is recent, then it could be due to stress or too much masturbation. does he masturbate a lot?

    • He said he doesn't masturbate at all. In the beginning he stayed hard... but he doesn't last long at all! He said it because of the long hours that he works on his job.

    • Well there you go. It's stress. That's a fairly common reason for male failure to perform. It's not erectile dysfunction or him not being attracted. If the stress is over and it still persists as a problem, I'd have him see a doctor. For now, the best thing is to find a way he can unwind from the stress. This can be done through meditation and other means.

  • Have you tried milking him with your muscles when he is in you? that usually helps, but takes some practice on the gal's part.

    • No I haven't tried that but I will thank you!!

  • Just talk about him and mat be it's in his head or may be he has a low libido. Just talk him well about this situation.

    • I'll do my best hopefully this situation will get better

    • I hope everything goes well 😊

    • Thank you! Me too!

  • Maybe performance anxiety

    • Could be!

  • https://www.forhims.com/blog/why-do-i-get-soft
    I googled "reasons why you might go limp during sex". This is what popped up first

    • Thank you I'll check it out

  • You shouldn't address anything. He needs to seek a physician for help

    • Thank you! I kept thinking it was me but I never said anything. He is the first man to ever do that with me.

  • It happens to me when I'm in a position that hurts my back or if I'm in a bad mind set

    • I understand that! But at least it's not happening to you all the time.👍🏾 Like it's happening to him

  • Without condom? He afraid of getting you pregnant?

    • We don't use condom and I can't have children!

    • ok then.

  • Sounds like ED

    • I've been having the same problem if I'm honest and I'm only 28

    • Sorry to hear that! But your such a young man!!

    • Yeah I've got a very good girlfriend though, I'm going to the doctor whenever I can to find out what it could be

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  • How old are you and him?

    • I'm 49 years young and he's 51 years young.

    • İs he had erection problem before?

    • Yes! It's not the first time it's happened.

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  • talk to him maybe he should see a doctor see if something is going on

  • give him viagra

  • You're almost 50 and you still have a high sex drive?

    • Yes! My sex drive is very high... wine is not the only thing that gets better with age😁

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