Why is guy mad that I didn't give him a blow job?

Question

I'm 19 and a virgin. I've been seeing this guy that's not a virgin for the past seven months. We have been fooling around recently. Last night he brought up the topic of oral sex. He asked me whether I thought about it. He then asked me if I wanted him to do it. I then asked him what he thought about giving/receiving (cause I have not done oral before ever) and he said that he was fine with it. Fast forward today, I went over to his place and we started to fool around. Before he gave me oral, I asked him TWO times if it was okay if he gave me oral and I didn't give him back. He said that it was okay. He even asked me before he went down on me, and I told him that I wasn't ready. After he went down on me, he then asked me to suck his. I said no, but started to give him a hand job so he can at least get pleasure. He instantly got mad and told me "I'm good. It's not the same pleasure" after he said that, he put on his clothes and stopped talking to me. We didn't even talk during the car ride back to my place. When I told him how I felt after, he act like it was my fault. He said that I need to be direct when I clearly asked him three times. It's been a hour since he dropped me off and he hasn't called or anything.
I regret so much. I cried. This is the first time I've engaged in activities like this. I wasted FIVE hours sneaking to his place when I could have been studying. He also pressured me to show him my vagina and I did.

DifferentKindaGuy · Accepted Answer

It sounds like he was thinking with his penis. My guess is that he was horny and frustrated, he probably thought by pleasuring you and/or teasing you he could get you to change your mind or to just let it happen in the heat of the moment.
I'm not sure if he's immature or just overeager, but it seems this guy has trouble listening and respecting you and your wishes. You should figure out if that's an issue all the time or just when you're getting physical, either way it's a problem you should deal with if you plan on continuing to see him.

Lopezz1999 · Accepted Answer

He basically felt like he deserved the oral from going down on you, similar to how nice guys feel as though they should get the girl because of the gifts that he buys her. Do not worry about this dude.

crystalclear_ · Accepted Answer

don't feel like you owe him anything. if you're not comfortable doing it, then don't do it.

Helpneeded2 · Accepted Answer

He sounds like a D bag and a jerk. Stop talking to him at all.

QueenofCups · Accepted Answer

You don't owe him a blowjob just because he went down on you.

TheCunningLinguist · Answer

I would have been grateful That you let me go down on you Simply because that is my favorite thing to do. And of course you don't trust this d-bag His attitude Is undeserving of trust.

MoeAli · Answer

You were clear enough & he is selfish for not respecting your decision

Lucky2 · Answer

He sounds too immature. You told him you were not ready. He should except that. Did he give you an organism?

OlderGuy965 · Answer

He's not being fair. He's rushing you. You were straight with him, he agreed then did an about face. He's mad because he thought you'd change your mind and say you're ready. But you didn't, and it's not your fault. Don't put this on yourself.