Why is it so difficult now days to find something/someone real?

[SitBackRelax]

I’m not looking for perfection but it seems like most people here and on dating websites are fly by night fakes.
All I want is a simple girl who is kind, down to earth, doesn’t cake on 10 tons of makeup, doesn’t shave/wax her pubic hair, is responsive and can hold an adult conversation, has some basic communication skills, is sweet, has self respect and isn’t into all the crazy violent and anal sexual stuff, is smart, has self confidence, isn’t entitled, wants a guy who will treat her right instead of all the abusive adolescent assholes, and above all else is a real girl wanting real love and a real relationship?

What has happened in this world that literally everyone and everything seems to be an illusion?

[Effably]

Personally I think when their genital care is part of your first stages of criteria and not just a shrug for if it ever matters that is a good moment to take a step back and rethink your own position.

Most of what you say is fine. I suspect you want all that to be quickly represented and that is hard. Really and truthfully, without being candid or beating around the bush (that is your thing!) most girls I have ever known match most (not the bush!) of what you ask for. But you would need to get to know them.

Maybe limit the list though. Having standards is good. Having lists is typically not.

[SitBackRelax]

I’m not trying to make a list so much as simply point out that almost everything I mentioned including body styles used to just be a default for almost every girl. Now it’s an exception to the extreme whereas today’s normal is contrary to literally everything I mentioned.

[Effably]

Not sure what to say. Outside of your genital care preferences having been left in the early 80s everything else is really not hard to find at all. I would have a harder time finding someone who doesn't fit your criteria. I understand being disillusionised but really, get to know some gals. Most of them fit this.

[Anonymous]

2 reasons 1. Perceived value 2. Fear

1. People erroneously talk about " high value" women and men. People seldom look at a person's actual character anymore. They look at each other as though the were reading a balance sheet to determine a person's value. If their value isn't equal or more than mine I'm not even considering them they say to themselves.

2. Fear! Neither men or women want to abandon their encampment anymore other than to pursue " what's good for them" not for them both. Generally it's based on past experience but it can be based on just tribalism as well.

[DizzyDesii]

I fit the bill except i shave/wax and you’re too old for me lol. But i totally get it. Hookup culture has ruined so much with dating. People who are already married really are the lucky ones cause its hard out here for a pimp. But no seriously, its hard to find someone who still has morals, values, similar interests/goals, low body count, and isn't into crazy kinks/fetishes. I wish you the best and success in your endeavors.

[SitBackRelax]

Thank you :)

[Aerissa_Jade]

A lot of people do not believe in marriage anymore the hook up culture is it. The risks of marriage are great.

I hope to be out of this situation and into getting married in the next year and never have to look back at what dating and all this is like ever again.

[SitBackRelax]

Amen, and all the very best to you

[es20490446e]

date in real life, and have the attitude that you are only qualifying your prospect. that you are simply seeing if they have the willingness and attitude to have a relationship.