Why has sex digressed from it’s natural and primal purpose of a man seeding and inseminating the woman he loves?

Society nowadays seems to make sex more about a violent or shocking act. The more disgusting, involving fecal matter, pain, and otherwise unnatural non-arousing factors seems to be more what arouses a lot of younger people.

What caused the screw in the head to go loose? Where is the disconnect with how we are naturally supposed to be programmed and hardwired? Where did society go wrong that sex went away from the most primal and loving act possible between a man and a woman?

When I think of sex, I think of a very romantic atmosphere, where a man and a woman already have a foundation of deeply loving and adoring one another. I think of an evening of talking to the girl I love for hours, laughing together, joking together, and finally cuddling next to each other, hand-in-hand, loving touch, hugging, soothing and warm hands rubbing one another’s back and body, pushing and rubbing up against each other, faster respirations and heartbeat throughout making out to the point where you can no longer resist each other. I think of the moment when the clothes finally come off because you can’t stand being away from each other for another second. Where the love is so deep that both bodies can no longer resist becoming one flesh together. Where you both need each other like the desert needs water. When all is said and done, the ultimate connection and imprint has been made where the substance of my body has seeded and permeated her body as the ultimate manifestation of love. I think of insemination as the love literally spilling over into the girl I so deeply adore.

So naturally I wonder why this is no longer as craved in this day and age? Why would a man or woman forgo that most natural and primal loving set of emotions and physical actions in place of something that seems unloving, uncaring, devoid of emotion, and disgusting? Aka just mechanical and not even anatomically correct? What happened to the desire to even want to procreate?

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  • I agree 100% actually never would believe a man would even describe it as you have. I was so turned off by piss play, but at one point it made some sense.

    Fecal matter is never for me.. I suppose it’s playing into desires or seeing each other vulnerable and such? 🤷‍♀️

    Either way, it’s complexing in the realm of sex. Just too complicated.

    Sometimes original penetration and presence is enough.


    Anyways that’s why I stopped trying because there’s just too much. All the twerking/foreplay/ belly dancing. It’s just all high performance and nothing natural or vining/having that chemistry.

    I really never was a fan of oral or anal. Those seemed like the two steps into the craziness. It’s alright to try, but all of it just spirals into madness and the craziest part is that guys and girls could do all of that and still not have any feelings of love for one another..

    Crazy…

    • Bingo! I love your thoughts on the matter. Its nice to have someone understand where i’m coming from. I love the pure and romantic love making. Sex is already a highly emotion charged activity, it’s important to focus the mental energy on it being a positive and loving experience. 🥰

  • The screws went loose with the younger generation cuz we all started watching porn at like 8 years old. Really messes with the brain and makes it difficult to have a happy loving relationship when we seen rough anal sex before we even learned about love or romance.

    • I love your response. You are spot on my friend. And I give you kudos for being willing to realize that and help people understand.

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  • That is just the way the world is going. The Romans had their orgies and look where they ended up. Same with Sodom and Gomorrah. All you can do is make sure you don't fall in with the rest of the degenerates.

  • You are talking about relationships and romance. And I don't know what era or culture you are referring to.

    Throughout much of history, women were treated with disrespect. They still are to a great extent.

    Personally, I celebrate women's independence and their ability to engage in sex without fear of pregnancy if they choose. And there is no law, natural or otherwise, that says a woman's only value is to produce babies for some guy. Some people love sex but don't want to have children. There's nothing wrong with that.

    I don't endorse the attitude of using women like pleasure units and to satisfy strange kinks and their expense. I hate the idea of degradation. I always preferred being in exclusive relationships and treating women with honor and respect. I love tenderness and commitment. But even those kinds of relationships don't require sex to always be tender and lovey dovey. It doesn't always require long sessions of foreplay. Sometimes it can be urgent and energetic. Sex can be fun. What you described are your own personal thoughts about sexual intimacy. But not all men and women are the same. For example, there are women who long to be ravished and plundered. It's a common fantasy.

    So I think sex should be enjoyable for both parties. And people enjoy different things. And the sole purpose of sex certainly isn't to produce babies. Who wants to go back to the good ol' days when a poor women popped out a baby every year for 12 years? And who wants to rely on abstinence to keep fro getting pregnant?

    • I’m not suggesting that a woman’s value is solely having babies. Or that sex is only good for making babies. But as a matter of practice, there is a primal side to it in which nature pushes us to want sex for the purpose of procreation. It should still be a strong urge and causes desire because our bodies want to procreate. But unfortunately in today’s world, there is so many alternative forms of sex which are not even technically sexual in nature because they don’t inerface the genitalia of both or utilize the sexual organs in the correct way. What concerns me is that unnatural ways are becoming more of the preferred methodology of sex which goes against our very nature as human beings. On top of that, people seem to want sex to be devoid of feelings, replaced by anger and violence. Objectification and dehumanization seem to rule the day. That goes against our very mental hardwiring. I’m just trying to bring about awareness and understand why that is becoming more of the preferred methodology.

    • Do think that oral sex is unnatural? I have to say that anal sex seems bizarre to me, but it was never uncommon throughout history. I think a lot of sex throughout history was about lust, not always feelings. I don't know that anger and violence are on the rise unless we are talking about rape, pedophilia, or guys who have zero respect for women. If there are more angry violent guys, they may be influenced by the availability of certain kinds of porn and/or websites that promote bitterness toward women due to feminism or some such crap. There are plenty of guys here on GAG who fit that latter category. But, in general, there were always guys who would manipulate women into bed and then dump them once they used them. And lots of people got into relationships that eventually failed. I am in favor of relationships and personally don't believe in having to be married in order to engage in sex. But yeah, I am disgusted by disrespect, degradation and hatred toward women (and men). Only sociopaths have such attitudes.

    • I fully agree

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  • No everyone wants to procreate and not everyone can have children. Also some people have sex just for pleasure, not because they're in love.

    That being said, I think many people have mechanic sex because they want to not because they're thinking of having kids.
    Also, the world is getting more violent and nonsensical so sex couldn't be an exception.

  • the concept of love has only existed for a few thousand years and even then it still pales in comparison to the fantasy type of love we were brought up with in fairy tales

    prior to that human beings were just lusting after one another. attractive people fucked other attractive people. attractive men would spread their seed far and wide. women would only allow attractive men to impregnate them

    love only truly existed between parent and child. the two parents would just work together to preserve the children and there wasn't necessarily love between them in the same way we are brought up to believe in it

    today with the dying out of religion, core values and the shifting of the culture, we are reverting back to the old ways or rather ancient ways, no make that prehistoric ways. perhaps our caveman ancestors didn't engage in threesomes or gangbangs but the actions were definitely as wild unlike the soft gentle foreplay that is often portrayed in romance novels and movies

    this has nothing do with adult content or anything of the sort, this is how humans naturally are except we've become a lot more creative in our ways and methods for sex but our aggressive violent tendencies still exist

  • ah yes, Rome... the Prude, the Pure and Pristine


  • I don’t know. I’m in my own world. 🥹 I don’t pay attention to whatever’s going on. But for me , sex is lovely and passionate and sacred and I LOVE it. I’ve got a timid and anxious personality and my boyfriend has been sooo loving and understanding about everything. 8 years in and we are just starting to try kinkier stuff 🤩 although I don’t think others would consider it kinky. Just something other then vanilla for me lol.

    • I think that all sounds wonderful and lovely. I am very happy for you

    • @molly1997 that’s so pure! I’m curious what some of the ‘kinkier stuff’ is? If too personal, I understand :] Congrats by the way

    • @Rosexøxø like I said probably nothing others consider “kinky” lol , but we’ve been doing doggy. But that’s a deep penetration position and he has a dongaloid so has to be careful or it hurts. But I think right away we are planning on getting one of those mounted swings you put on a door

  • it is the easy access to unlimited porn on the internet. you can find every kind of porn you could imagine ( I have been told this but I don't know for sure) and steady exposure to this will warp your mind.

  • What makes you think that that is the normal. In ancient times there are lots of examples of sex for pleasure, or even religious worship. This idea of sex for procreation is a very Christian concept and very new.

    • I didn’t say that we shouldn’t have sex for pleasure. I very much believe sex is for pleasure because it is so connecting between a man and a woman. But it is also biologically driven for procreation

    • Yes but what you call " unnatural" is certainly the usual if you look at the archeological record.

  • It doesn’t help that people are jumping into sex at earlier ages over time and not waiting until marriage. Many outright fear commitment, let alone marriage. Society today is also all about tearing taboos down and trying to make them accepted as normal. LGBT, incest, and from what I’ve heard even pedophiles! It’s all wrong and disgusting.

  • Because not everyone can get prego that way

    My cousin and his wife, have tried and tried the "natural" way but, she wasn't able to, so she has to resort to AI

  • Probably because sex feels good

    • That I get. And I’m not suggesting it shouldn’t feel good. I’m wondering why some people seem to think an alternative way should feel better than the natural way in which our bodies and minds are configured for sex. Did nature somehow get something wrong?

    • Oh you mean like anal or oral? Or maybe something even more extreme? I guess it's just to experience different ways to get the same pleasure. Almost everyone masturbates which would also not serve the purpose.

  • Boredom and horniness

  • Lol The primal purpose was never to “a man seeding and inseminating the woman he loves”
    it was actually to impregnate a female to ensure the species survives. That’s it. Love wasn’t part of the equation.

    • Love is and has always been part of it. We were designed to have sex and have it enhance the deepest feeling of love for each other. Sex is indeed the greatest expression of love that can be had between a man and woman.

    • Not sure about what period of human existence you’re referring to but primal means original or primitive, and in its primal form, sex was not about love, it was about preserving the species. Cavemen didn’t have sex for love.

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  • Liberals forcing sex onto minors and the general realization that the planet is overpopulated and to follow the greenwashing having kids is bad but people still have carnal urges to fulfill

  • Why has food "digressed" from unseasoned meat and potatoes to this?

    Fried foie gras with figs
    Fried foie gras with figs

    Let me guess, you prefer the good old bland meat and potatoes, right?

    Day after day, year after year, humans are evolving and learning, discovering how to do things better, how to enhance and squeeze more enjoyment and pleasure from the human experience. But there will always be a few who see change as "digression", the throwback knuckle draggers who think it was better in the past.

    I've read a lot of your posts here and have often wondered if you were actually a prudish 70-something woman posing as a 40-something man. I do wonder.

    • “Day after day, year after year, humans are evolving and learning, discovering how to do things better.” That’s s level of arrogance that I expect from people with your argument. You really think you can do it “better” than nature? Or is it just selfishness based on a learned set of unrealistic ideas? It's interesting you accuse me of not being a 40 year old guy and yet here you are, posting as anon. That destroys credibility unlike no other!

  • In nature it was a man's primal need to sow his seed with as many females as possible, a woman's primal need was to find the strongest male possible to provide and protect her and her child

    • I would argue very much that’s still primal and natural. Polygamy has been a biblical norm for marriage for a very long time. Unfortunately today’s modern society does not understand it or they hold it in ignorance. It’s placed more on the same level of cheating and adultery, or on the other extreme it’s seen in a kinky way where people abuse it for self gratification and those involved are also abused. All of which I think is unfair to the practice when it’s actually those who abuse it that are in the wrong