Why is intimacy such a big deal in relationships?

Why is intimacy such a big deal in relationships?
I'm trying to figure that out because I admit I really have difficulties grasping it. Maybe it's because I have had almost universally bad and painful experiences with those things (save exceptions), but as of now I can't shake off the feeling that it's just something I "have to do" to make my fiancée or my past girlfriends happy.
What about you?
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And I admit that the easy way for me was thinking that they were, my fiancée included, perverse and just obsessed with their desires and fetishes, but then I made up the thought that they are just expressing themselves and I'm the one who has difficulties in feeling comfortable about that stuff.
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I guess that most of judgment could be clouded by the fact that for the sex is almost always less than satisfying. Don't get me wrong, she's beautiful and I'm happy she always enjoy it and she's satisfied, but I can't help but feel like I'm getting "left out".
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  • Take my opinion with a grain of salt because I don't have a lot of experience being in relationships, but I think a big part of the reason people get in romantic relationships in the first place is to be close/intimate to another person (physically and emotionally).
    Maybe you guys should focus on building trust and emotional intimacy and hold off on physical intimacy until you're comfortable with it.

  • What else would be the point of the relationship?

  • If you don't like sex, then why are you so promiscuous?

    • He’s not

    • @WhiteShoulder I don't know where she got the idea lol

  • It seems you have the mindset of someone who got abused.
    If this is the case, your subconscious will always associate sex and intimacy with pain and abuse. I suggest you see a professional.