Why is my husband obsessed with me wearing trashy lingerie?

[Anonymous]

He's always asking me to dress slutty in the bedroom and I just don't feel comfortable doing it... why are men like this?

[monkey73]

Ok , me and my wife went through this , she felt exactly the same as you about it making you feel trashy and slutty etc. So we talked and talked , I explained how's it trashy and slutty when it's in our own house in private etc etc 2 people that are married and commited. In the end she found a sexy basque that she was willing to wear for me. Let's just say once she'd got over that first hurdle she it made her feel a lot sexier in her self. she now buys stuff herself and surprises me and it's not just our sex life that has improved our whole relationship is better. Just give it a go once and if you are still not comfortable fine.

[monkey73]

And by the way my wife is plus size and she's damn sexy with it.

[AustinMan]

Let me try to help. I too am a guy whose taste runs to the trashy side of classy when it comes to lingerie but first, why are you uncomfortable wearing it? I want to help but I need some idea on the why first.

[Asker]

To put it simply, because I'm fat.

[tinyclit]

They do have plus size lingerie, but it probably won't fit either. I'm petite and skinny and none of it fits me. It seems you have to be tall and skinny for lingerie to fit.

[Asker]

@tinyclit I'm not fat enough to need plus size lingerie.

[0112358]

@tinyclit I've dated enough tall skinny women to know much of it doesn't fit them well either lol

[AustinMan]

If you don't need plus size lingerie, then you're very clearly NOT fat. You just think you are. Maybe a little therapy to work on your self esteem would get you more in line with the truth about your body. He clearly really enjoys seeing you. Maybe if you can let go of that feeling and find some that you both like, you'll find his reaction to be worth the trouble.

[Asker]

Well. I recently gained a lot of weight. It's just hard.

[AustinMan]

I understand. Help feel better about yourself: eat better and get in the gym. Simple theory: move more, eat less. Easy to say, hard to do, I know.

[Asker]

Well it's health related so it's even more difficult. I'm on a treatment plan now though. But it's still a process.

[AustinMan]

I'm sorry you're ill but in the meantime, might I suggest that you give yourself the benefit of the doubt? Go to Frederick's/Victoria's Secret. Find some TLNs that you feel as okay as possible in and let him show you how much he craves seeing, touching and having you. I'm curious: is he dominant sexually?

[Asker]

Yes, very

[AustinMan]

Do you enjoy submitting to him? How: physically, emotionally, both?

[Asker]

Both! Definitely.

[AustinMan]

Then submit, sweet wench. Wear what your Master requires and trust in him to make you feel like the sweet slut you are. Doesn't that sound like fun? By the way, wench and slut are terms of endearment in my vocabulary, just in case that wasn't clear.

[Asker]

Hahaha. I don't take offense to either term. :) it does sound fun but it's still hard to get over insecurities!!

[AustinMan]

Get him hard and he'll help you. It's pretty hard to be insecure when he's devouring your body in terminal lust because his slutty little baby just strutted in wearing a trashy little nothing and stiletto pumps, no? How in secure are you when he's forcefully and masterfully holding you down and fucking your brains out?

[Asker]

Well, to be honest we haven't been having that much sex lately because of my health, he's been very supportive but I'm sure he's getting frustrated. I miss sex with him to be honest.

[AustinMan]

When will your health permit sex again?

[Asker]

Yes. It hasn't effected my sexual health at all.

[AustinMan]

Then get that sweet ass in gear, find a TLN and stiletto pumps, strut your stuff, and give your man what he needs while getting what you need. It seems to me that this is an excellent place for implementing the fake til you make it paradigm, don't you think?

[Asker]

I'm shopping for lingerie as we speak 😉

[AustinMan]

Excellent. I know you're self conscious but I've always been a fan of super push up bras and micro G-strings (that barely cover the cleft) with her waxed bare, front and back. The sexiest thing any woman can wear are a pair of classic stiletto pumps with 4+" heels and closed pointed toes. As the vamp Mae West, no lightweight herself, once said, "A woman in red stiletto pumps can make a man bark." Woof woof!!

[tinyclit]

What's wrong with wearing lingerie in the bedroom? The only problem I have with it is that most doesn't fit. One size fits all never fits. Underwire bras, G-strings and butt floss are not comfortable. Other than that, lingerie is sexy. If you don't like lingerie, then maybe try doing some body writing instead. Just don't use permanent markers. :)

[Fitness-Fanatic]

He must find you sexy in the lingerie you buy, coz it turns him on.

It spices up the sex life. It's important to experiment and please each other sexually. Obviously if you don't really want to do it then you should talk to him , and come to some sort of compromise.

[Paris13]

Spice of Life with Loving you so Much that with Finding you Sexy Here, Dear... He wants to Enjoy the Excitement in the Boudoir of Putting you into Something more Special to Keep Things Growing and Rowing.
Good Luck and Great Going. Keep the Fires Flowing. xx

[Anonymous]

you need to work on being comfortable in your own skin and owning your sexuality, he thinks you are gorgeous and sexy and is being a typical visually driven male, there is nothing dirty or wrong with it especially when you are married

[Opinion Owner]

he doesn't care that you are fat or thin or have cellulite or stretch marks he loves you for you, you have to love yourself, how fit or good looking is he?

[Asker]

He's very in shape. He works out 5 days a week and watches what he eats like his life depends on it.

[Opinion Owner]

would you say he is the better looking one of the relationship? or are you prettier than he is?

[Asker]

Um. I don't really know. I think our attractiveness is pretty even. However recently I've had health issues that have caused me to gain weight

[Opinion Owner]

oh I'm very sorry to hear that, is there anything you can do to help it?

[Asker]

I'm working on it. But it's going to be a process.

[Opinion Owner]

well communicate with your husband that you are working towards making your body better and let him know you don't feel good about yourself but don't deny him the pleasure he clearly gets form seeing you that way even if you don't like yourself he does

[michelle3685]

I revs him up! What's wrong with that? Seeing you in lingerie obviously turns him on, so take it as a compliment-he finds you sexy! Enjoy it!

[madhatters4]

probably because it's revealing. probably because it turns him on. probably because he wants to sort of see you as being naughty in the bedroom

but what do you mean by trashy lingerie?

[JimRSmith]

Why don't you ask him? You're the one who's married to him.

[JessieH]

I'm not exactly sure your definition of trashy but I love dressing up in lingerie. Makes me feel sexy and foreplay is much better!! Just wish it wasn't so expensive 😡

[BeautifulPromisesx]

So be his personal slut and have fun with it

[Bandit74]

It isn't trashy if it's in private.

[KatherineJ]

Because men are visual

[guyinalton]

I would assume that is what pushes his buttons. but like he said before me you should talk about it. I have to wonder why you feel trashy in your own bedroom and in privacy with him.

[JSmuve]

Because guys like to fuck hot, promiscuous sluts. The better question is why do you feel uncomfortable doing this for your husband?

[Asker]

Well. Recently I've gained weight. A lot of weight.

[JSmuve]

Womp womp. That'll do it.

[Asker]

Yeah. He doesn't seem to mind. But I definitely do

[WriterAndPainter]

It's just a fantasy-based thing. If you're not comfortable with it if you have an express it to him too. It's just a temporary thing and usually the stuff comes off anyways.

[NiceGurl]

He finds it hot. What's the big deal

[blondfrog]

Becuase it gives me a boner.

[NukeCanada]

We need more information. How does he treat you outside of the bedroom?

[LastNightmare]

It's your men. you married him. you could have told him earlier. it's the thing and you gonna deal with it by communication.

[Blitzkrieger]

Thats pretty hot though.

[MrExtremely2Kinky]

Probably because he he is a yo big man.. he isn't a grandpa.. you should do it if he wants it or he may resort to sneaking around with s girl who will. You should always want to please ur partner.

[Glen68]

I prefer the naked look

[masterkamasutra]

he want some live porn.

[Anonymous]

It's not like you're going out or anybody else is going to see you wearing that

[Anonymous]

It's a way for a woman to show that she isn't just putting up with a man's sexual attention. She -wants- it and enjoys his lust. She wants him aroused. That alone is very exciting and makes us also feel very accepted and desired.

As for it being trashy? I do like trashy stuff too. I find it hotter. Not in a way like 'she's not hot so she needs lingerie'. The lingerie highlights and presents you. But trashier aside from seeing hotter is by virtue of being more explicitly sex driven - a stronger sign to me she wants me sexually.