Why men are so double standards? Why they call me slut but masturbate secretly by looking at me?

Men call me slut but secretly watch my photos, masturbate to it.

Criticize me for my clothes but keep staring at my breasts and my legs

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  • When fire consumes wood we call the fire hot, not the wood. The concept of a double standard doesn't make sense in a predator-prey relationship and that's how a lot of men interpret the game of obtaining sex. But because of that men are prone to a lot of insecurities when it comes to failing to catch their prey. So when they see your sexy pics and do thieir best to lure you into their bed by upvoting or clicking the like button or posting a lewd comment, and that fails, they desperately want that to be your fault, not theirs. And they've been doing this for so many sexy pictures that now they just skip to the part where they blame you for not responding to their clear desire to have you by calling you a slut, hoping that makes you feel bad. Because if you feel bad then you feel the way you should feel when it is your fault, and so therefore it is your fault. It's childish but it helps them feel like they aren't failures without requiring them to actually succeed at anything.

    That's not to suggest you're completely innocent in all this, of course. There is certianly an element of art to creating "sexy pics" but there is also an element of sex. You have to be completely naive if you aren't aware that you are making some men want to fuck you knowing full well that you aren't going to fuck them, and i dont think anyone is that naive including you. However, the vast majority of men are fine with the mutual understanding that it's just fantasy, you get some attention and validation, which costs them nothing but real time they don't have to form future obligations over, and they get to feel like a hot girl participated a tiny bit in their ejaculation.

    But some men don't see why they can't just have it all if you have already agreed to participate a little bit. If you have already established an agreement to exchange time with no future obligations for a tiny fraction of your sexual attention, why can't they have your full sexual attention in exchange for the same time with no future obligations? Such men are usually called narcissists and they don't understand that they should have a moral opposition to themselves cheating other people in a transaction. So no matter what exchange is agreed to they will try to push it further in their own favor. Which isn't even unwise in general but narcissists think only of themselves and so are not concerned about the terms of a transaction becoming unfair to the person they are negotiating with. Thus, it is inevitable that a narcissist would eventually conclude that you should definitely jump wet on their dick in exchange for their upvote or like or lewd comment. And when you don't they have whole lucrative media empires whose business models are built around taking advantage of mens narcissism standing by to explain why that's your fault. Calling you a "slut" isn't a double standard so much as an attempt to push abuse into a keyboard so that it punishes you for all the grievances they have been consuming.

    They could just stop consuming those grievances, of course, but again the media that pushes them into their heads does so with a model that narcissists can't resist. They would have to stop being narcissists. But narcissism is ultimately a defensive mechanism, protecting a person from thoughts of their own failures. To ask someone to stop being a narcissist is to ask them to voluntarily lower those defenses. No one does that quickly and certianly not en mass. And even if you didn't post sexy pics you'd still have to deal with it somehow as narcissists aren't going anywhere. So, I guess it's just life and we could give some thought to practical ways to improve, but no one is willing to agree to the time obligation it would take to do that.

Most Helpful Guy

  • It is not fair or acceptable for anyone to call someone else a derogatory name like "slut." This type of behavior is disrespectful and perpetuates harmful gender stereotypes. It is important to remember that women are entitled to make their own choices regarding their bodies and sexuality, and should not be shamed or judged for it.

    As for the issue of men secretly masturbating to images of someone they may know, it is important to respect people's privacy and boundaries. Masturbation is a normal and healthy sexual behavior, but it should never be done without the consent of the person being objectified or without respecting their boundaries. It is important for men (and all individuals) to understand and respect the concept of consent, and to treat others with respect and dignity.

    It is important to remember that people should not be shamed or judged for their clothing choices or their bodies. It is important for individuals to have autonomy over their own bodies and to be able to express themselves in a way that makes them feel comfortable and confident.

    It is also important to recognize and address the issue of objectification and sexual harassment. No one should be made to feel uncomfortable or unsafe due to unwanted attention or sexual behavior. It is important for society as a whole to work towards creating a culture of respect and consent, where everyone's boundaries and autonomy are honored and respected.

    Also, It is not accurate to generalize that all men are double standards, as individuals hold their own beliefs and values that shape their behaviors and attitudes. However, it is true that double standards exist in various aspects of society, including gender roles and expectations.

    Historically, men have generally held more power and privilege in society, which has contributed to the perpetuation of double standards. For example, men may be praised for assertiveness and confidence, while women are judged for the same behavior and labeled as "bossy" or "aggressive." Similarly, women are often held to stricter standards regarding their appearance and behavior than men, which can contribute to inequality and discrimination.

    It is important to recognize and challenge these double standards in order to create a more equitable and just society. This can be done through education and awareness-raising, as well as by actively working to promote equality and respect in all aspects of life.

Most Helpful Girl

  • IT's not double standard, just because they masturbate to you, it doesn't mean you're not a slut :D And you can wear inappropriate clothes and still have nice breasts and legs. And if you showing them off, how is it double standard to look at them? I don't understand your logic. Well, apart from the "anything for attention and likes"

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  • Because people are irrational. Some guys in particular have no sense of romance and are only after sex. Which I find really sad. Therefore they don’t think about the optics of it and are perfectly willing to be rude in exchange for sexual gratification.


    That being said. There are definitely a lot of guys out there that aren’t like that, and value love and the romance of a relationship more than the sex. And will communicate honestly and transparently.


    Everyone is different. But overall people and relationships (even friendships) are complicated and not straightforward at all. There is so much grey area and it’s not black and white at all.

  • I think you are flattering yourself a bit too much!

  • Take it as a complement

    • The guys masturbating over her?

    • @jjj101010 yes! She’s obviously good to look at

    • Very true, do u take it as a compliment

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  • any proof of this happening and any proof these are the same guys or they just different guys who are saying different things?

  • How do we go about getting these photos

  • It is called being two-faced, say one thing and do another behind your back. They sound trashy.

  • Well. Nice to hate all men. No not all men are like that and women can have double standards too.

  • Are you sending pictures of yourself either nude or in revealing clothes?

  • Meh, they're just projecting. But you're not doing yourself favours by putting yourself out there for them.

  • Cause some people are stupid, what can I say

  • You know that will not change in the next SEVERAL lifetimes, or MAYBE until the human race is extinct. Just know it is there, and learn to ignore it and live with it.

  • Men don't mind having sex with sluts. Turns out they're pretty fun! They just won't wife then up.

  • Because reality is an unexplainable riddle.

  • I wouldn't call you a slut or mastrubate secretly. You are gorgeous, curves like Eve herself.

  • That's not men, that's horny boys that have not grown up mentality. And when they can't get you they trow a hissy fit like a baby and call you a slutt.

  • You said it. It is double-standards.

  • And how do you know that.

  • I don't masturbate to your photos, cause I don't like the vibe :P

  • That's not the definition of double standards. Guys can think you're a slut and jerk off to you because i guess they're into sluts maybe.

    You get what you put out in the ether. If you dress like or act a certain way, if that's all you present then you will get a cetain energy in return.

    General rule in life, stop caring about what other people not in your life think about you. It's wasted energy and time.

  • Here what I say. Men like and want sluts. We also want good girls. My solution in the loyal slut. I love my girl cause she good and I can take her anywhere and I know she 100% loyal to me and tbh I also like thay she has a low body count even tho that's shallow. But I aslo want a slut and she scratches that itch. I can ask her ans she dress slutty for a date, be extra freaky in bed whatever. So men what a slut but a girl who they can trust to be only slutty for them. Hope this makes some sense

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