Why is a woman who has not experienced sexuality not respected?

Question

I am almost 35 years old and I have never had sexual intercourse until today. I'm a virgin and these people don't respect me. When a woman or a man says how experienced he is, everyone respects him and says this is your life, but no one shows me the same respect. Everyone thinks I don't have sex because I'm sick or ugly. I've never had a boyfriend, it's my choice.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Nah man, that's cap. A girl who's a virgin especially in this raunchy, one night stand, situationship garbage young females are doing in this era only highlights, that virgin girl would be respected more by God, by society and by proper guys and men. I get turned off if a girl says she even had sex with 3 different guys. I used to be a proud feminist supporter and abortion advocate for women. But what I've realized in modern day politics and social issues is that feminism is destructive it is not the same feminism of the 1970s or 1980s it has reared its ugly head which has created self-entitled brats, femcels and feminist extremists. For abortion, if there are girls out there will to fuck Jake, Dave, Greg off Tinder and she CHOOSES not to have sex with protection, why's it only the guy's fault? She consented to have sex as well for her sexual pleasures.

If she gets pregnant with a child and has an abortion I consider that girl or woman to be a lost soul and somewhat committed an act of murder for a child that is living and breathing. Abortion isn't a joke, the doctor tears the baby's body parts limb from limb. Problem is females don't hold accountability for themselves but point men/guys as Satan's on earth. The guys and men who read this know what I am stating is truth. I won't demonize or insult a girl who's a virgin, in fact I respect a girl or woman who's a virgin. If a girl or woman can find a loving/caring guy or man to marry and she has saved her virginity she did the right thing. Regarding abortion, I understand if a woman gets raped, or she had a disease or sickness that is a different story then she needs to get it done and that's where I support abortion rights for women. But women who are reckless with their bodies and have sex, she needs to deal with repercussions for her actions.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You feel this was because of radical feminism “sex positivity” bullshit. But a woman’s body wasn’t built for promiscuity. That’s not to say I’m okay with the double standard of men being “cooler” for promiscuity then women. But this is most likely other jealous women giving you this shame. Deep down they envy you.

It is a bit rare for you to be a virgin at 34 but it’s not the end the world. I have no doubt there are men out there who would be happy to date you, sleep with you and even marry you. They would see your virginity as much more of a positive.

If you were a man though you would be much more harshly judged by women and men alike. Although society is very slowly easing up on judging male sexuality (or lack thereof) you would still face a lot more cruel judgment if you were a male virgin.

I remember there was a 23 year old girl I briefly dated at 28. I once joked “that i was virgin” (dry humor). She later said “oh you really aren’t a virgin are you? I was getting scared when you said that.” I laughed and responded with “no I lost virginity when I was 16” and then I kissed her. That was the truth.

But if the roles were reversed virtually no man would say “oh I’m scared that you are a virgin”. We would be more intrigued and even excited. We would feel like we found something special.

PBandJ_Nerd · Accepted Answer

If you don't want romantic & sexual relationships, I think that's perfectly fine. Some people like to make fun of virgins just because of their lack of experience. I know people think it's sad how I've never had a boyfriend or girlfriend either. But the only difference is that I actually want to date and have a romantic relationship, so it just makes me feel bad. But lots of people never think about the fact that there's people like you who don't desire to have a relationship of any kind (well, except family and friends).

Seinna · Accepted Answer

People always disregard, disrespect or even fear those who are different from them and live differently. The bigger the gap, the stronger those feelings get. In this case it's about your sexual life, but it could be about anything. I'm not sure why even share your intimacy with strangers, particularly if there's nothing to talk about.

MrOracle · Answer

I would guess that it's more women then men who aren't showing you respect about this. Most men aren't bothered by it at all - the ones who are would mostly be the guys who just want casual sex from you. But there's a larger group of women who won't like this because you make them and their 20 or 50 or 300 body-count look bad, and so they will proactively attack you and try to tear you down so they don't feel so bad about their own behavior. Really, you just need to consider WHO is giving you a hard time and WHY they are doing so, and you'll realize they aren't anything you should be worried about.

DishLady · Answer

Your V-card status should (1) not be anyone's business but your own and (2) not really be the topic of conversation for it to be an issue.

Whoever is making this an issue is most certainly not worth your time. Sounds like you need a chance of atmosphere.

DaveJord · Answer

Yeah, in 2024 most guys are put off by 35-year virgins. Like watch the movie 40-year-old virgin, that what is make it funny. Because basically you have no experience with having a sexual relationship.

It's like learning to read at 35, when most have been reading and writing for decades by the time they reached 35. It usually suggests that the person has an insecurity about sex, and most guys by their mid 20's have gotten over that.

TheorionMage · Answer

Is ANY organic life form or inorganic mechanism TRULY what is designed/evolved to 'BE' ... if it never FULLY fulfills its functions? Or callously, merely an assemblage of 'spare parts'?

PeachyPie93 · Answer

It is totally fine to be a virgin I guess it just gets to seem "there is something wrong with you" once you are aging up and haven't had a relationship before. People just suspect the worst because of your age.

LazerBean · Answer

That's not true. If you are not respected then it is for a different reason.

Belgie · Answer

Your body, your choice. Plenty of traditional men seeking a more traditional wife will value that. People who have a more libertine attitude to sex (like myself) won't, but that doesn't mean they get to insult you.

If someone is giving you shit for your choices, that says more about them than you.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I think it's commendable to have this outlook, but once you're 30 I think it's hard for anyone to see it like that.

You're not going to get married to a deseriable virgin at this point. So it kinda feel like you're just in denial. May or may not be true, doesn't stop it from being undeseriable and equally uncool.

And there is a type of woman who talk like this after a certain point in their lives, it's sometimes clear they're deluding themselves.

Berethor · Answer

I would gladly date a virgin, I don't want a ho, why you never had a boyfriend by the way?

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

You should learn to stand up for yourself then. You deserve respect just the same as anyone else.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Well some people can vevery childish and immature about this topic. Me personally I don't see nothing wrong with being a virgin at 35. Peoe need to understand some people are devoted Christian's and pla on saving them selfs for marriage.

BadApple69 · Answer

Everyone’s sexuality is their own business. Don’t worry what others thing.

Gent207-2 · Answer

At 35 why do you give a damn about peoples opinions? Unless they pay your bills or keep you alive, their opinion and by extension their "respect" should mean nothing

coachTanthony · Answer

Shouldn't matter what other's think... your sexuality and lack thereof is yours not the publics.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Not sure why guys who sleep around get any kind of respect, it's not like there's a competition going on and if there actually is between guys, what a sad little world. I think respect is earned and you only get respect when you behave like a respectable adult.

dustybiker2 · Answer

So find someone who does respect that. They might be harder to find but you only need one.

Wetdreamz · Answer

May I ask why you feel it necessary to explain yourself to others in the first place?

ThaMaskedMarvel · Answer

Simply put, up & down the board, if you're not doing what the in-crowd is doing, you're seen as lame to them. They usually go off of looks; stereotypes; stigmas; what they see is what (they feel) they get. They suck, but that's how it is. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

sheenagwapa · Answer

don't listen to them. our bodies are temple of the holy spirit you are doing fine. but as a hopeless romantic i wish you find your one true love

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I think sex is just a life experience you need to have before you can credibly comment on certain things. It's a perspective thing.

Having sex with someone changes things in a way that you kind of need to have had sex with someone before they really make sense.

JacobJordan · Answer

Would more than likely be women giving you shit. Men prefer women with no past. It is a good sign

sheikalana · Answer

Trust me you are respected.

David94358 · Answer

So you had sex today? Well congrats I guess.. How did it go?

bowenw · Answer

It is your choice what you do with your body. I respect that. It's sad that some people don't.

laly520 · Answer

its ur own life n choices u dont need anyone's validation  the issue that some r jerks n find it hard to show even the bare minimum of respect for others

Tim2nice · Answer

Why should you be respected for a life choice? Do you want a medal for being a virgin?

Theworldislost · Answer

Why do you care what they think? They don't have to live with the consequences one way or the other. It's highly probable that the people teasing you are upset with themselves for not waiting.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I'm also a virgin (I'm saving myself for marriage, and I don't respect people who don't do that, because they spread STDs and cause children to grow up without both parents).

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Says who?

SolitarySolace · Answer

Why should they? People don't just get respect handed to them. Men life shitty lives. Wormn live on easy mode these days go cry about it

Med_guy1978 · Answer

Very much respected in certain circles and countries. Maybe your hanging out with a crowd with different views on life?

genericname85 · Answer

because it is generally assumed that you can't attract a mate. whether it's a choice or no doesn't matter cause generally people who do not respect you for that don't you know you well enough to be able to properly judge it.

the thing about choices is that indeed you choose what you do in your life. but others choose how they think about it. that's not what you get to have a say in. what others think about your decisions is part of the consequences of your decisions that you should be aware about and that should be a factor in your decisions.

like if you decide for something most people don't like or what few people decide for, you can't expect that many people agree with your choices or that they'll be able to relate. that's just what it is.

Booklover_90 · Answer

Because we live in a society in which it’s expected that people have sex by a certain age. Anything beyond your 20s, you’re seen as “strange.” However, I don’t care what people think of me. You shouldn’t either. Societal norms are stupid.

Rangers · Answer

I don't care whether she's experienced or not

RingOfFire · Answer

All species require reproduction to ensure their survival. Reproduction is a natural and normal function. But among all species even though the majority participate in this survival necessity, there are individuals who are unable or unwilling to reproduce. The other members of the herd have a natural repulsion to this. They subconsciously have an aversion to individuals whose behavior deviates from the norm because those people are not contributing to the survival mechanism of the herd. This is normal. And it's also desirable because a certain number of the individuals who are treated with this aversion will be pressured into reproducing to be accepted by the rest of the herd. That is a product of the evolution of the survival instinct. The rest of the herd encourages reproduction in other members as a way of helping ensure that more individuals will reproduce increasing the specie's survival chances.

So the answer is that people have a natural aversion to those who are not contributing to the survival of their species. It's a product of nature and evolution and designed to pressure them into making a contribution to that survival.

Yannae · Answer

Society painting that picture for you. In fact, majority of men look up to you for that.

JHAYES317 · Answer

Why is a short man or a man with a small dick not respected? Blame social media

Iron_Man · Answer

I respect a woman if she has no sex at all that’s respected. Until she’s married

garykingg · Answer

A man would ideally want a virgin as his romantic partner and as his future wife.  So be glad that you are a virgin, it's a positive trait.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I respect you!! ✊

LiamJHayden · Answer

People can be weird. As long as you are not violating the person or property of another, what you do is your business and prerogative.

That is a long way of saying, "Their judgment is their problem." so ignore them.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

I've never heard this. I greatly respect your self control... Good for you

DextroShade · Answer

First off, men and women are not the same. Men only get respected for having a lot of sex because it is difficult for them to do so and requires them to bring value. Women can easily get sex but they those value with every new dick they take.

Second, while virgin women are ideal, it is a very bad look that you straight-up wasted your best years. That you couldn't find a single man you liked enough to be with throughout your entire 20's indicates there is something really wrong with you.

Androktasia · Answer

sex is everywhere and most people think life revolves around it. If you stick out in any way you are a weirdo when in reality sex is easy to get and you just don't follow stupid trends and have some respect for yourself which is more valuable

jahaims · Answer

Most people don't have self respect so they don't know how to respect others. They place value on the wrong things to cope with bad decisions.

Keith469 · Answer

Your body. Your choice. I respect that.

VV3ZZY123 · Answer

Actually men who have little experience aren't respected either. I get called names and most girls just ignore. It feels like...

goebenbreslau · Answer

i'm the opposite İ disrespect women who are not virgin

Marriedandavailable · Answer

If the reason for this chosen is related to your religion, sure everybody shall respect. but it is mainly related to your behavior or acting on your body or feelings, it is not an respective subject. because you could not respect yourself until now.

austinbooth · Answer

I say it’s perfectly fine

Djaay · Answer

And after what u just mentioned... you really think I respect that choice of yours? Like why !

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Maybe because you advertise.

Raaj4you · Answer

Don't worry, you'll find someone soon, keep looking.

LEGENDARY4200 · Answer

It's a double standard for sure

jack1924 · Answer

You shouldn’t care about what other people say. Take care of yourself first and fuck everyone else

elaphe · Answer

I would say that a woman is probably more respected if she is a virgin, certainly more so than a man. Also, sexuality is more than just sexual intercourse. It could include attraction, fantasies, masturbation, or a sense of your own femininity.