Why is it so hard to find a woman who has the same kinks and fetishes that I have?
ADFSDF1996Editor
It’s hard to find a straight woman who shares the same kinks and fetishes with me. Most straight women either don’t have any kinks/fetishes at all or they are into the same old boring stuff like “bdsm”, “dominatrix” “submissiveness”, “rope play”, “spanking/whipping” etc. I’m not into any of that boring cheesy nonsense.
There are women who have similar kinks and fetishes but most of them are either bisexual or lesbian. It’s very rare for a 100% straight biological (double X chromosome) woman to have even just one of my kinks or fetishes.
For example, why is it so rare for a straight woman to...
be into navels
get sexually aroused by wearing certain types of clothes
watch the opposite sex wear certain types clothes
etc
Furthermore, most straight women express disgust whenever a guy opens up about his kinks and fetishes. If a guy says he likes smelling women’s farts and or playing with navels, many women will say “eww” or “that’s weird” and they’ll avoid him because they think he’s “creepy”. Is it really that hard to find a straight woman who has the same sexual interests that I have or am I missing something?
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CarpetDenimMaster
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I don’t think you’re missing anything or that it’s just you, it probably genuinely is that hard for most guys with unconventional sexual interests to find a girl that shares them, let alone a completely heterosexual cis woman. I’ve spoken on this topic before, but women just aren’t anywhere near as likely to fetishize things like that as men are.
Men have higher sex drives in the sense that they are more prone to hypersexuality and compulsive sexual behaviors, which predisposes them to to developing more unusual sexual fetishes and kinks. That’s not to say women aren’t capable of having higher sex drives or developing strange sexual interests, it’s just significantly less likely for them to do so. This is because they tend to be less interested in sex in general and usually are more interested in the intimacy associated with sexual interactions.
Sorry, bud, but if shared kinks are that important to you, you’re probably gonna be looking for a while. The good thing about most women being pretty submissive sexually though is that it’ll probably be somewhat easier to find a girl that won’t be repulsed and just wants to please you and that’s willing to do whatever it takes to satisfy your fetish/kink, even if she doesn’t get off of that fetish/kink directly. So maybe you can find some solace in that.
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ADFSDF1996
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“ The good thing about most women being pretty submissive sexually though is that it’ll probably be somewhat easier to find a girl that won’t be repulsed and just wants to please you and that’s willing to do whatever it takes to satisfy your fetish/kink, even if she doesn’t get off of that fetish/kink directly. So maybe you can find some solace in that.” That’s not good enough. The woman must at least share 1 of my interests.
CarpetDenim
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Would you rather have someone who’s a willing participant in all of your kinks despite having no personal interest in them themselves, or someone who shares only one of your kinks and is repulsed and unwilling to participate in the rest?
ADFSDF1996
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Who knows maybe she’ll still be open to the other two. If she has one fetish then chances are she’ll be understanding of the other two.
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CarpetDenim
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Not necessarily lol. I have a couple unusual fetishes but I don’t think I could ever be down for farting. Tbh it’s not even that gross, I’d just feel so defemanized and humiliated by it.
ADFSDF1996
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Well, I guess it really depends on the woman.
CarpetDenim
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Guess so.
magiusX26
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what if your fetish is an empathic 1 such as deriving pleasure from their getting pleasure from you? empathic, for those who don't know, roughly means feeling the emotions of others (often in a psychic kinda way) deriving pleasure in a non submissive way an example is she likes having her ribs tickled as she climaxes, the guy is going to town and notices she's nearing her climax. he reaches to tickle her ribs a little early for her but still increasing her enjoyment a fair amount. he then feels her increased pleasure and that gives him his climax
zolloXper 7
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I think your problem lies with the fact that you seemingly want your partner to actually have the fetish and not just indulge it because it's your fetish. In general women aren't as sexual stimulated visually by things as men. And that fart thing is definitely odd, it's a little to close to poop territory for most people I assume. Bodily functions like that is just seen as gross, like if someone wanted to lick your snot or smell your burps UGH! I think it's just one of those naturally unpleasant things.
It's also really interesting to me that your quite young, when reading your post I assumed you were in you 60's lol. If you don't mind me asking, Do you know how these particular fetishes came about?
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ADFSDF1996
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@zollo
ADFSDF1996
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@zollo I messaged you the story of how I discovered my fetishes since I feel weird talking about it out in the open.
lgopenminded
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@zollo i have some fetishes more as I get older
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zollo
+1 y
@lgopenminded? You mean you get more fetishes the older you get?
lgopenminded
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Well ill explain I got into fetishes when i was 30. But got kind of into secretly doing them
zollo
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@lgopenminded You got "into" multiple fetishes? Like what?
lgopenminded
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Ok well for starters role play and snm can you pm me
ADFSDF1996
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@lgopenminded @zollo I didn’t expect a question I posted 2 months ago to still be getting views.
lgopenminded
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Yes @zollo can you pm me ill explain my opinion and you can post what you think is apropriate
I’m a straight woman and I’m not disgusted by men’s fetishes and I want to know all of his if I’m gonna be dating him. Also I might have a thing for belly’s
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Blubby1234
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Can you explain yours more
ADFSDF1996
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I like playing with women’s navels and I like having my navel played with. I have a thing for the corduroy fabric. I like wearing corduroy pants and I also like seeing women wear corduroy pants as well. I also like smelling women’s farts. The smellier the better.
Blubby1234
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Ok. So that’s your problem
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ADFSDF1996
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What’s wrong with that?
Blubby1234
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The fart thing. That’s probably what women don’t like. It’s weird and off putting
ADFSDF1996
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I’m not actually open about any of my fetishes. I keep them to myself.
Blubby1234
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Oh. Well that’s one you should probably keep to yourself lol what do you like about it
ADFSDF1996
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I just get turned on by the smell of female flatulence “butt” only if it comes from women I consider attractive. By the way there is a woman in this site who actually is into farts as well but she I don’t think she’s active anymore.
Blubby1234
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That’s intersting. I have a really weird thing I m into sometimes too. But I’m not gonna say it right here
ADFSDF1996
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I’m guessing since most women like abs, they probably have “alvinolagnia” also known as belly fetish.
Blubby1234
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No it’s not about abs. It’s about bellys
ADFSDF1996
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Alvinolagnia usually refers to the abdominal region in general, not specifically beer bellies. But in regards to eproctophilia (fart fetish) there’s an entire community of guys on a different website who are into women’s farts.
Blubby1234
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Like I said there’s other one that I won’t get into except in pm
lgopenminded
+1 y
Can I add
sawnoGuru
+1 y
Since when is bdsm vanilla and cheesy but clothing preferences creepy? I doubt girls would object to a little dressup.
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ADFSDF1996
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It’s just that bdsm is so common that it can hardly be called kinky anymore.
sawno
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Guess I am in luck then haha. But dressing up to my knowledge is also really common especially if she likes roleplay.
ADFSDF1996
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I know latex and leather are common fetishes. But corduroy fetish is very rare.
Barry88Yoda
+1 y
In my opinion, girls don't need to share kinks, but if you have a good relationship they might be willing to give in and try new stuff quite a lot in order to please you. Just don't bother them with your kinks and fetishes from the beginning. I've only told my girlfriends about my kinks and fetishes after a few months. If you bring it slowly and don't put any pressure on them, they might want to give it a try. Especially with your fetishes, they might be a bit odd but there are definitely fetishes which are for many women way less acceptable.
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AvicennaMaster
+1 y
Well, for whatever reason you have unusual kinks and fetishes
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sensible27Guru
+1 y
How do you have so much time? Does everyone have this much time...
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ADFSDF1996
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Everyone has time for sexual activity unless they reside in a totalitarian commie country that doesn’t give them enough free time.
MackTodayGuru
+1 y
Kinks are just kinks, they don't need to be explored. All that pales in comparison to finding a woman you get along with , someone to have by your side in life. No petty sex act can compare to that. You have to take life as it is.
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Kinky_Daddy_HenryXper 4
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You're looking in the wrong places, Mate.
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monkeynuttsGuru
+1 y
Haha, my dad would always say life is just not fair son, but neither is a black man's bum, but you hear him complaining about it.
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COMMODOREIIMaster
+1 y
Thats just weird. 😕
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JuxtaposeGuru
+1 y
Fetlife dude.
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ADFSDF1996
+1 y
Already tried it, too liberal for my tastes.
RyaanRyaanRyaanXper 3
+1 y
There are many reasons
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msc545Master
+1 y
you may want to try fetlife. com - you can find women there with some *very* kinky fetishes...
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ADFSDF1996
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I tried that website but most of them have the same old vanilla fetishes.
msc545
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Talk to some of those people. I promise you that *any* fetish you have somebody there has - they just may not want to advertise it.
msc545
+1 y
The fetishes you mentioned, with the exception of navels, are fairly common.
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ADFSDF1996
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It’s true there’s usually at least one person who shares at least one of my kinks.
msc545
+1 y
So there you go. There are also two clubs in Las Vegas (when the virus leaves) called the Red Rooster, and the Green Door, that you might like.
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