Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Why is the fun over once he cums?
Kay-C Xper 3
I like playing. The other night, I massaged and teased and he massaged. When he worked his way to getting ready to fuck me I resisted a little adding to the fun. He played along and it was fun and a turn on. Then when I let him in he came quickly and that was it. No more trying from him. He would have went round 2 but it would have been me on top trying to get off quickly to meet an objective. Its become a rut we are in. When I asked why he doesn't play or pursue trying to fuck me after round 1 he said it's just biology. Is this true guys?
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He cums for a 2nd time typically. It's not the refractory period. It's about being playful and having fun before he gets hard again.
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9 33Mam beautiful I have to say that I would not to even talk about that I am new to that I am still a virgin and new so I don't have any clue but I would like to talk about it and learn about it but I am very shy and nervous to talk about all of this
Are you from India?
No I am not I am from the USA north Carolina
So you are a 35 year old virgin who lived in the US. How is that possible?
Well I I am and I hope you you are not the type that laugh and make fun of virgin guys like me and you hope that you are different than most ladies
I'm not at all judgmental. I'm just surprised. I do know someone who is still a Virgin and moved to the states recently. He is from India which is why I asked. That and your spelling and punctuation need work. 😉
Well done you the that is all bad thing because I am a virgin and new to ever thing. I mean my age is kinda old but age is not everyone thing Mam I hope that you are not the make fun of me because I am a virgin and I y never even masterbation before and I hope you don't laugh at me because of that
depend of the mens
@swettannie you nailed it.
He said it’s just biology 🤣 It’s sort of true but he should at least follow through and get you off after you got him off - it’s only fair.
Because the real fun died after foreplay. There was foreplay right?
I am different than most I can come and I can still keep going having sex
He is selfish and self-centered, it is all about him and his pleasure, not yours. You need someone who thinks it is all about your pleasure and will not take no for an answer until you orgasm more than once.
Isn't ovieousle once he's done his little friend goes to sleep and he is also tired dont forget he's doing 90% of the work and we are not robots or the energizer bunny
Yes, for some guys, they cum once and are done. I am Hyperspermia so I usually cum 4-5 times, all big loads. Girls love it.
Two things might be at play here. One, he's selfish, and once he's done, he don't care. Or two, once he was done, he was too tired to do more.
If he's selfish, then you have decisions to make. If he's tired, then improved diet, health and fitness will help.
I'm afraid to say that is me, I exert so much energy into the one Climax, I am wasted afterward. Some guys have more stamina and can go and go again a few minutes later. Me, it might be the next morning.
Not always
one round is out dated now.
Cause he's young
Most males (biologically) lose the buzz the second they cum.
Some guys can force themselves to keep going but it isn’t “fun” we do it to give the girl a bit more of a thrill.
I used have a real premature ejaculation problem with my first girlfriend. We had both been virgins. She was so pretty, short, fat ass and had giant tits that were too big for skinny little body. I would cum sometimes before I even penetrated her, we didn't do foreplay and I was kinda embarrassed by the whole thing. So one time she decided she wanted to try something, she had me hold her while she rubbed her wet unsatisfied sperm covered pussy to orgasm and I got hard again as its a big turn on for most guys to see a girl masturbating herself to orgasm, I lasted longer 2nd time around. We started experimenting more with different postions, oral sex, clit rubbing, mutual masturbation, toys etc and most importantly communicating with each other. It made me a better lover though the only way she was ever able to cum was if she masturbated herself rubbing her clit to finish her off, I hooked up with her a while back and it was still the same for her.
It’s not necessarily unless you gotta wake up early or something but normally they get hard and go again.
It's not about getting hard. Refractory period = "physiologically unable to be erect, psychologically disinterested in sex, or both." She even wrote that she was on top, that means there was action, and hardness had to be there.
@Dіldophobe maybe it depends on the guy but the ones I have been with find got hard for more straight away as long as you keep kissing or touching each other.
Gotta get him hard again, then he will last longer and satisfy you.
She has to be something special. It's possible but while there's refractory period after the first time the drive just simply as strong as before. In other words you want more, you're going to have to earn it. Don't want to do that then just leave him alone. But if you do you can make a game of that. If a guy is turned on he can go multiple times. Just understand there is refractory period... dude's got to reload.😆😆😆