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Why is intimacy such a big deal in relationships?
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And I admit that the easy way for me was thinking that they were, my fiancée included, perverse and just obsessed with their desires and fetishes, but then I made up the thought that they are just expressing themselves and I'm the one who has difficulties in feeling comfortable about that stuff.
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I guess that most of judgment could be clouded by the fact that for the sex is almost always less than satisfying. Don't get me wrong, she's beautiful and I'm happy she always enjoy it and she's satisfied, but I can't help but feel like I'm getting "left out".
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21 25Intimacy both emotional and physical is incredibly important because it brings you and your partner closer together it builds the bond between you and fosters closeness, love and affection and builds stronger connection between two people. Through that journey of becoming intimate it also builds trust, allows for vulnerability among other things. Having both those kinds of intimacy fosters a close and personal relationship with your partner.
In my opinion you should foster emotional intimacy first because that builds not only trust with your partner but comfort as in being comfortable around and with them as well. After that physical intimacy can come and will be a lot easier.
And on that note physical intimacy isn't restricted to just sex, cuddling, hand holding, hugging, kissing, etc all of that and more is also physical intimacy.
I know speaking for myself through the relationships I've been in I've found that I'm the kind of person that craves emotional and physical intimacy and affection from my partner. It's important to me that I want and desire my partner mentally/emotionally and physically and that they want me in all those ways to. And that I can not only receive it but give it because I am an affectionate person I have to be compatible with my partner in that way and be with someone who's like me or it just won't work.
You put importance on your partner being satisfied but you need find out what you want or need that will allow you to be satisfied to and make your own satisfaction important to you to. But most importantly you need to communicate to your partner about this. Figure out what you need and want intimacy wise try and build that closer, personal relationship with her, talk with her, be open, vulnerable, honest about what's going on with you, don't be afraid to state that your satisfaction is important to.
Don't hold what's going on with you in because a relationship that lacks communication, openness and honestly is doomed to fail. You have to communicate what your telling us in the comments to your fiance.
Be honest with her, work together to fix what's going on, and both make the effort to grow your connection, that intimacy, etc. Pretending that nothing is wrong when something clearly is will not solve anything it'll only grow into a bigger problem down the line.
Because sex is one of these things that brings people closer. Sex and love are really entwined and many marriages fail because of unsatisfying sex life
There are different types of "intimacy", just as there as five different kinds of "love" (see my previous Take on this).
There is an "intimacy of your spirit/soul/intellect" which translates into an openness- and resulting vulnerability- of your thoughts, preferences, interpretations of life, beliefs, etc. It's a much deeper kind of real, true intimacy than simple physical lust, er, I mean sexual intimacy.
Sadly, sexual intimacy in marriage is often about fulfilling one’s lust or reaching one’s own climax instead of serving the partner's needs. Consequently, a spouse can still feel used and/or unsatisfied sexually in the marriage relationship. However, this was never God’s plan. Philippians 2:3-4 says this:
"Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others."
In sexual intimacy, as with every relationship, nothing should be done out of selfish motivation but primarily to serve the interests of the other. In sex, the husband’s goal should be his wife’s pleasure, and the wife’s goal should be her husband’s pleasure.
Ehh depends on the situation and how your both feeling about it
There are others like you in that sense, but you're the exceptions on the bell curve. It makes most people feel more deeply wanted, cared for, liked, loved, etc, etc. More often than not, it's the female who craves this more than the male. Some thing the whole thing is just a mind game anyway and helps people get by. I personally believe it is "something", but not "everything" like some women I know think it is.
without intimacy is friendship not relationship
Intimacy is the whole reason for relationships. It leads to love and procreation. Even among friends you can hug feel love for each other. It is normal.
A relationship without sex is called friendship.
You cannot have a romantic relationship without sex, since sex is absolutely the core of it. It is the entire drive and point of romance, without sex, romance would never exist as a concept.
inb4 the idiotic idealists downvote me for being real with you.
I won't downvote you, but the fact remains that I find all that focus on sex disgusting. Basically I have to shut up and lay down or do what she wants to keep her happy, it sucks. She enjoyes it and I do not.
It's not the sex that's holding you back, it's your bad association with it. Kind of like if you have really good food but someone traumatized you with the really good food so then you have to get over that trauma to enjoy the really good food again.
I do hope to manage to fix this, because the most crushing thing for me is that I always feel left out. I feel like she has sex with my body, but not with me - those are moments I really feel alone even if she's right there.
The difference between a friend and a spouse/partner is the intimacy.
It's simply disgusting that I have to give sex to keep a relationship going.
Why do you want a relationship then, instead of friends?
I'd like a relationship with someone who's not a perverse sexual maniac and freak. My ex was one, my fiancée is one, all women I frequent are perverse.
What I wouldn’t give for a perverse woman. Mine hasn’t had sex with me in almost 4 years. lol
I don't reccomend such a disgusting woman to anyone.
Don’t have sex with them , if they leave you they’re not the right one , wife material if you will.
Intimacy is the life blood of a relationship. It is a state in which two people can trust, confide and rely upon each other. It is the quality which separates us from animals.
It's to feel like one. One team, two people coming together. Doing something they'd only do for that one person they love.
It's true, some women have obsessions with their sexual desires & fetishes. But I think that the need for intimacy comes out of the love or attraction your partner has for you, and she wants to know you feel the same way about her. It's not something that you have to. Only if you feel it. But if you don't, then she'll think you don't love her, you don't want her, or that you may be cheating on her. Lack of intimacy makes a relationship fall apart.
It seems selfish otherwise.
It shows you care
I believe intimacy is a big deal cause it means that you accept them for their body. You're there for them not only for who they are and how they feel (emotionally) but also to hug them if they need comfort or to express your love. Some people aren't intimate in their relationships and that's fine, you just find someone who's alright with that though because if they're not they feel detached from you.
It’s honestly the -primary- way I feel desired by a partner. Almost everything else just feels like she finds me useful for pleasant or helpful. I want to be useful and pleasant and helpful but those things seem like bonuses and I feel used if I don’t feel WANTED just as a man, physically.
on top of that A partner who shares my turn ons, who wants me the way I want them feels almost intoxicating. Normally like 1/4 or 1/3 of my interval reality has to be hidden away. To find someone who doesn’t want me to hide those parts of myself but in fact desires that part of me makes me feel... fixed and complete and okay.
I wonder the same thing tbh. For me sex is the last thing I think about, I love someone and just sort of want to be with them. If we never had sex I could be fine with it, just cudding and making out is nice. A relationship is about other things more than intimacy, intimacy is sort of just a bonus. It's about caring for each other, wanting to share life together and being each others best friends on a more emotionally intimate level than regular friendship.
@roland77 sex has many people want it's just a power dynamic and it's disgusting.
It’s very important in a relationship for most people, it shows closeness, and physical love for someone, maybe you just don’t like it or need it but most people do