Why is my boyfriend constantly sexual?

I’ve been with my boyfriend about a year. He’s younger than me by about three years, I’m 29 and he’s about 26. I’ve noticed when we meet up he is constantly talking about sex, making sexual innuendos and grabbing my butt. So for example if we are walking down the street and there is a Thai massage parlour, he will say “ooooh a happy ending”, or if we are shopping together and walk past a lingerie store, he will stop and look at the models in lingerie and say “ooooh nice, let’s get you some lingerie”. He is obsessed with buying me tight clothes like leggings and stuff and says “this will make your butt look amazing”. If we are both looking online and shopping and a picture of a model in underwear or a bikini comes up he will go “ooooooh nice”. He’s also always grabbing my butt and boobs all the time, if we are together and not even sexual he will be like “take off your bra you’ll be more comfortable”. We also have sex a lot so I don’t get why he’s fixated on it all the time and constantly making sexual innuendos around me.

Is this normal behaviour, and why does he do this?

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  • Yes it’s normal , He might be a little to aggressive about it but it’s normal , What most girls Don’t realize is intimacy and affection is very important to most men , we don’t commit to a girl to not want intimacy and affection with her , having sex with her is our way of showing her we appreciate and love and value her , it’s our way of letting her know how much we adore her and appreciate her and to be close to her , it’s when a guy doesn’t want sex with you is when you should hold up a red flag as to why all of a sudden doesn’t he want sex with me anymore? That’s usually a sign that means he is up to no good or he is drifting away from the relationship , By you giving him sex is making him feel safe and secure with you , making him feel valued by you and making him feel that you love him , If you eventually stop giving him sex and affection he might think that you are up to no good , why it’s important to never really deny your partner intimacy and affection , when you start withholding intimacy and affection from your partner you are allowing fire to enter into your relationship , your partner is going to feel like you don’t value him or appreciate him anymore and feel like you don’t love him anymore and feel like that maybe you are getting it from somewhere else , which could lead him to leaving you or cheating on you , I am not saying you have to spread your legs every time he wants sex but still make him feel valued and appreciated , don’t make it about yourself , That’s where most girls go wrong and then they wonder why their relationship failed, The fact that you aren’t with holding sex from him and the fact that you don’t mind dressing up for him makes you a great girl , making him a lucky guy having a girl like you , When you respect your partner they are going to respect you back bottom line , don’t do things that you don’t want your partner doing to you period , Meaning hiding things from each other , flirting with other men , etc when you make
    Your partner Your top priority it’s easier for them to mark you there’s , Always wear his shoes before making decisions and he will more Than likely do the same for you , it won’t always be perfect but when you treat someone the same way you want To be treated that’s where love grows for each other removing selfishness for each other is how love grows , Now if you are doing all this for him and he cheats on you, He is a piece of shit period

Most Helpful Guy

  • High sex drived 26 yo. It’s normal. All guys think it, only your boyfriend is opening up his trap as well. He could have a little tact and STFU. If you don’t like hearing it have a talk with him… age diff. Is fine but I remember being less mature at +/- 25 vs 30

Most Helpful Girls

  • Your boyfriend is in desperate need of a sex therapist. He places sex on top of his mind and his entire personality is based on sexual stuff and activities. That is totally abnormal and could be the consequence of some kind of trauma.

    Perhaps you can try to motivate him to seek the help he so desperately needs. You can join and have a couple's session where you can expose your experience and share your point of view.

    Of course, he will reject the idea because he does not see his behavior as an issue and will even state that it is totally normal to behave the way he does. No, it is definitely not normal.

    Basically, he sees every woman, old and young, as a potential sexual object. Women, to him, are nothing more than objects to satisfy his craving for sex and that is not only a total turn off but also a real and serious red flag.

    • No! YOU ARE IN NEED OF A PSYCHOTHERAPIST!

    • @TheMystic Are you the boyfriend in question?

  • You asked this very same question yesterday.

    Why is my boyfriend constantly sexual?

    REPORTED...DUPLICATE.

    • Thank you for the MHO.

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  • There is no normal. He should not go overboard with it if it bothers you. It is ok to tell him so. It is also ok to talk about sex. How often are u two having sex? Does he chill out after round 2 or 3?

  • 'All men are perverts' trope, and of you date younger man, you should match his high libido.

    • I mean and if you date younger man, you should match his high libido.

  • All of those things are normal thoughts and desires. He’s just articulating them out loud. What you describe does not sound like a guy who is too obsessed with sex. It just sounds like a guy without a filter.

  • Not normal at all. He's still acting like a horny teenager. He must have not gotten a lot as a teenager. He needs help.

  • It's normal.

  • he is moreover using u to bang

    • Yeah, that's what I think too. "Women can fake orgasms, but men can fake a relation-ship"

  • He's a sex fiend.

  • Not normal and he only see's you as an sexual object.

  • I wouldn't even know why he would hell I have never been with a lady but I wish that I could help you out with that

  • Relationship it's all about sex...
    If you removed sex than what you have to offer?

  • Has a high sex drive.

  • Do you have anything else to offer?
    What else do you bring to the table?

    Maybe he's inexperienced in relationships? Why are you with an inexperienced guy?

  • Perfectly normal. He's still a horndog and wants you all the time! 30 or more years from now you might be remembering these as happier days! Enjoy it!

  • Your boyfriend reminds me of myself (PARTIALLY), but I despise you and I despise the fact that he is still in a relation-ship with you and I despise the fact that he does not really love you. He just loves your body. Oh and hey, work on your insecurity it's really disgusting.

    And yes! this is normal behavior! it's called being a man! it's called MASCULINE ESSENCE!

  • I used to feel like that around my ex. Some woman we find very hot and we can't resist guess what happen when we are already in relationship with one of you

    • I have been in relationship with older women. One at a time. Couple of days older than me.

  • Maybe he is thinking you are not into sexual stuff like he does, probably he want more foreplay...

  • It is normal, he want to see you the way he likes, be confident, he loves you , as he has high sex drive, so he want sex more offenly

  • Sounds fairly normal for a 26 year old, but he really does need to try to tone it down and not be so sex-centered in my opinion. There is more to dating than just sex so he needs to adapt to the non-sexual side of your relationship also.

  • Either he wants sex more often than you are currently doing it, or he wants butt sex with you.

  • He is acting very immature. He needs help.

    • You are immature! YOU! NEED! HELP!

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